Nurturing Children or Raisin Cain

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Nurturing Children or Raisin Cain?

• Love Discipline
• 1 Ths. 211-12 Heb. 125-6, 10-11

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CHILDREN

• Inheritance from God, Psa. 1273 Prov. 176
• Goal Present them to the Lord, Gen. 1819 1
  Sam. 122 211
• God, our heavenly Father, knows best how to rear
  children

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Discipline is Comprehensive Ephesians 64

• Not only bring them up, as the brutes do, taking
  care to provide for them but bring them up in
  nurture and admonition, in such a manner as is
  suitable to their reasonable natures. Nay, not
  only bring them up as men, in nurture and
  admonition, but as Christians, in the admonition
  of the Lord. Let them have a religious
  education. Instruct them to fear sinning and
  inform them of, and excite them to, the whole of
  their duty towards God.
• (Matthew Henry, Commentary on Ephesians)

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Discipline is Comprehensive Ephesians 64

• Instruction Prov. 18-9
• Teach about lifeteach word of God, Deut. 48-10
  64-9 1118-19
• Train in righteousness, 2 Tim. 315-16
• Correction Prov. 312, 1324 2215 2917

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Divine Guidance

• Insist on obedience, Eph. 61-3 (Prov. 3011)
• Example of Jesus, Lk. 251
• Example of Eli his sons, 1 Sam.
  212, 22-25, 29 313

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Divine Guidance

• Praise as well as punish
• Punishment that fits offense (1 Sam. 222-24)
• Punishment without praise will break a childs
  spirit, Col. 321

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Divine Guidance

• Give what is needed, not necessarily what is
  wanted, Matt. 78-11
• It is not giving children more that spoils them
  it is giving them more to avoid confrontation.
  (John Gray, Children Are From Heaven)
• Say yes when you can no when you must

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Divine Guidance

• Be consistent, 1 Sam. 212, 22 313
• Follow through
• Stay in control of yourself
• Practice what you preach (2 Tim. 15)

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Divine Guidance

• Do not show favoritism, Gen. 25 28 373
• Recognize respect each childs individuality
  with impartiality
• Work together, Lk. 251 (Gen. 275) Matt. 1225

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Divine Guidance

• Find develop the childs way Prov. 226
• Direction discipline suitable for the child,
  Eccl. 23 518-19 121
• The art of mothering is to teach the art of
  living to children. (Elain
  Heffner, O Magazine, May 2003)

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Divine Guidance

• Set godly examples, Isa. 394 Prov. 41-4 (2
  Tim. 15)
• Love God, Matt. 2237
• Love men, Matt. 2239
• Pray for Gods help, Judges 138-9 Jas. 15-8
  (Phil. 46-7)
• Rely on Gods word to direct you, Prov. 35-6

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Divine Guidance

• Be patient, 2 Tim. 15 315
• Start early, Prov. 1324 (Jochebed Moses
  Hannah Samuel)
• Stay the course, Prov. 1918 2313-14 2915
• Confess repent when you sin against your
  children, Jas. 516 (Col. 321)

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Divine Guidance

• Remember The responsibility accountability is
  yours
• Seek counsel, Tit. 24 Prov. 1114 1522
• Filter all advice through the sieve of Gods word
• Beware of intrusive meddlers meddling 1 Pet.
  415

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Nurturing Children or Raisin Cain?

• The rod and rebuke give wisdom, But a child
  left to himself brings shame to his mother.
  (Prov. 2915)

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