Needs, Empathy and Nurturing Self (Needs Work)

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Needs, Empathy and Nurturing Self (Needs Work)

• Nurturing Parenting
• Section 5.2
• GOAL
• To understand the relationship between needs,
  empathy and nurturing ones self

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OBJECTIVES

• To Increase Parents Understanding of the
  Concepts of Natural and logical Consequences.
• To Increase Parents Understanding of Rewards as
  a Parenting Strategy.
• To Increase Parents Understanding of Punishment
  as a Parenting Strategy.
• To Increase Parents Ability to Implement an
  Effective Program of Discipline in Their Home.

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Lets Watch a Movie

• Discipline, Rewards and Punishments Part A

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Provide Useable Definition for Each Concept

• Family Morals
• Family Values
• Family Rules
• Discipline

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Definitions

• Family Morals Morals constitute what people
  believe are right and wrong actions of behavior.
  Example Its wrong to shoplift, its right to
  pay for things.
• Family Values Practices and beliefs that are
  valued through modeling and direct experiences.
  Exp. Parents value non-violence and use
  alternatives to spanking.

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Definitions (Cont.)

• Family Rules Morals and values that are
  operationalized into a set of observable, doable
  behaviors. Example Do put clean cloths in the
  dresser drawer, dont leave clean clothes stacked
  on the chair.
• Discipline Having a set of fair and reasonable
  standards and expectations for everyone to
  follow. Discipline includes moral, values,
  rules, cultural traditions, and expectations, and
  the fun and joy of being a family.

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For Discipline to have value, consequences must
follow as a means of reinforcing the standards or
expectations.
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For every action there is a reaction

• If is the childs behavior and the then is the
  parents response.
• When a child performs a behavior, a response
  indicates to the child to learn that the behavior
  was either good or bad (morals).
• The response to the behavior is called a
  consequences

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The primary function of a consequences is to help
the child learn right from wrong.

• A consequence for desirable behavior is called a
  Reward.
• A consequence for an undesirable behavior is
  called a Punishment.
• Rewards let children know their behavior is
  desirable and should continue.
• Punishments let children know their behavior is
  undesirable and should stop and be replaced with
  desirable behavior.
• If there is no consequence, then the child is
  left feeling uncertain not knowing if the
  behavior was good or bad.

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The benefit of Consequences are

• They help teach children right from wrong.
• They help children develop a strong moral code to
  follow.
• They help children learn to make good, healthy
  choices.
• They help children feel successful in following
  the rules and pleasing their parents.

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There are two kinds of consequences natural and
logical.

• Natural consequences happen all by them selves
  there are no direct planning.
• Examples include walking in the rain without an
  umbrella and getting wet, eating excessively and
  gaining weight, touching fire and getting burned.

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Logical Consequences are planned and thought out.

• Some examples include time-out for misbehavior,
  losing weight when dieting, increasing
  self-esteem when praising.
• Good discipline involves helping children learn
  right from wrong by providing non-abusive,
  nurturing consequences for appropriate and
  inappropriate behavior.

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Lets Watch a Movie

• Discipline, Rewards and Punishments Part B

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Rewards

• A Reward is a consequence for desirable behavior.
• There are two types of rewards.
• Tangible and intangible.
• Tangible rewards are things.
• Intangible rewards are privileges and feelings.

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What are some Tangible and Intangible rewards
that you can give your child?
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Tangible versus Intangible

• What are the benefits and dangers of giving
  children only tangible rewards such as toys,
  money, etc. when they do something good?
• What are the benefits and dangers of giving
  children only intangible rewards such as
  compliments, praise, allow to stay up late, etc.
  when they do something good?

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Five Types of Rewards as Consequences for Disable
Behavior

• Praise words that are given to recognize a
  childs good behavior.
• Touch gentle touch like massages, hugs, back
  rubs, gently touching an arm or shoulder.
• Privileges bonuses awarded for desirable
  behavior such as staying up past bedtime, extra
  playing time, etc.

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Five Types of Rewards as Consequences for Disable
Behavior (cont.)

• Objects toys, stickers, paints.
• Allowance a logical reward for tasks complete.
  The functional purpose of allowance is to teach
  money management, and should be used by older
  children.