Conversational Reframing Acknowledgements

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Conversational ReframingAcknowledgements
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Conversational ReframingIntroduction
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... You and I belong to a species with a
remarkable ability we can shape events in each
others brains with exquisite precision. Simply
by making noises with our mouths, we can reliably
cause precise new combinations of ideas to arise
in each others minds. Steven Pinker 1994
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Mind-Body CompetenceCognitive-Behavior
ManagementNeuro-Linguistic Programming
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Neuro-linguistics holistically summarizes the
body-mind connection between language words,
symbols, etc. and neurology. It specifies how
our neurology i.e., nervous system and brain
process language and thereby respond to language.
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Words, while totally powerless to effect and
change external reality, have almost complete
power to create, alter, change, destroy and
invent internal reality.
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...neuroscientists have learned that thoughts
are electrical impulses that trigger electrical
and chemical switches in the brain. Thoughts are
not just psychological in nature, they are
physiological - electrochemical triggers that
direct and affect the chemical activity.When
given an electrical command - a thought - the
brain immediately does several things It
responds to the thought by releasing appropriate
control chemicals into the body, and it alerts
the central nervous system to any required
response or action. Shad Helmstetter
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Perception differs qualitatively from the
physical properties of the stimulus. The Soul
Illusion
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"I want you to realize that there exists no
color in the natural world, and no sound -
nothing of this kind no textures, no patterns,
no beauty, no scent." Sounds, colors, patterns,
etc., appear to have an independent reality, yet
are, in fact, constructed by the mind. All our
experience of the natural world is our minds
interpretation of the input it receives. Sir
John Eccles
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Eccles continued
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NLP talks about various modes of awareness
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VAK CodingVisual pictures, sights, imagesA
sounds, noise, music, tonesKinesthetic
sensations, physical feelings of the
bodyOlfactory smellsGustatory tastes
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We experience the phenomenon of sight, sounds and
sensations.
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Above and beyond the sensory level representation
we have sensory-based words.
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Non-sensory based language refers to all language
that becomes more abstract as we delete more of
the specific sensory words and generalize to a
higher level.
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When we go meta to a higher logical level of
symbolization and use more abstract words, we use
a different kind of representational system, a
non-sensory based modality.
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In any social environment, we have to use
language which then influences and effects the
life of the system enhancing and/or limiting,
creating and/or destroying.
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Our language both reflects and describes our
model of the world.
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Words influence because they evoke us to create
representations within our minds at multiple
levels.
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The magic is in the code.
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SwishCross Mapping Submodalities
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Swish continued
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Modeling
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Modeling consists of using tools that have their
origins in Artificial Intelligence AI,
linguistics and cognitive science research with
the goal of making a model of excellent behavior,
for transfer to other persons.
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StructuresReference,Deep Surface
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Language Change
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Language so fills our world that we move through
it as a fish swims through water.
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Some Universals of the Human Linguistic
ProcessI. Well-formednessII. Constiuent
StructureIII. Logical Semantic RelationsA.
CompletenessB. AmbiguityC. Synonymy
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A transformation is an explicit statement of one
kind of pattern that native speakers recognize
among the sentences of their language.
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Transformations continued
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Presuppositions
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When a persons model has pieces missing, it is
impoverished.
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Impoverished models imply limited options.
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Biological ConstraintsPhysical constraints that
are atypical of the species.
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Neurological ConstraintsSpecies specific
biological constraints common to all typical
species representatives.
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Social Constraints
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Social Constraints continued
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Social Constraints continued
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Social Constraints continued
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Individual constraints
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Individual constraints continued
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Generalization is the process by which elements
or pieces of a persons model become detached
from their original experience and come to
represent this entire category of which the
experience is an example. Our ability to
generalize is essential to coping with the world.

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Deletion is a process by which we selectively pay
attention to certain dimensions of our
experiences and exclude others. An example would
be the ability that people have to filter out or
exclude all other sound in a room full of people
talking in order to listen to one particular
persons voice.
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Distortion is a process that allows us to make
shifts in our experience of sensory data.
Fantasy, for example, allows us to prepare for
experiences that we may have before they occur.
All the great novels, all the revolutionary
discoveries of the sciences involve the ability
to distort and misrepresent reality.
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Every Belief is a limit to be examined. John
C. Lily
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ReframingThe most fundamental goal of applying
verbal patterns is to help people shift their
perspective1) from a problem to an outcome, 2)
from a failure to feedback, and3) from an
impossibility to an as if.
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The Language of SpecificityFor precision and
clarity or to deframe.
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The Language of EvaluationTo construct new
realities frames
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Meaning semantics exists only, and
exclusively, in the mind.
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This doesnt mean this ---gt It means this!Not X
--------gt but Y
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The language of evaluation-of-evaluationAllows
you to outframe all meanings and frames
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Outframe continued
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Language describes how we code, in various
symbol formats, information.
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Information is the difference that makes a
difference. Gregory Bateson
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Creation of Meaning
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Giving or attributing meaning to something to
anything involves and associative process.
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To identify meaning we have to find the
associations.
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Fire means what the frame of reference tells us
it means.
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External Behavior --gt Internal State EB
IS
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S/he who controls the frame, controls the meaning.
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The directions of influence.
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Directions continued
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The Meaning of Magic
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But, but, thats manipulation!
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Dont believe everything you think! Ron Farkas
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Prevention, development remediation
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Nothing in and of itself means anything.It takes
a Meaning Maker to construct an association, set
a frame, link events and marry concepts.
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There is a Taoist story of an old farmer who had
worked his crops for many years. One day his
horse ran away. Upon hearing the news, his
neighbors came to visit. "Such bad luck," they
said sympathetically. "May be," the farmer
replied. The next morning the horse returned,
bringing with it three other wild horses. "How
wonderful," the neighbors exclaimed. "May be,"
replied the old man. The following day, his son
tried to ride one of the untamed horses, was
thrown, and broke his leg. The neighbors again
came to offer their sympathy on his misfortune.
"May be," answered the farmer. The day after,
military officials came to the village to draft
young men into the army. Seeing that the son's
leg was broken, they passed him by. The neighbors
congratulated the farmer on how well things had
turned out. " May be," said the farmer.
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This external behavior is/ equals(leads to or
causes) --gt this internal state.
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causation statements how we model the way the
world works, functions, relates to itself, etc.
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equations statements how we decide and model
regarding meaning, what abstractions equate with
behaviors, our paradigms of significance
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value words ideas the ideas, events,
experiences, etc., that we deem important and
significant
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identifications what things equal other
things, that we identify as the same
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presuppositions unquestioned assumptions
that we simply operationalize as true
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Make a distinction between the behavior and the
intention.
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Intervention
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Deframing1. Chunking Down
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To elicit this conversational reframing pattern,
use the elicitation questions that move a person
down the scale of abstraction/specificity.How
specifically?What specifically?When
specifically?With whom specifically?At what
place specifically?
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Deframing2 Detailing the sequence of the
Strategy
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2 strategy continued
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To elicit this reframing pattern, use the
strategy elicitation questionsHow do you
represent that belief?How will you know if and
when it does not hold true?What comes first?
What comes next?How do you have each piece
coded?And youre absolutely sure you dont
have that in this other format?
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Deframe Summary
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Content Reframing
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3 Reframe the EB
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3 Summary
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4 Reframe the IS
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4 Summary
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5 Reflexively Apply EB to Self or Listener6
Reflexively Apply IS to Self or Listener
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5/6 continued
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7 Counter Examples
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Content Reframe Summary
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content reframe summary continued 1
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Content Reframe Summary continued 2
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Counter Framing
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Reverse Presuppositions
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Reverse Presuppositions continued
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7 Counter Example Framing
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7 Counter Example Framing
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7 Counter Example Framing
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Temporal Presuppositions
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Identity Statements
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Identity Statements continued 1
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Identity Statements continued 2
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Identity Statements continued 3
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Questions from Cartesian Logic What will
happen if you do? Theorem What wont happen
if you do? Inverse What will happen if you
dont? Converse What wont happen if you
dont? Non-Mirror Image Reverse
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Counter Framing Summary
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The Time FramesBefore 8
Positive Prior Intention Framing9 Positive
Prior Causation FramingAfter 10 First
Outcome11 Outcomes of Outcomes12 Eternity
Framing
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Before 8 Positive Prior Intention
Framing
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Before 8 Positive
Prior Intention Framing continued
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If we treat people as they are, we make them
worse. If we treat people as they ought to be,
we help them become what they are capable of
becoming. Johann Wolfgang von
Goethe 1749-1832
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9 Positive Prior Causation Framing
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9 Positive Prior Causation
Framing Continued
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10 First Outcome Framing
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11 Outcome of the Outcome Framing
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12 Eternity Framing
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12 Eternity Framing continued
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Designing Alternative Futures
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The Time Frames Summary
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Outframing
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13 Model of the WorldWho made this map
anyway?
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13 Model of the World continued
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14 Criteria and Value Framing
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14 Criteria and Value Framing
continued
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14 Criteria and Value Framing
continued
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15 Allness Framing
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15 Allness Framing continued
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16 Necessity Framing
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16 Necessity Framing
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17 Identity Framing
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17 Identity Framing continued
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18 All Other Abstractions
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Unreality
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Self/Other
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Tonal Emphasis
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18 All Other AbstractionsSummary
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19 Ecology Framing
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Outframing Summary
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A man wanted to know about mind, not in nature,
but in his computer. He asked Do you compute
that you will ever think like a human being?The
machine then set to work to analyze its own
computation habits. Finally, the machine printed
its answer on a piece of paper, as such machines
do. The man ran to get the answer and found
neatly typed, the words That reminds me of a
story. Gregory Bateson
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Analogous Framing
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20 Storytelling
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20 StorytellingShifting Referential Indices
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21 Both/And Framing
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22 Pseudo-Word Framing
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23 Negation Framing
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24 Possibility and As If Framing
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25 Systemic Probability Framing
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26 Decision Framing
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Conclusions
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Formal Dialogue
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We are the sum total of what we think!
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Glossary