RELATIONSHIPS

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RELATIONSHIPS

• OR
• RESPONSIBLE SEXUALITY

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Sex Vs. Gender

• Sex Biological condition male/female physical,
  clinical, hormonal differences
• Gender Defined by society sociali-zation,
  cultural, stereotyping

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Explanations

• Eunuch male deprived of testes external
  genitals
• Hermaphrodite both male and female
  reproductive organs
• Transsexual sexual identity conflict
• Bi-sexual expressions of sexuality with
  both sexes
• Transvestite cross dresser
• Homosexual expressions of sexuality with
  same sex partners
• Transgender believes sex does not match body

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A Choice of Heroes The Changing Face of
American Manhood M. Gerzon (1982)

• Unlike the old archetypes which were for men
  only, the emerging masculinities are not. They
  are in fact emerging humanities page 262.

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Male Gender Roles

• Roles are changing
• Frontiersman
• Soldier
• Expert
• Breadwinner
• Lord/Master

Healer
Mediator
Colleague
Companion
Nurturer
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Committed Relationships

• Marriage
• Cohabitation
• legal issues?
• Gay and Lesbian Partnerships
• Legal issues (amendment to Nevada Constitution-
  what does it mean?)
• Gay Marriage (amendment to the US Constitution
  what does it mean?)

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Relationships
FRIENDSHIP
LOVE
Acceptance Respect Assistance Confidence Understan
ding Spontaneity
Exclusivity Sexual desire Giving willingly Being
a champion Being an advocate Commitment
Mutual regard Trust Mutual respect Maturity Nurtur
ing
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Signs of Troubled Relationship

• Change in communication
• An increase in the number of unresolved conflicts
• A change in the amount and quality of time spent
  together
• Emotional or physical abuse

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Sexuality Meanings???
One of our characteristics
Sexuality
How we project who we are
Sensual
How others label us
Sexy
Sexual Activity
An action
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Growing Up
Messages
In some societies women are isolated while they
menstruate
In some societies women are taboo, not to be
looked at or spoken to during menses under threat
of death.
In the old testament it is written that women are
unclean during menses.
Feelings of shame and ignorance of our bodies.
Good girls are to set sexual limits, deny their
responses and hate their bodies.
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To Be or Not to Be?

• We are always sexual beings thats the
  characteristic of sexuality
• We are sensual when we choose to be
• We are sexually active when we want to be

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NORMALCY Sexual Behaviors

• How do we know what behaviors or practices are
  normal?
• What or Whose criteria should we use?
• Who should regulate and enforce what is good
  and what is bad?

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SEXUAL EXPRESSION

• Range of human sexual expression is virtually
  infinite
• How you choose to meet your sexual needs today
  may be very different than two years from now.

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• Autoerotic behaviors
• Celibacy
• Erotic touching/kissing
• Masturbation
• Oral-Genital stimulation
• Vaginal intercourse
• Behaviors are variant not deviant

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MAKING PERSONAL CHOICES

• Do you feel comfortable with yourself, your
  sexuality?
• Do you feel limited or bound by gender-role
  stereotyping?
• You are unique and do not have to measure up to
  anyones
• expectations.