Understanding the wifes role in CP

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• Understanding the wifes role in CP
• Boundaries between home life church life
• Lace of emotional/spiritual support from local
  churches
• Effect of church plant on family
• Personal finances
• Overwhelmed with needs/responsibilities
• Criticism/Rejection from individuals
• Time management/priorities
• Loneliness/Isolation
• Lack of time with husband

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1. Personal finances 2. Overwhelmed with
needs/responsibilities 3. Time management/prioriti
es 4. Boundaries between home life and
church life
Her Response
5. Lack of time with husband 6. Effect of church
plant on family 7. Loneliness/isolation 8. Lack
of emotional/spiritual support from local
churches 9. Criticism/rejection from
individuals 10. Understanding your role as the
wife of a church planter here.
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1. Personal finances 2. Boundaries between home
life and church life 3. Overwhelmed with
needs/responsibilities 4.Loneliness/Isolation
His Response
5. Lack of time with her husband 6. Understanding
her role as the wife of a church planter 7.
Effect of church plant on family 8. Time
management/Priorities 9. Lack of
emotional/spiritual support from local
churches 10. Criticism/Rejection from individuals
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Finances
I really expected more support emotionally,
spiritually, and financially from the leadership
of the (sponsoring) church. We also had others
promise financial support and then not come
through for us. - CP Wife
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Finances
Over half of church planter wives work outside
the home.
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Finances
Finances play a huge role in the decision for a
church planter wife to work outside of the home.
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Boundaries
Please be aware of allowing the church to become
the other woman in your marriage. Yes, it is
important to be there for the families in your
church, but dont allow their problems and their
sin to keep you away from your family. - CP Wife
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Boundaries
It is not uncommon for the church planter wife to
have to take on responsibilities that may be out
of her giftedness and/or comfort zone.
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Personal Care
It is easy as a church planters wife to assume
that your husband is going to meet your spiritual
needs, and they cant always do that. God
reminded me, You are responsible for yourself,
so I joined a womens Bible Study at another
church. That was a really great thing for me.
Before that I had gotten to a point where I felt
like I was in a drought spiritually. I told my
husband that we couldnt start a church with me
like this. - CP Wife
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Personal Care (Spiritual, Emotional, Physical)
CP wives conveyed the importance of having a
mentor, being a part of a small group, having
close friends to whom they can confide, and being
a part of a network.
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Personal Care (Spiritual, Emotional, Physical)
In spite of the need and biblical mandate for
times of rest and relaxation, many church
planters and their families dont do this on a
regular basis.
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Marriage Family
The majority of church planter wives believe
church planting has placed stress on their
marriage and family.
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Marriage Family
The majority of church planter wives believe
church planting has placed stress on their
marriage and family.
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Marriage Family
My relationship with my husband has been the
most challenged through this. He is needed by
everyone, where before he was there for me
anytime I needed him. - CP Wife
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Marriage Family
Church Planter Wives believe that church planting
has a positive effect on their children.
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Criticism
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Criticism
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Criticism
This has been really tough. Three families quit
coming and I took it very personally. - CP Wife
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Calling
It is important for the wife to feel called to
plant the church, just as her husband is called.
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Calling
I think the wife of a church planter should also
be a church planter, meaning, she needs to be
just as committed to the project as her husband
is. Her role will be very different from his, but
if she doesnt really want to be there, the whole
family will be miserable. - CP Wife
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Training Preparation
I simply did not know how stressful it would be
- mentally, emotionally, physically, and
financially. A conference where people who have
been there and get real about the experience
would have helped. - CP Wife
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Training Preparation
Less than 60 of our participants felt that they
were prepared for the realities of church
planting and the impact it would have upon their
marriage and family.
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Overall
In spite of the struggles, challenges, and
sacrifices identified by church planter wives,
they gave an overwhelming positive response to
church planting.
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