What does the future hold

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What does the future hold?
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Put yourself in the shoes of a 15 year old
growing up in India. Your teacher starts off
class with the following story
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• Navin has just passed his SSC exams and will
  soon be in college. He has been dating a
  15-year-old girl, Swathi, since his high school
  days. His parents do not mind him going out with
  her but are unaware that he has begun having sex
  with her. He is part of a gang of friends who
  also engage in sexual activities with their
  girlfriends

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• Soon after this, Swathi misses her period and
  they decide that she should have an abortion, if
  the pregnancy test is positive. Navin is madly
  in love with Swathi, but does not know that
  Swathi has been involved in another relationship
  before this one.

From the Introduction to Dare to be Different
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The teacher asks you

• Do you think this could be happening in your
  school?
• Do you think that this is a common problem among
  young people in India?
• Do you think Navin and Swathi would have
  benefited if they attended a value-based sex
  education program in school?

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These are the situations confronting teens in
India.Fortunately, a value-based sex education
program does exist.
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Dare to be Different

• Shaping Minds to
• Make Right Choices
• An inside look at the sex education
• curriculum produced by the Nirnay Project

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Dare to be Different An Overview

• Why is the program needed?
• Who is the audience?
• What are the core principles?
• Program structure outline
• Sneak peak inside!
• Teaching Module 3 You can be different
• Teaching Module 6 True love waits
• Why is it unique?

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Why do we need sex education anyway?

• TEENAGERS IN INDIA ARE IN NEED!
• For teens ages 13 and 15 years old, there is
  currently an increase in experimentation with
  sexual activity, and an increase in teenage
  pregnancies and abortions.
• 60 of all new HIV infections are among 15-24
  year olds in many countries (Introduction to
  Dare to be Different)

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Why do we need sex education anyway?

• Teens are full of misconceptions about sex
• There is a lack of quality materials for schools
  to use for sex education
• Discussing sexual matters is taboo in most Indian
  homes

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The Dare to Be Different Curriculum is

• Designed by the Nirnay Project, part of the
  Association of Christian Thoughtfulness.
• Nirnay means Decision in Hindi
• Currently used successfully in over 20 schools in
  Mumbai, India with 9th and 10th graders.
• Taught to over 9000 students in the city of
  Mumbai.
• Shaping minds to make good choices!

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• Each lesson touches on at least one core
  principle

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The Core Principles

• 1. Discover Gods Power.
• Knowing that without God I cannot succeed in life

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The Core Principles

• Remember you are unique.
• Know your strengths, weaknesses, gifts,
  aspirations, and respect yourself
• Develop a healthy self-esteem

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The Core Principles

• Follow your conscience.
• Developing a sharp conscience and making choices
  out of an inner conviction, not external pressure

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The Core Principles

• 4. Choose your friends wisely.
• The importance of friends and how they influence
  you

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The Core Principles

• Follow your dream, focus on your goals.
• Each person has been created for a purpose and
  can make a unique contribution to society

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The Core Principles

• Filter the truth.
• Develop the capacity to discern right from wrong
  and not take things at face value because things
  are often not the way they seem

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The Core Principles

• Make right choices.
• Think through the consequences before you make
  your choices

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Program Structure

• 10 Teaching Modules with lessons and hands-on
  activities
• The Significant Seven (Core Principles)
• You are unique
• You can be different
• You are wonderfully made
• Be a friend
• True love waits
• Dont become a statistic (STDs and HIV/AIDS)
• Are you watching it? (media)
• Follow your dream
• You reap what you sow

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• Other modules offered by Nirnay
• Student Leadership
• Time Management
• Parenting Skills
• Child Protection Preventing Child Sex Abuse
• Another curriculum has been developed,
  exclusively for sexually exploited children, who
  are rescued from Child Trafficking.

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The following slides give some examples of the
lessons and activities students experience with
the Dare to be Different curriculum.
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Lesson 3 You can be different

• Aims
• Help students realize the influence peers can
  have on them
• To understand how these influences affect their
  choices
• To give them practical ways of tackling negative
  pressure
• To see the potential of positive peer groups and
  the importance of being part of one
• Values Learned
• Recognize that good principles are worth standing
  up for even if peers disagree.
• Need to listen to ones conscience rather than
  moving with the crowd.

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• Peers same age group as you and share similar
  aims and interests
• Peer pressure the influence of peers which
  breaks or builds the positive values in ones
  life.

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• Three students are told before class to answer
  plain salted when asked about the flavor of the
  potato chips they taste, even though that isnt
  the actual flavor.
• An oblivious student stands at the end of the
  line
• Is it easy to give in to peer pressure??

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• Peer pressure can be positive
• Students have come together to fight against
  social problems
• OR negative
• - Boys might visit prostitutes due to friends
  applying pressure, saying that unless you
  experiment you wont know what to do

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How to overcome negative peer pressure

• Learn to say NO. Its tougher to face the
  consequences of a wrong decision than saying
  no.
• Run away or exit from the situation
• Find an alternative
• Choose the right kind of friends

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de_amy_2003_1/teen_times/peerpressure/webpages/pee
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Important FAQs addressed

• Why do teens seem to deal with more peer pressure
  than any other age group?
• Is bullying caused by peer pressure?
• Why do teens tease kids who are different?
• How do I know if a peer group is not right for
  me?
• Can peer pressure lead to
• suicide or school violence?

http//www.parentinged.org/handout3/Specific20Con
cerns20and20Problems/peer20pressure.htm
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Lesson 6 True love waits

• Aims
• To help students recognize the dangers of
  premarital sexual activity
• To make a commitment to abstinence from sexual
  relationships before marriage
• Values Learned
• Chastity is an attainable virtue even today
• Learning to exercise self control is a valuable
  discipline

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Hands-on activity

• Do you want this lollipop after your classmate
  already licked it?
• If this is the case with food, how would you feel
  about marrying a person who has had sex with more
  than one partner?

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ABSTINENCE

• 1. Abstinence is popular.
• Abstinence is beneficial.
• Abstinence is possible.
• Saying No to sex now is saying Yes to
  you and to your future! Discover Gods
  power to say No to temptation.

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Leading lines and responsesHow to Say No

• If you really love me you will allow me.

• If you really love me, youll wait for me!

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• We will do it just once, I wont ask you ever
  again.

• Just once can make me pregnant or infected.

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• No, everyone is not doing it and I do
  not want to bet my future on what everyone is
  doing.

• Everyone is doing it, so why not do it?

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Agree or disagree?

• Premarital sex is fun and always based on mutual
  consent.
• Disagree
• I cannot get pregnant or get STDs if I use a
  contraceptive.
• Disagree

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Agree or disagree?

• Teens are more susceptible to getting STDs than
  adults.
• Agree
• 25 of teenagers with multiple partners
• contract an STD each year
• 4. Abortion is an easy way to get rid of unwanted
  teen pregnancies.
• Disagree
• Abortion murder
• Emotionally and psychologically affects mother
  and father,
• physically affects mother

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Agree or disagree?

• Premarital sex gives you the necessary sexual
  experience before marriage.
• Disagree
• Abstinence is choosing to abstain from
• sexual relationships until marriage.
• (You can choose abstinence even after losing
  virginity!)

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How is Dare to be Different unique?

• Opportunities in each lesson to apply principles
  in real life situations
• Doesnt just tell teens what to do, but asks
  questions and helps them create their own
  opinions
• Includes video clips, activities, worksheets, and
  extra information for teachers including answers
  to difficult FAQs

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Please prayerfully consider supporting the Nirnay
Project.

• Help teens discover
• How to respect themselves
• How to grow in self control with God
• How to differentiate love from infatuation
• How to say NO
• How to filter messages from the media for truth

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• Nirnay needs your support to reach out to more
  teens in India and around the world.
• To get involved, please contact
  
• nirnay
• Ursula, 1st Floor,
• 19, August Kranthi Marg
• Nana Chowk, Mumbai 400 007
• nirnayact_at_gmail.com

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