Train Up A Child

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Train Up A Child
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Train Up A Child

• "Train up" proper conduct is not automatic it
  is the duty of the parents to teach it (Eph.
  61-4)
• "A child" you must start early
• "In the way he should go" there is a proper way
  to live according to Gods word
• "And when he is old" we take with us what we
  were taught in childhood

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Discipline Is Teaching Training

• Instructive discipline teaching with words,
  both positive and negative reinforcement (Prov.
  18 311-12)
• Corrective discipline spanking (Prov.
  1324 1918 2215 2313-14 2915,17,19)
• Self-discipline the goal of teaching and
  spanking early on is to develop self-control
  later in life (Prov. 2011 226)

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Discipline Is Teaching Training

• Prov. 1324 - - -
• Prov. 1918 - - -
• Prov. 2215 - - -
• Prov. 2313-14 - -
• Prov. 2915,17 - -

• Loving diligent
• Timely controlled
• Appropriate
• corrective
• Painful saving
• Educational rewarding

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Discipline Is Teaching Training

• Note four important words
• "rod" (use something other than your hand)
• "beat" (pain without abuse 1918b in KJV)
• "chasten" (instruct, correction, wisdom)
• "reproof" (calmly explain why they are getting a
  spanking)

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Discipline Is Teaching Training

• Give both positive and negative statements
• Make the punishment equal to the misbehavior and
  age appropriate
• Express disappointment without demeaning words
  stupid, moron, idiot, etc.
• Set rules and boundaries and keep them
• Be consistent don't make empty threats

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Discipline Is Teaching Training

• Say No and meant it dont lie to your child
• Punishment needs to be immediate
• Distinguish between willful disobedience and
  accidents

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Discipline Is Teaching Training

• Do not spank when you are out of control
• Do not spank in a way that abuses (lacerations,
  bruising, broken bones, scarring, etc.)
• Do not spank without cause no constant hitting
• Do not spank without explaining why use it as an
  opportunity to teach reaffirm love

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Discipline Is Teaching Training

• Respect for authority and obedience is
  established early on with instructive and
  corrective discipline home (Eph. 61), civil
  (Rom. 131), and church (Heb. 1317)
• Disobedience to parents is a sin (Rom.
  130 2 Tim. 32)!

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No Discipline Permissiveness

• Dont ignore disobedience and the need for
  correction!
• Many parents are permissive like David he
  wouldnt question his child (1 K. 16)
• Many parents are permissive like Eli he said
  No, but he didnt enforce it (1
  Sam. 222-26 313 see Deut. 2118)

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In the Worship Service

• Early to bed on Saturday night naps on Sunday
  afternoon if necessary
• Face them forward so as not to distract
  themselves and others adults should not "play"
  with them from across the room
• Bring quiet, Bible related activities (cloth
  books) wean them off of these as soon as
  possible so they can hold a song book or their
  own Bible later they can take notes

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In the Worship Service

• Use the break time to get all your needs done
  constant in and out during the service is
  disruptive emergencies are one thing, bad habits
  are another
• Use the nursery for accidents or discipline only,
  not for playtime or sleep time
• When you take them out for discipline, make it
  count take them out, wear them out, and bring
  them back in

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In the Worship Service

• The building is not a place to play
• Parents, take turns with the discipline
• Practice at home to have a time to sit still
  and be quiet we cant expect them to behave at
  the church building if they are not made to
  behave at home quiet and still behavior is
  learned at home
• Be consistent at every service (Heb. 1025)

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Love Them, Save Them

• Love them by speaking the truth to them (Eph.
  415) and love them by correcting and
  disciplining them (Prov. 1324 Rev.
  319)
• Save them (Gen. 1819)