Honor Thy Father and Mother

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Honor Thy Father and Mother

• Relationship with your Parents
• Presented By Nancy L. Vidad
• January 21, 2007

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Honor Thy Father and Mother

• "Honor thy father and thy mother that thy days
  may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God
  giveth thee," Exodus 2012.
• "Honor thy father and thy mother, as the LORD thy
  God hath commanded thee that thy days may be
  prolonged, and that it may go well with thee, in
  the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee,"
  Deuteronomy 516.
• "Ye shall fear every man his mother, and his
  father . . . ," Leviticus 193.

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Honor Thy Father and Mother

• "Children, obey your parents in the Lord for
  this is right. Honor thy father and thy mother
  which is the first commandment with promise That
  it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live
  long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not
  your children to wrath but bring them up in the
  nurture and admonition of the Lord," Ephesians
  61-4.
• "A foolish son is the calamity of his father,"
  Proverbs 1913

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Honor Thy Father and Mother

• The fifth commandment affects everybody since
  every person has parents.
• It says that children must honor them even if
  they are not honorable.
• Even if your parents are despicable, they can be
  a vivid lesson to you as how NOT to act, causing
  you to act much better.
• There is an old saying, "Like father, like son."
  It is often true that children who are abused
  often turn around and abuse their own children.
• Only with the Holy Spirit can we break this
  vicious circle and change to the right ways.

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Honor Thy Father and Mother

• The fifth commandment is the first with a
  promise a long and happy life. It points to the
  divine family of God and living forever in one
  big happy family.
• It bridges the gap between the first four
  commandments (love to God) and the last six
  commandments (love to neighbor).
• If we dont honor/love our parents, how can we
  honor/love our Heavenly Father?
• Our concept of God is based on our relationship
  with our parents.

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Honor Thy Father and Mother

• Beginning in infancy and throughout early
  childhood, our images of God are formed and are
  based not only on what we are told about God, but
  also on the love we receive or fail to receive
  from those who care for us.
• Caring parents set limits because we live in a
  world in which not everything/everyone is safe
• If a toddler does not learn and accept the limits
  that loving parents set, they can become consumed
  with anger at the idea of not having their own
  way
• They become perennially disgruntled and
  frequently at odds with those in authority

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Honor Thy Father and Mother

• In the eyes of the toddler, the parents are
  surrogates for God
• But if parents fail to be supportive and
  protectively limiting the childs independence,
  the result can either be
• A timid, self-doubting child or
• A child who angrily resists and opposes any limits

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Honor Thy Father and Mother

• You may think,
• "I was treated so badly when I was a child that I
  cant have love for my parents or anyone else."
• "I dont have time to visit my parents or any of
  the elderly because I'm too busy.
• God states no qualifier. He does not tell us to
  honor them only if they are honorable.
• Simply because they are our parents, we must
  treat them with respect.

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Definition of Honor

• Function transitive verb1 a to regard or
  treat with honor or respect b to confer honor
  on
• Function noun
• 1 a good name or public esteem REPUTATION b
  a showing of usually merited respect
  RECOGNITION

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Jesus and His Parents

• John 21-11 Jesus Changes Water to Wine
• 1 On the third day a wedding took place at Cana
  in Galilee. Jesus' mother was there, 2 and Jesus
  and his disciples had also been invited to the
  wedding. 3 When the wine was gone, Jesus' mother
  said to him, "They have no more wine."
•  4 "Dear woman, why do you involve me?" Jesus
  replied, "My time has not yet come."
•  5 His mother said to the servants, "Do whatever
  he tells you."
•  6 Nearby stood six stone water jars, the kind
  used by the Jews for ceremonial washing, each
  holding from twenty to thirty gallons.

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Jesus and His Parents

• 7 Jesus said to the servants, "Fill the jars with
  water" so they filled them to the brim.
• 8 Then he told them, "Now draw some out and take
  it to the master of the banquet." They did so, 9
  and the master of the banquet tasted the water
  that had been turned into wine. He did not
  realize where it had come from, though the
  servants who had drawn the water knew. Then he
  called the bridegroom aside 10 and said,
  "Everyone brings out the choice wine first and
  then the cheaper wine after the guests have had
  too much to drink but you have saved the best
  till now."

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Jesus and His Parents

• 11 This, the first of his miraculous signs, Jesus
  performed in Cana of Galilee. He thus revealed
  his glory, and his disciples put their faith in
  him.
• As a mother, this is a humorous story for me.
• It was not Jesus time to be publicly performing
  miracles yet, but he honors His mother by doing
  what she requested.
• Not only does he do what she asks, He goes over
  and above (110 effort) by filling the stone jars
  to the brim with the best tasting wine.

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Jesus and His Parents

• He probably performed His first miracle, despite
  it being the wrong place and time, because
• Mary was probably related or very close to the
  married couple or their families
• Weddings back then lasted a week and it being
  only the third day would have been very
  embarrassing to the hosts, Marys family
• She obviously have seen Him do little miracles
  before and so she knows He can do this
• She expected Him to do something
• She already instructed the servants to obey Him

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Jesus and His Parents

• In John 1926-27, Jesus shows love and concern
  for His mother in one of His final actions as a
  human being.
• Jesus undoubtedly had a lot on His mind the
  unbelievable pain and exhaustion He felt the way
  He had been mistreated the need not to sin in
  His final moments His upcoming victory, etc.
• However, in this most traumatic time, He still
  showed love, respect and responsibility for Mary
• With the last of His strength He lovingly asked
  His best friend, John, to take care of her.

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Jesus and His Parents

• Little is said about Jesus relationship with His
  Earth father, Joseph.
• Joseph was probably older than Mary and died
  earlier.
• However, Jesus becoming a carpenter shows He
  honored His Earth father by continuing in his
  footstep.
• Everyone knew Him as Josephs, the carpenter, son

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Ways to Honor Thy Father and Mother

• Mano po Filipinos have it easy since its
  ingrained in their culture
• Support our parents in their passions
• Do what is expected just because it pleases them
  and then go beyond what is expected
• Dont disparage them in front of others
• Do what you can, because you can!