Putting Family First

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Putting Family First

• A Plenary Presented at the
• Trans-European Divisions Pastors Council
• DeBron Conference Center, Netherlands
• by
• Willie Elaine Oliver
• Department of Family Ministries
• North American Division of the
• Seventh-day Adventist Church
• www.adventistfamilyministries.com
• September 12, 2007

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Building a Foundation of High-Trust in our
Relationships
Put First Things First
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The Priority of Family

• But if anyone does not provide for his own, and
  especially for those of his household, he has
  denied the faith and is worse than an
  unbeliever.
• 1 Timothy 58 (NKJV)

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Balancing Work and Family
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Family (RelationshipsPermanent)
Work (EmploymentChanging)
Demands Running on empty
Demands Do more with less
No Peace
The Boss Your Internal expectations and
self-accountability
Pressure
The Boss External expectations andmeasurable
accountability
Stress
The Group Marriage, family, child-raising
responsibilities oftenappear postponable
The Company/Group Heavy expectations
onmeasurable performance
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Basic Change Model
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Get
Do
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Big Rocks Clip
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Put First Things First
Your BIG ROCKS are your valuesthe things that
are most important to you. Your LITTLE ROCKS are
the things that get in the way of being true to
your valuesyour big-rock barriers.
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The Three Time Zones
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How Do You Put Your Marriage / Family First?

• One-on-One Bonding Times / Family Time.
• Weekly Partner Power Hours / Family Meetings.

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Live By Your Values

• Whether, then, you eat or drink or whatever you
  do, do all to the glory of God.
• 1 Corinthians 1031 (NASBU)

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Become a Person of High-Trust Character
Live your life so that your children can tell
their children that you not only stood for
something wonderful, but you acted upon it. DAN
ZADRA
To become a person of character, live according
to your valuesPut First Things First
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The Priority of Family

• One well-ordered, well-disciplined family tells
  more in behalf of Christianity than all the
  sermons that can be preached.
• Ellen White, Adventist Home, p. 32.

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The Promise of Success

• I can do all things through Him who strengthens
  me.
• Philippians 413 (NASBU)