Breaking Bad Patterns

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• People love patterns. We look for them everywhere
  and try to use them as guides in life. Sometimes,
  this is greata pattern of looking both ways
  before you walk across the street or start to
  drive forward at a fresh green light keeps you
  safer. But everyone can think of a bad pattern
  theyve had too.
• Relationships in Bad Habits
• A lot of our bad patterns are interrelated in
  some way. I realized this more clearly recently
  when I went into my Instagram messages for their
  regular cleanup.
• I get a good number of DMs because of my social
  media presence. Every now and then, I dive in and
  clear it all outits mostly junk and
  solicitations. This time, however, I got two from
  people looking for advice that interested me.
• One was trying to study more regularly, learn
  more, and get better grades. The other was
  struggling in love and wanted advicespecifically,
  on why they loved people who didnt love them
  back.
• These seem incredibly different, right? But the
  longer I thought about solutions, the more I
  realized how much they have in common. The
  problems with bad studies are the same we run
  into with bad relationshipspatterns of behavior.
• Connections between Studying, Relationships,
  Long-term Plans
• When you need to achieve something lasting, you
  want to find a manageable way to make progress on
  it. You have to put together the right habits and
  breaking bad patterns is even more critical.
  School and relationships are both long-term goals.

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• School is the definition of project-based
  achievements. The calendar is already broken up
  for youfrom due dates to coursework, theres an
  incredibly specific roadmap to success. Meeting
  these deadlines, however, requires focus,
  discipline, and sacrifice. Good study habits
  require you to be honest with yourself about how
  much time you spend working.
• We dont tend to think of habits when thinking
  about relationshipsbut we absolutely should!
  Because you want to have long-lasting,
  supportive, and healthy romantic relationships.
  Take them as seriously as any other project.
  Examine where things are going wrong and try to
  correct them.  Stay accountable to your partner
  in what youre feeling and how youre
  communicating.
• Not to say that a relationship should always feel
  like worka lot of love should feel easy. Growth
  is borne out of a desire to make your partners
  life better, not a sense of obligation. But even
  here, good habits make all the difference.
• Know What Yours Are
• You cant start breaking bad patterns if you
  cant figure out what they are. The premise of my
  productivity guide is first and foremost finding
  whats going to work for you. There are lots of
  tips for a reason. Some of them wont get you as
  far as you thought and some might not help you at
  all. The variety gives you choices for different
  times. Experiment and find your answers.
• There are a lot of factors in putting together
  new patterns and leaving bad ones behind. Its
  hard work. But anything worth doing is.
• Source http//possessyoursuccess.com/breaking-bad
  -patterns/