The Islamic Society of Clemson

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The Islamic Society of Clemson

• Bringing-Up Children
• in Islam
• Mustafa Khattab
• Assistant Lecturer
• Islamic Studies in English
• Al-Azhar University, Egypt

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Warm-Up Questions

• Do you want your kids
• --to have a better life?
• --to suffer as you suffered?
• --to lose their Muslim values heritage?
• Why do you kill yourself at work
• --to give your kids a quality life?
• Do you feel that your kids deserve your
  sacrifices?
• Do that fall short of your expectations hopes

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What comes to mind when we think of kids

• Salsal
• Energy
• Sponge
• Diapers bibrona
• Devils
• angels

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Challenges

• Lack of exposure to Islamic teachings values
  especially at school
• More distractions TV, internet, games, etc.
• They spend more time with their friends than with
  their parents
• Earning them money takes priority over being
  physically with them
• Lack of Muslim role models
• Identity conflict
• Touch-your-kid-and-go-to-jail laws
• Siblings rivalry

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Guidelines

• 1. Be an example (like father, like son) (lying,
  smoking, cheating)
• 2. Introduce them to Islamic teachings values
• -Quran, Sunnah, Muslim history, etiquettes,
  prayers, charity, respect (read for them, show
  them videos) ...
• 3. Familiarize them with Muslim heroes
• 4. Be kind to them (Prophet Fatimah, Hassan
  Hussain, Umair Nughair, Anas, kissing)
• 5. How do you treat your wife

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Guidelines

• 6. Consult with them and give some
  responsibilities
• 7. Let them talk to those who are older than
  them
• 8. Hook them up with good Muslim kids
• 9. Go out as a family (pray/play together,
  circle of trust)
• 10. Praise them in front of others when they do
  good
• 11. Dont punish him/her in front of siblings
  or friends

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Guidelines

• 12. Channel their energy in something useful
  reading, sports,
• 13. Teach them to express their feelings in an
  artistic manner (story-writing, poetry, speeches,
  etc.)
• 14. Dont spoil them (stick carrot method)
• 15. You are not friends (father-is-father
  kid-is-kid)
• 16. Teach them to appreciate the little they have
  remind them of those who are less fortunate
• 17. Teach them what is halal and what is haram

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Guidelines

• 18. Teach them masjid etiquettes
• 19. Teach them to be conscious of time (there is
  time of everything)
• 20. Teach him/her to do unto people what s/he
  likes to be done unto him/her

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Lessons from the QuranChapter 31 12-19

• Luqman (the wise African man) teaching his son
• --One God
• --Obedience respect to parents
• --Offer prayers, enjoin what is good, forbid
  what is evil, be patient
• --social etiquettes (arrogance, raising voice,
  pride, etc.

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Lessons from the QuranChapter 24

• Chapter 24 58-59
• --Asking for permission to enter parents
  sleeping room at 3 times
• Chapter 24 27-28
• --knocking at the door before entering others
  houses
• Chapter 24 30-31
• --Lowering their gaze and dressing decently

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