LIFE-SITUATION INTERVENTIONS

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LIFE-SITUATION INTERVENTIONS

• Chapter 6
• Interpersonal

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WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE ASSERTIVE?

• IS IT MORE EFFECTIVE TO BE ASSERTIVE OR
  AGGRESSIVE?

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DEFINITIONS

• Assertive expressing yourself and satisfying
  your own needs, feeling positively about this,
  AND not hurting others in the process
• NONassertive denying or sacrificing your own
  needs or wishes to satisfy someone elses

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DEFINITIONS cont.

• Aggressive seeking to dominate or get your own
  way at the expense of others
• Test your own assertiveness level (pg. 96)

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• WHICH OF THESE TYPES OF BEHAVIOR COULD LEAD TO
  STRESS?
• AND
• HOW?

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• Nonassertiveness gt not satisfying your own
  needs/wishes gt STRESSORS!
• Aggressiveness gt strained/poor/nonexistent
  interpersonal relationships gt STRESSORS!

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NONVERBAL ASSERTIVENESS

• BE FAMILIAR WITH THE NONVERBAL SIGNS OF THE 3
  COMMUNICATION STYLES (pg. 98), but
• UNDERSTAND THAT NOT EVERY CULTURE/RACE/ETHNICITY
  CONFORMS TO THE SAME MEANINGS BEHIND NONVERBAL
  CUES AND BODY LANGUAGE

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VERBAL ASSERTIVENESS

• DESC form minus C DES
• Describe-the other persons beh. OR the
  situation, When.
• Express-your feelings, I feel
• Specify-what you would like to change, I would
  prefer or I would like you to or I want

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CONSEQUENCE?!?!

• Why take off the C (consequence)?
• What does saying If you do/dont do, I will
  imply to the other person?

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Sounds like a THREAT OR ULTIMATUM, doesnt it?

• How do most people respond to THREATS OR
  ULTIMATUMS?!
• Try the DES instead
• Group Activity

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CONFLICT RESOLUTION

• For most of us, conflict/confrontation
• Active/Reflective Listening paraphrase the
  other persons words AND feelings (what if youre
  wrong?)
• What message does attempting to
  actively/reflectively listen send?

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CONFLICT RESOLUTION cont.

• Identifying your position send an I message
  (from activity earlier)
• Exploring solutions not about winning or being
  right
• You have to decide Is it worth it?

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COMMUNICATION

• Goal is congruence between your verbal AND your
  nonverbal expression
• Plan time to talk (suggestions on pg.104)
• Listening-active/reflective listening is POWERFUL
  in everyday conversation, NOT JUST IN CONFLICTS

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COMMUNICATION cont.

• Find something to agree with
• Substitute and for butbut may
• I statements What tends to happen when you
  start with You?
• Substitute what? or how? for why

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TIME MANAGEMENT

• List of Time Management suggestionson pages
  106-109
• Many of you set Time Mgmt. Stress goals These
  strategies can help! They will also help you be
  SPECIFIC!

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SOCIAL SUPPORT NETWORK

• Just be aware of 3 types tangible, emotional,
  and informational
• Whether DIRECT EFFECT THEORY or STRESS BUFFERING
  THEORY, either way
• A strong social support network provides a strong
  foundation for

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SOCIAL SUPPORT NETWORK cont.

• Scale to measure your social support on pg.
  110-112
• TAKING CHANCES!!!