Loving others to Action

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Loving others to Action

• Answering before listening is both stupid and
  rude. Proverbs 1819

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How to Love Others to Action

• Be a spiritual leader.
• Be a loveable leader.
• Be a constructive leader.

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Spiritual Leadership is Loving

• Fair
• Loving
• Humble

• He has shown all you people what is good. And
  what does the Lord require of you? To act justly
  and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your
  God.
• Micah 68

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Fair leadership

• But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of
  all pure then peace-loving, considerate,
  submissive, full of mercy and good fruit,
  impartial and sincere. Peacemakers who sow in
  peace reap a harvest of righteousness.
  Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of
  righteousness. James 318
• If you can keep your head when everyone around is
  losing theirs, then you can actually help. R.
  Kipling

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loving leadership

• He had to be made like his brothers in every
  way, in order that he might become a merciful and
  faithful high priest in service to God, and that
  he might make atonement for the sins of the
  people. Heb.2.17
• LoaTzu (tao) The evolved leader only leads when
  completely identified with the people, when their
  concerns become his.
• Maxwell People dont care how much you know
  until they know how much you care.

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humble leadership

• He came to Simon Peter who said to him, Lord,
  are you going wash my feet? John 1316

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loved or feared?

• Commonality
• Law of Association
• Frequency of Contact
• Reciprocal Affection
• Others Sensibilities
• Similar Appearance
• Receiving Favor
• Humble Demeanor
• Positive Attitude

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Constructive Leadership

• Communicating that people matter!
• Turn around moments in your life who was
  involved?
• What you say and do matters.

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Constructive Feedback

• When you see good work.
• When you see poor work.
• When you see a dead end.

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Never let Good work go unnoticed

• Encourage one another daily and build each other
  up, just as you are doing. 1Thes.511
• Be immediate.
• Be specific.

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Never let Poor work go Unnoticed

• All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for
  teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in
  righteousness. 2Tim.3.16
• Keep it private.
• Keep it positive.
• Proceed with caring. Attitude checks needed.

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Never let poor work go unnoticed

• Let the employee choose own path
• How do you think it could have gone better?
• What can be done different next time?

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Never let poor work go unnoticed

• Practical guidance.
• Sometimes Ill say something like
• What works for me is . . . What has worked for
  you?

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Mistakes Mean They ARE Trying!
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Never let Bad Habits Go Unnoticed

• Slack habits and sloppy work are as bad as
  vandalism. Pr.189 (Message)
• Keep it private.
• Keep it positive.
• Set the tone for a difficult personal
  conversation.
• Be direct but gentle.
• Be completely humble and gentle. Be patient,
  bearing with one another in love. Eph.4.2

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Never let bad habits go unnoticed

• Personal Feedback.
• I feel awkward about this
• Sometimes your body odor is too noticeable.

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Never let bad habits go unnoticed

• Avoid Sidetracks!
• I dont mean to offend, but we need to go
  forward. I need you to show up without noticible
  body odor. I brought it up because its my job,
  and I want you to succeed.

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Never let Bad Habit Go Unnoticed

• Better is an open rebuke than hidden love.
  Pr.275
• Constructive leadership means you CARE! Caring
  means you NOTICE! What people do really matters.

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Constructive Feedback

• When you see good work.
• When you see poor work.
• When you see a dead end.

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Turn from a Dead End Road

• Those whom I love, I rebuke and discipline. So
  be earnest, and repent. Rev.319
• THE TWO MINUTE CHALLENGE
• State what you observe.
• Wait for a response.
• Remind them of the goal.
• Ask for simple solution.
• Agree together.

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Turn from a Dead End Road

• State.
• You have missed three meetings in a row.
• No editorial
• Just behavior.

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Turn from a Dead End Road

• Wait.
• Do not be sidetracked.
• Your relationship is not the issue, its the
  behavior.
• Do not fill in a silent gap with your own
  material.

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Turn from a Dead End Road

• Remind.
• We work together as a team, you need to be at
  the meetings.
• Opportunity for more sidetracks.

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Turn from a Dead End Road

• Ask.
• So how will you make it to the next meeting?
• Everyone has a complex life. Stay true to goal.
• Sorry to hear that but we depend on you too.

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Turn from a Dead End Road

• Agree.
• Mutual clear statement.
• So, next Friday, you will be at the meeting.
• Ill be at the meeting on Friday.
• I hope things work out at

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Turn from a Dead End Road

• Those whom I love, I rebuke and discipline. So
  be earnest, and repent. Rev.319
• THE TWO MINUTE CHALLENGE
• State what you observe.
• Wait for a response.
• Remind them of the goal.
• Ask for simple solution.
• Agree together.

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Constructive Feedback

• When you see good work.
• Immediate
• Specific
• When you see poor work.
• Keep it private
• Keep it positive
• When you see a poor habit.
• Set the tone.
• Be direct but gentle.
• When you see a dead end.
• Two Minute Drill. State. Wait. Remind. Ask.
  Agree.

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LOVING OTHERS TO ACTION

• Be a spiritual leader.
• Be a loveable leader.
• Be a construc-tive leader.