Husbands Love Your Wives!

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Husbands Love Your Wives!
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Husbands Love Your Wives!
Your Vows
"Till Death We Do Part"
Or was it "Till Divorce Do Us Part"
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Husbands Love Your Wives!
67 SIXFOLD.PURPOSE.GABRL.VST.DAN DA 45-88
1961 You women, I've hollered at you, now I'm
going to take up for you in a minute. See? The
woman is a weaker vessel. I know there can't be a
bad man before there is a bad woman. But man who
knows that, man who knows that you are a son of
God, and take advantage of a woman, shame on you!
No matter what she does, she's a weaker vessel.
And you know that. If she goes to acting
unladylike, take her by the hand and talk to her
like a sister. You're a son of God. Don't do them
evil things.
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E-35 YE.MUST.BE.BORN.AGAIN GREENVILLE.SC
1958 And notice, when a man takes a wife, and he
takes this wife into his bosom (We're a mixed
audience.), and presses this woman to his bosom
as his sweetheart, she puts her print on him.
Another woman there would mar it forever. They
are one. No other woman should ever fit that
mold. You got no right with your arms around a
woman, dance floor, or nowhere. That's right. You
got a wife, and you pulled her to your bosom, and
God put her on your heart, and printed you
against her, and she's yours. And you belong to
her.
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E-55 IT.IS.I.BE.NOT.AFRAID COLUMBIA.SC
62-0611 You know, when God made a woman, He gave
her the feminish spirit to be dainty and sweet,
like the real Christian sisters are.
152 GOD'S.GIFTS.ALWAYS.FIND.PLACE V-6 N-13
1963 Make the little housewife so sweet and
humble, that she'll be able to lead others to
You. The gift that You give her, that feminish
little ladylike, may she be so ladylike till the
neighbors will see her and want to be like her.
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The Two Become One Flesh
The Woman Was Taken
From The Man
CLEAVE
LEAVE
ONE FLESH
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Husbands Love Your Wives!
Two Become One Flesh
A One Woman Man
A One Man Woman
LEAVE
CLEAVE
ONE FLESH
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Husbands Love Your Wives!
49 CORINTHIANS.BOOK.OF.CORRECTION 1957 And God
goes over in the heart of Adam, this rib right
out from under his heart, and takes a rib and
makes the wife and the very part of Adam's
spirit was in the woman, and they two are one.
Soul, body, spirit, they are one. They are
perfect oneness, a real woman and a real husband,
a real wife. They are one together. What is it a
type of? Christ.
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Marriage Begins In Oneness Of Soul
ltDivision Betweengt
Soul
Spirit
Physical
lt Both Going Their Own Way gt
Marriage Ends In Divorce (Actual or Psychological)
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Husbands Love Your Wives!
1) She is not "First Place"
Sows Preoccupation with other people,
possessions, or activities, be they religious or
carnal.
Reaps A wife who doubts your love and becomes
insecure.
As a husband, you are to provide Protection,
Provision Direction, that is your requirement
as head of the home.
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Here are some how do's to make her feel "First
Place"
A) Establish a weekly date night.
B) Make a surprise appointment for lunch.
C) Give her occasional calls during the day.
D) Help with some of her jobs.
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Husbands Love Your Wives!
Your Vows
"Till Death We Do Part"
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E) Meet her deepest need - Intimate Conversation.
i) Events of her day, needs activities of the
children.
ii) Her ideas on home improvements.
iii) How she feels about certain things.
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E-17 DIVINE.LOVE PHOENIX.AZ 57-0305 And I
said, "Sweetheart, you know what?" She's just a
woman, you know, and she likes pretty dresses,
and you know, and pocketbooks. And she don't get
them all the time, She likes them. So I said,
"You know, I saw one of the pretty dresses I ever
saw." She said, "You did?" I said, "Yes, honey
I did." And I thought, "Lord God, help me now."
And I laid my hand over on her little stooped
shoulder. And I said, "Honey, you should see it."
She said, "Yes." I said, "Lord, be good to me
now and help me." I said, "Now, I've got to
believe that You're going to this. This in my
little family, and these sick people has got them
all upset, but You help me."
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E-19 DIVINE.LOVE PHOENIX.AZ 57-0305 So I had
my hand on her little shoulder, and I begin to
try to create, in my heart. "Lord, I'm happy.
There's nothing wrong with me. I love You, You
know I do, and You just straighten out my little
family." And after while, I said, "Tell you what,
honey, I'll show you where those dresses are."
Let's get the kiddies a little bite of supper,
and then we'll start. And the first thing I got
my apron and tied it around me, and I got to
helping her and talking about something else.
When she got quiet, I looked down, and Sarah and
Becky had signed the peace treaty, and they were
playing and little Joseph was just a shaking his
little rattle box and having a good time. You
see, you've got to get in the right kind of an
atmosphere.
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E-24 WHEN.DIVINE.LOVE.IS.PROJECTED 1957 So I
slipped over, and got an apron, and put it around
me, and I begin to help her. And I said, "Honey,
you know what? I saw the prettiest dress the
other day. I just so wanted to get it for you.
And it was in a certain city just here close, and
we'll go get it. What was it? Projecting love.
They were mine, my children, my wife, and I was
god. And then God giving His Spirit, and through
that Spirit, with love to my family, sovereign
grace come in and quietened the family. It'll do
it. I know it will.
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F) Purpose to have good manners.
When was the last time you told your wife how
much you enjoyed the meal?
When was the last time you seated her at the
table?
When was the last time you opened the door for
her - especially the car door?
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2) Lacking In Spiritual Leadership
Sows He shows lack of interest in being the
spiritual leader.
Reaps She gets the feeling of insecurity unable
to place full confidence in you seeks spiritual
leadership from others.
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The Evidence Of A Spiritual Leader Is
a) Teaching God's principles to his family
b) Leading in prayer times
c) Leading in having a regular quiet time.
d) Leading in memorising scripture and getting
the children to do so too.
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The Evidence Of A Spiritual Leader Is
e) Setting the example of sharing Christ with
others.
f) Setting the example in refusing to comprise on
your Scriptural convictions.
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3) Not Giving The Wife Adequate Preparation For
Changes!
Sows He does not give her time to rearrange her
frame of reference for major adjustments.
Reaps She becomes insecure, apprehensive and
bitter.
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4) Unfavorable Comparisons With Other Women
Sows He openly admires appearance or abilities
of other women which she lacks.
Reaps She is deeply hurt, and can become jealous
and then she begins to reject herself.
It destroys her sense of self worth
When you as her husband delight in her inward
character, it frees her to respond to physical
difficulties that would normally devastate her.
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5) Lack Of Inner Discipline Concerning Other Women
Sows He lacks discipline in anger, displays
moral weakness, and refuses to discuss it.
Reaps Her admiration and respect for him are
greatly damaged.
As a husband, you need to make a covenant with
your eyes be a "one-woman man" to gain victory
daily.
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1959 The other day, Friday, wife and I was going
to the store. I don't mean to harp on this. But
as we went down the street, I just kept turning
my head one way for the other naked women. I
promised God when I was a blind man, if He'd heal
my eyes I'd look at the thing was right. I keep a
little cross hanging in my car. When I see such
as that, I look at the cross and say, "O God,
that's my Refuge," as I looked at the cross.
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6) Attempts To Correct Her In Public
Sows He uses jokes or cutting remarks in public
to emphasise something he has been trying to
change in her.
Reaps She feels her self-worth is damaged
reacts with a desire to retaliate in public.
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7) Rejection Of Her Opinions As Unimportant
Sows He evaluates her opinions from his larger
frame of reference versus her immediate frame.
Reaps She is hurt and hindered from sharing
cautions concerning his judgment or character.
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There can be several rewards that will come to a
man that will listens to the cautions of his
wife.
First of all, he strengthens the spirit of his
marriage.
Second, he can avoid financial losses and
emotional drains that would have come from unwise
decisions.
God will often give special prompting of danger
to the wife that He will not give to the husband.
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8) Inconsistent In Discipline Of The Children
Sows He defends or takes sides with the children
against her.
Reaps She feels he is being disloyal to her she
blames him for the rebellious children.
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9) Unwillingness To Ask Forgiveness
Sows He tends not to want to admit failures.
Half-hearted repentance
Reaps She reacts to his pride and loses respect
for him.
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Marriage Begins In Oneness Of Soul
ltDivision Betweengt
Soul
Spirit
Physical
lt Both Going Their Own Way gt
Marriage Ends In Divorce (Actual or Psychological)
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Conclusion
When there is harmony in the husband wife
relationship, there is an infused stability
within all the family members.
Brothers, it is up to you to set the atmosphere
in your home and to maintain that atmosphere.
Your wife is the helpmate not the initiator. You
Are!