Different Is Good

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Different Is Good!
Developing your appreciation of other
people for their value to you because of
how different they are from you.
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In the recent past, experts thought that
fertilization occurred when enzymes in the head
of each sperm, acting like dynamite, blasted
through the outer shell of the egg so that the
sperm could lodge inside.
Today we understand that each egg SELECTS the
sperm it mates with, making the first irrevocable
decision in one's life. Indeed, rather than
passively participating in this drama, the egg
opens its shell and literally embraces the sperm
it feels attracted to. Pre-Parenting Nurturing
Your Child from Conception by Thomas R, M.D.
Verny, Pamela Weintraub
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12 Types of Personalities
Astrology Sun Signs
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12 Types of Personalities
Chinese Astrology
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The 5 Love Languages

• How many times do we hear about people not
  feeling loved by their partner, much to the
  partners surprise and frustration?
  
• According to Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The
  Five Love Languages How to Express Heartfelt
  Commitment to Your Mate it is often the case
  that love is there and being expressed, but not
  in the language that the loved one understands.
  
• Each of us has a primary language of loveways
  that we express love, and things we see as
  expressions of love. If we can learn and use each
  others love language, we can increase the
  quality in our relationships.

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We All Seek Happy and Fulfilling Relationships
MATE
MYSELF
we often miss each others heart.
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The 5 Love Languages

• Words of Affirmation.
• An unsolicited compliment, a kind word, and
  words of encouragement are very powerful. Mark
  Twain once said I can live for two months on a
  good compliment.

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The 5 Love Languages

• Quality Time.
• This means togetherness and personal connection,
  not just being physically nearby. Having a
  quality conversation, really listening to each
  other. Taking time to have fun together. Doing
  things you each enjoy exploring new activities
  together.

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The 5 Love Languages

• Receiving Gifts.
• The message here is that the gift giver was
  thinking of you and wanted to let you know.
  Expense is not the main thing its the meaning
  of the gift, the thought behind it. A favorite
  treat picked up on the way home or a card for no
  reason sends a priceless message.

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The 5 Love Languages

• Acts of Service.
• Cooking, washing the car, or doing the laundry
  can be acts of love. Challenge the stereotypes.
  Doing something that is helpful to your loved one
  will be noticed, if such acts of service is their
  language of love.

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The 5 Love Languages

• Physical Touch.
• A hug, a kiss, holding hands, and sexual
  intercourse are all ways of communicating love.
  Research indicates that positive physical contact
  is important to emotional health some say you
  need four hugs a day.

Different is Good
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Five Love Languages - Stephens Family
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Recent Scientific Research Mens and womens
bodies are governed by completely different
hormones.
Men and women are different.

• Taken from Dr. John Gray,
• Counselor, Author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are
  From Venus

Man
Woman
Primary Neurotransmitters/Neuromodulators
Testosterone
Oxytocin
Achievements and accomplishments.
Flexible. Friendly Motivation. Desire. Wants to
save the day. Wants to solve problems, fix thin
gs. Engaged in life.
Talking, Sharing, Communication.
Cuddling, hugs. Cooperation. We did it together
Collaboration. Compassion Childbirth and sexua
l climax.
Dopamine
Seratonin
New and different. Excitement Energy Passion I
nterest, ability to gather information.
Stimulation
Motivation
Familiarity. Closeness Intimacy increases serato
nin.
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Flag Pages
www.flagpage.com Developed by Mark Gungor Co
sts 12 Program to help people discover who the
y really are at their best, to truly discover
their heart. Its focus is only on motivation,
what you love about life. You choose from 56 de
scriptive words the ones that describe you.
Then you rate these from 1 to 10.
Then you choose the top 5 and prioritize them.
The goal is to understand others and be able to
support their needs, appreciating the
differences. Ratings are based on feelings and
not thinking, revealing a persons motivations
that lead to their happiness and success. It is
not about personality. KEY ASPECTS The 4 Count
ries, Soft or Hard motivations, the 5
Talents, the Flag.
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Flag Pages
The FOUR Countries Your HOME country is like a
temperament or where you come from in the
way of customs, traditions, ways of doing things,
words and phrases. We love the language and tra
ditions of our own emotional country and
frequently misunderstand others and become
insulted.
Many people are attracted to date and marry
someone who is very different from themselves.
Its exciting to have different points of view,
thoughts, and perspectives. After marriage and
living together, those same differences start to
drive them crazy.
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Flag Pages
FOUR Countries
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Flag Pages
CONTROL Country
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Flag Pages
FUN Country
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Flag Pages
PERFECT Country
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Flag Pages
PEACE Country
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Flag Pages
Soft Hearted Hard Natured Score
Of the words that one chooses, a soft/hard score
is developed. Soft are more Relationship Peo
ple Hard are more Results Oriented People
A Balanced Person would have similar Soft/Hard
scores.
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Flag Pages
Soft Hearted Hard Natured Score
Different is Good
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Flag Pages
The 5 Talents
Nari
Kristin
Miilhan
Heungkook
Soniyae
Different is Good
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Flag Pages
Different is Good
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Types of Personalities Inventories
www.relate-institute.org READY/RELATE
www.foccusinc.com FOCCUS www.prepare-enrich.
com PREPARE/ENRICH
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16 Types of Personalities
Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI)
Based on the work of Swiss psychologist Carl Jung
and Americans Katharine Briggs and Isabel Briggs
Myers. Most popular and widely respected
personality assessment instrument in the world.
General Principles
1. Each person is born with one true type, but
changes greatly as he/she grows and matures.
2. All types are equally valuable. None is better
or worse, healthy or sick, intelligent or
unintelligent. All have strengths weaknesses.
3. Every individual is unique. Type gives only
insights.
4. Type is a great tool to better understanding
and appreciation who may be very different in
small or great ways.
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16 Types of Personalities
Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI)
There are FOUR DIMENSIONS of Personality Type
which are the important aspects of personality.
The dimensions represent four continuums, with
two ends and a midpoint (like a scale).
Each person has an inborn preference for one side
or the other.
Extraversion
Introversion
Sensing
Intuition
Thinking
Feeling
Judging
Perceiving
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16 Types of Personalities
Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI)
Lets figure out your type.
Extraversion
Introversion
E
I
Where do you get your energy?
Prefer being around people. Are interested in
many things. Have lots of friends, associates.
Jump into things pretty quickly. Are usuall
y pretty talkative. Are more public and easier
to get to know. Are enthusiastic and outgoing.
Represent about 55 of US pop.
Are comfortable spending time alone.
Are selective and like to focus on one
or a few things. Have a few very close frien
ds. Think about things before they act. Are
usually fairly reserved. Are more private and h
arder to read. Appear calm and self-contained.
Represent about 45 of US pop.
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16 Types of Personalities
Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI)
Sensing
Intuition
S
N
Do you tend to focus on the facts or the
possibilities?
Focus on the facts and specifics.
Are more concrete like ideas to be practical.
Trust their direct experience.
Like to operate in the here and now.
Are realistic and practical.
Like established ways of doing things.
Think and talk step-by-step.
Represent about 65 of US pop.
Focus on the possibilities. Are more abstract
like ideas and
theories for their own sake.
Trust their gut instincts. Like to imagine an
d think about the future. Are innovative an
d imaginative. Like to create new ways of doing
things. Frequently jump around, topic to topic
. Represent about 35 of US pop.
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16 Types of Personalities
Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI)
Thinking
Feeling
T
F
Do you base most decisions on logic or on your
personal values?
Are more logical and analytical.
Believe its better to be truthful than
tactful. Are fair and consistent apply one sta
ndard to all. Are motivated by achievements.
Like to compete and win. Easily see flaws can
be critical and brusque. Are thick-skinned and
not easily offended. Comprise about 65 of mal
es.
Are more sensitive and sympathetic.
Believe its better to be tactful than
truthful. Like harmony look for extenuating ci
rcumstances. Are motivated by being appreciated
. Like to cooperate and create consensus. Li
ke to please others express appreciation
easily. Get their feelings hurt more easily.
Comprise about 65 of females.
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16 Types of Personalities
Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI)
Judging
Perceiving
J
P
Do you prefer to be more planful or more
spontaneous?
Like to make decisions, decide quickly.
Prefer to make and keep plans.
Are usually well organized. Like to be in con
trol. Have a strong work ethic work, then play
. Are more formal, conventional. Tend to see
things as black and white. Are often better at
finishing projects.
Like to keep options open may procrastinate.
Prefer to be free to act spontaneously.
Are often disorganized. Like to adapt to chan
ging situations. Have a strong play ethic play
, then work. Are more casual and unconventional
. Tend to see things as shades of gray. Are
often better at starting projects.
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16 Types of Personalities
Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI)
Sample strengths and blindspots of some
combinations
Sensing Thinkers-STs
Logical problem solvers Careful and realistic
with facts
Calm and steady in a crisis
Can be critical and tough May resist new idea
s
May not be sensitive or aware of feelings
Sensing Feelers-SFs
Nurturing and supportive Helpful in tangible
and practical ways
Lots of common sense
May avoid conflict Not assertive and direct
Easily hurt or offended
Intuitive Feelers-NFs
May be unrealistic Take everything personally

Often vague and emotional
Encourage open communication and understanding
Supportive of other's growth and development
Intuitive Thinkers-NTs
Encourage partners' intellectual development
Creative problem solvers Interesting and stim
ulating
Demand high standards Often perfectionists
Impatient with feelings
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16 Types of Personalities
Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI)
Jim
Hiromi
Nari
Kristin
Miilhan
Heungkook
Soniyae
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Different is Good
Amen Aju