Right Here Right Now

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Right Here Right Now

• Watch the video "Right Here Right Now".
• We will discuss your observations
• In the Video, how are the people interacting with
  each other
• How do you interact with the people around
  yourself
• Your understanding about Trust
• 30 Minute (Full) 10 Minute Version

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Discussion
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• Is Excitement Happiness?
• Is Irritation/Anger Unhappiness?
• Avesh Sukh?
• Is Desire Intention?
• Intention Desires based on NA
• Desires not based on NA, i.e. Desires based on
  PC/S neq Intention

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Reaction (Pratikriya)

• Conduct depends on the conduct of the other
• Indefinite conduct (anischit acharan)

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Response Reaction
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Reaction (Pratikriya)

• Depending on the behaviour (competence) of the
  other you conclude about his intention
• You assume that the other intends to behave the
  way he is behaving
• Your conduct depends on the conduct of the other
• You return the same behaviour or
• You accumulate the feeling, then pass it on to a
  third person
• Your remote control is in the hands of the
  other
• Indefinite conduct (anischit acharan)

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Reaction
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Trust
Trust on Intention To be Assured to have the
clarity that the other intends to make me happy
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esa gS ,slk LiV gksuk When there is Trust on
Intention, you feel related to the other Absence
of Trust on Intention lack of assurance that
the other intends my happiness prosperity Lack
of Trust on Intention leads to Doubt, Fear,
Opposition

• Verify on the basis of your competence
• 1b. I am able to make myself always happy
• 2b. I am able to make the others always happy
• 3b. The other is able to make herself/himself
  always happy
• 4b. The other is able to make me always happy

• Verify on the basis of your natural acceptance
• 1a. I want to make myself happy
• 2a. I want to make the other happy
• 3a. The other wants to make herself/himself happy
• 4a. The other wants to make me happy

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Competence What we are
Natural Acceptance, ie Intention What we really
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Response (Jimmedari)

• You rightly evaluate the state (intention
  competence) of the other
• - the other is uncomfortable/excited
• The other is reacting due to lack of competence
• Your conduct is based on Right Understanding and
  Right Feeling in yourself
• - it is assuring for the other
• Your conduct is not controlled by the conduct of
  the other
• Definite conduct (nischit acharan)

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Reaction (Pratikriya) Response (Jimmedari)

• Depending on the behaviour (competence) of the
  other you conclude about his intention
• Your conduct depends on the conduct of the other
• You return the same behaviour or
• You accumulate the feeling, then pass it on to a
  third person
• Your remote control is in the hands of the
  other
• Indefinite conduct (anischit acharan)

• You rightly evaluate the state (intention
  competence) of the other
• - the other is uncomfortable/excited
• The other is reacting due to lack of competence
• Your conduct is based on Right Understanding and
  Right Feeling in yourself
• it is assuring for the other
• Your conduct is not controlled by the conduct of
  the other
• Definite conduct (nischit acharan)

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Reaction (Opposition) Response (Trust)

• If we do not have trust on intention, we have a
  feeling of dominating, opposing the other
• In case the other is lacking in competence, we
  react show irritation or anger even break up
  the relationship
• (Small acts of mistrust stay in the thoughts,
  multiply, grow doubt, fear, oppression
  opposition ultimately leads to fighting, struggle
  and even war)

• If we have trust on intention, we feel related to
  the other
• In case the other is lacking in competence
• We interact with perseverence and responsibility
  with the other, knowing that he/she may react,
  have uncertain conduct
• We facilitate understanding in the other once the
  other is assured in relationship (and not before
  that)
• We make a program with the other based on right
  evaluation of each others competence

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Response (Jimmedari) Reaction (Pratikriya)
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Reaction (Pratikriya) Response (Jimmedari)

• Complaints about the other
• What the other should do. No responsibility
• What is not, what is missing
• Over evaluation of self Ego
• No effort for self development
• Under/otherwise evaluation of self Depression
• No effort for self development

• Right evaluation of the other
• What I have to do, my responsibility in
  relationship and order in family, society...
• What is
• Right evaluation of self
• Right effort for self development

In your interaction with the other, find out the
time you are responding and time you are
reacting
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Our Assumption about the Other
Indulgence (Bhog) Abstinence (Tyag) Right Utilisation (Sadupyog)
Use is primarily for getting sensation / taste (aswadan) Minimise usage of physical facility Use based on purpose/property ( then taste)
Consumption, accum. of physical facility for sensation/taste Abstain from use of physical facility or sensation / taste Prosperity Recognising need Fulfillment of need
Other is Means of sensation Means of feeling Resource for physical facility Renunciation of relationship Other is like me Feeling is important in the relationship
Domination exploitation of Human being Nature Little interaction with Human being Nature Enrichment of Human being Nature
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Intention Competence. Is Desire Intention?

• 1. Intention Natural Acceptance
• e.g. To be in relationship, Trust in
  relationship
• 2. Desire/Thought/Expectation based on Natural
  Acceptance
• Competence based on Intention
• e.g. To have the desire (feeling) of trust for
  someone
• e.g. To have the thought/expectation of
  developing PF by labour
• 3. Desire/Thought/Expectation not based on NA,
  i.e. based on PC/S
• Competence not based on Intention
• e.g. To have the thought/expectation of
  deriving happiness from sensation from someone
• e.g. To have the thought/expectation of
  depriving someone of his suitcase (PF)

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PARTANTRATA SWATANTRATA

• Desire based on Natural Acceptance
• (INTENTION)

Desires mostly
based on Natural Acceptance
(INTENTION)
Start evaluating desire on the basis of your
natural acceptance. If desire is naturally
acceptable, it will become definite continue
otherwise it will slowly become corrected or drop
off
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1. Realization vuqHko
2. Understanding cks/k
3. Desire bPNk Imaging fp.k
4. Thought fopkj Analysis fo'kys"k.k
5. Expectation vk'kk Selecting/Tasting pu_at_vkLoknu
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• Immediate / Short Term Fulfilling Behaviour
• Medium Term Justice in Relationship
• Order in Society
• Long Term Human Tradition
• Human Education-Sanskar
• Human Conduct
• Human Constitution
• Human Order

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Trust (Right Understanding) Misconceptions about
Trust

• Trust fn (
• 1- my understanding about relationship trust,
• 2- my awareness about my Natural Acceptance)
• Program fn (1- right evaluation of my
  competence others competence)
• I have a proactive role to play in the program
  development of mutual competence
• Trust is definite and unchanging
• For more on right evaluation, see Respect

• Trust fn (
• 1- the competence of the other,
• 2- my assumption about myself, about the other)
• Program fn (1- my expectation from the other)
• I have no role to play in the program (I am the
  consumer). I am good, so I do not have to work on
  my competence. The other is bad he can never
  develop (I condemn him)
• Trust keeps changing

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Differentiation Respect on the basis of Self
(I)

• I evaluate on the basis of body, physical
  facilities or belief (pre conditioning). I
  compare with others
• I am different from the other
• We are competitors
• I make effort to accentuate the difference, to
  manipulate, exploit the other

• 1. Our purpose (Natural Acceptance) is similar
• 2. Our program is similar
• 3. Our potential is similar
• The other is similar to me
• We are complementary to each other
• If the other has more understanding
• - I am committed to understand from the other
• If I have more understanding
• 1. I live with responsibility with the other
• 2. I am committed to facilitate understanding
  in the other (once the other is assured in
  relationship, and not before that)

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Trust Respect

• Right Evaluation (with Trust on intention, the
  acceptance that the other is like me the
  understanding that we are complementary to each
  other)
• If I have more understanding than the other
• I interact with perseverence and responsibly
  with the other, knowing that he/she may live with
  reaction, uncertain conduct
• facilitate understanding in the other once the
  other is assured in relationship (and not before
  that)
• If the other has more understanding than me
• I become ready to understand from the other
• From what has been covered so far, right
  evaluation can include
• Priority (Right Understanding, Relationship,
  Physical Facility)
• desires motivated by Preconditioning,
  Sensation, Natural Acceptance
• Clarity, harmony in the Self (vs confusion)
• Trust on Intention (vs doubt, irritation)
• response (vs reaction)

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Reaction (Pratikriya) Response (Jimmedari)

• Doosra pareshan kar raha hai to maan lena ki
  doosra pareshan karna chahta hai
• Conduct depends on the conduct of the other (your
  remote control is in the hands of the other)
• Doosre se bhav (vishwas, samman) paane ka
  prayas Partantrata
• Indefinite conduct (anischit acharan)

• Aisa dikh jana ki doosra pareshan hai, is liye
  pareshan kar raha hai doosre kaisa bhi vyavhar
  kare, apna bhav bana rahna, doosre ko aaram dene
  ka, aur yogyata badhane ka dhariyapurvak prayas
• Conduct is based on Right Understanding and Right
  Feelings in the Self
• (your conduct is not controlled by the conduct of
  the other)
• Apne mein samajh ke adhar par bhav (vishwas,
  samman) sunischit karna Swtantrata
• Definite conduct (nischit acharan)

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Situation 1

• A abuses / misbehaves with B
• Reaction from B / Response from B

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Reaction (Pratikriya) Response (Jimmedari)

• Evaluation fn (Others beh.)
• A wants to disrespect / trouble me
• Feelings fn (My Understanding)
• Unclear or unaware of own feeling (of opposition
  for A)
• Selection/Beh fn (My Und)
• Abuses / Hits A
• or accumulates his frustration
• Later, the accumulated frustration is vented out
  on A or on a third person

• A is frustrated
• A is unable to find an alternative
• A does not have the capability
• B is clear that Trust, Respect is Naturally
  Acceptable in Relationship
• Tries to make A comfortable (Without blaming A)
• Takes responsibility to help develop As
  capability (right understanding)
• - by himself
• - through third person

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Situation 2

• A praises B
• Reaction from B / Response from B

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Reaction (Pratikriya) Response (Jimmedari)

• A wants something from me
• Unclear or unaware of own feeling
• Praises A in return
• or accumulates his excitement
• Later, the accumulated excitement is transferred
  on to a third person

• A is excited
• A is unable to find an alternative
• A does not have the capability
• B is clear that Trust, Respect is Naturally
  Acceptable in Relationship
• Tries to calm A (Without over-evaluating)
• Takes responsibility to develop As capability
  (right understanding)
• - by himself
• - through third person

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Animal Consciousness Human Consciousness

• Sensation
• Incidents
• Reaction
• Uncertain

• Realisation
• Harmony under which incident is taking place
• Response
• Certain

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Response
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Response
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Response
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Reaction Response
Others Intention Doubt No doubt on intention (Trust)
Others Competence Right evaluation
Others state Assumptions (unhappy) Unhappy
Others behaviour Wants to make me unhappy Is expressing his own unhappiness. Lack of competence
My Intention Unaware Clarity that I want to be happy make others happy
My competence Over evaluation Right evaluation
My behaviour Condemn the other Facilitate the other
My state Assumptions (unhappy), Opposition Right Understanding right feelings (happy)

Impact on the other Even more unhappy, multiplying problem Less unhappy, developing competence