Title: Session 3
1Session 3 meeting greeting
2STOP! Assignment
Name 7 types of communications you may encounter
in one working day.
37 types of communications you may experience in
any one day.
- Verbal
- email
- Phone
- Visual
- Notes
- Memos
- Touch
4The First Four Minutes!
- Client decides what they think of you
- Client decides what they think of the RSPCA
5First impressions
- Available parking
- Tidiness of surrounds
- Cleanliness
- Bright inviting waiting room
- Odour free
- Personal grooming attitude of staff
6Essentials!
- Smile ?
- eye contact
- Use names
- Be attentive
- Posture attention
- Voice pitch speed
7- Thanks for calling in.
- Hi, my name is
- How can I help you?
- Terrible weather isnt it?
- Your dogs a bit ugly isnt it?
- Hello. That's a nice cat. I hope theres nothing
wrong.
8Summary
- Welcome the client
- Most people will introduce themselves
- Show interest
- Use the persons name
- Pronunciation
- Dont forget the client
9STOP! Assignment
Mark each question as either an Open question or
a Closed question.
10Open Questions
- Is that the only surname it can be in?
- Any other Suburb?
- What kind of sandwiches do you like?
- Do you like football or another sport?
- What kind of oysters do you like?
- What Sunday paper do you like to read?
- What else can I do for you today?
11Closed Questions
- What is your name?
- What suburb do you live in?
- What time did you go to work?
- Have you had lunch?
- What time do you finish work?
- Do you like tuna sandwiches?
- Do you like football?
- Do you eat fresh oysters?
- Do you think Santa needs to shave his beard?
12- Some of the employees have tattoos and wear lip
and eyebrow rings. I dont judge by appearances - Performance standards at work and appearance are
closely related. If one drops off so does the
other. - Do power holders wear a uniform?
13- "Clothes are to us what fur and feathers are to
beasts and birds they not only add to our
appearance, but they are our appearance. - How we look to others entirely depends upon what
we wear and how we wear it manners and speech
are noted afterward, and character last of all.
- - Emily Post 1873-1960
14Biker Chicks
15Session 4 written communication
16Trying to get that message across.
17- Choose your words carefully
- Once written and delivered, it becomes a piece of
history
18Stop!Assignment
What different types of written communications do
you use at work?
19Notes
- Bullet points
- Down the page not across
- Clear concise
- Legible
- Collate messages
- Authenticate
- Prioritize
20Always make sure that written instructions are
clear and concise!
21Signs
- Be specific
- Legible
- Obvious
- Night time friendly
- and
22 avoid confusion
23 avoid misunderstandings
24Letters (snail mail)
- Non emotive
- Correct format
- Keep copies
- Language
25Handouts Brochures
- Make sure the info is current (and remains
current) - Is the content appropriate
26STOP!Quiz
Complete the F test
27- THE TEST
- Read the sentence below
- FINISHED FILES ARE THE RE- SULT OF YEARS OF
SCIENTIF- IC STUDY COMBINED WITH THE EXPERIENCE
OF YEARS. - Now count the F's in that sentence. Count them
only once. Now
write that number down. -
28- ANSWER ?
- 6
- A person of average intelligence finds three of
them.If you spotted four, you're above average.
If you got five, you can turn your nose at most
anybody. If you saw six, you are a bloody
genius.
29- Finished files are the result of years of
scientific study combined with the experience of
years. - The human brain tends to see them as V's and not
F's.
30E-Mail Etiquette / Netiquette
31 Email etiquette 1
- Dont be a novelist.
- Messages should be succinct and concise.
- Too much punctuation.
- Exclamation points (Bangs) can be annoying
- Formatting is not everything
- Try not to use HTML or Rich Text Format
32 Email etiquette 2
- Abbreviations
- FYI BTW are common, others are not!
- Salutations
- How personal is personal?
- Signatures
- 4 or 5 lines with name, title, contact details
33Email etiquette 3
- Threads
- Reply to an email. Dont start a new email.
- Bouncing Forwarding
- Quotes
- gtand do you agree with the proposal to hire Ross?
- Yes. Please make the necessary arrangements.
34 Email etiquette 4
- Save a Tree
- Dont print off every email you receive.
- Privacy
- There is no such thing as private email.
- Blessing and a Curse
- Blessing Email is not an interactive
conversation - Curse Dont assume youre mail is going to be
read straight away.
35Email etiquette 5
- Flaming
- Email that personally attacks someone
- Its unprofessional to lose control.
- Keyboard Bravery
- Flame Wars become nasty (and documented)
36 Email etiquette 6
- How to avoid being Flamed.
- Dont write in UPPER case unless making a point
- Dont worry about someone's grammar
- Consider using BCC (blind carbon copy) in mass
mail outs rather than CC - Dont send frivolous or unnecessary emails (SPAM)
37Email etiquette 7
- Read Receipts, High Priority and Important.
- Dont use read receipts
- Dont put URGENT or IMPORTANT in subject lines
- Checking
- Use spell checkers and grammar checkers
- Simpl tipos will make u lok sloppie and damage
you re professionla credubity
38 Email etiquette 8
- Avoid sarcasm and humor
- Fraud
- Be careful about what you read - email forgery is
trivially simple. - Subject Line
- Meaningful and descriptive
- Eg todays meeting of training committee not
Gday Mate - RSPCA IT policy
39Session 5 - Telephone
40Telephone 2
- Dont allow the phone to ring continuously
- Answer with a smile ?
- Say good morning or good afternoon
- Be enthusiastic
- Volunteer help
41Telephone 3
- Service every 30 seconds
- Use polite phrasing
- Use open questions
- Pay attention
- Try not to say NO!
42Telephone 4
- Empathy
- Make the client pleased to have called
- Take notes-pencil paper
- Be confident
- Use the callers name
- Be polite
- End the call pleasantly
43STOP!Assignment
Telephone Answering Test
44Effective communications
- Pleasant voice
- Correct speed
- Clear manner of pronunciation (diction)
- Correct volume
- Correct Grammar
- No slang
- Use of language
- Limited hesitations
45If your speech is
- too fast, then
- too slow, then
- too soft, then
- too monotonous, then
46Revision 1
- Telephone Communication
- A voice and your imagination
- You and your attitude make the difference
- Three rings
47Revision 2
- Call Answering
- Your voice is everything
- Always use your name
- Build rapport use the callers name
- YOU are the organisation
48Revision 3
- Messages
- Gather pertinent information
- Check back the details with the caller
- Make sure the message is delivered
49Revision 4
- Hold
- Give callers the option of waiting
- Explain why and how long
- Reassure
- Thank
- Apologize
50Revision 5
- Transferring
- Request that they hold
- Explain to whom they are being transferred too
- How the transfer will help them
- Be aware of how your phone system works
51Revision 6
- Complaints
- Calm the customer
- Dont get emotional
- Get to the real problem
- Formulate a plan and get agreement
- Take Action
52Revision 7
- Making Calls on behalf of the RSPCA
- Remember attitude and voice quality
- Leave detailed messages including viable contact
details - Set an agenda
- YOU are the organisation
53- Desirable Qualities
- When the voice includes a smile
- When it has a pleasant sound
- When it is well articulated
- When it sounds warm
- When it varies in pitch
- When it varies in volume
- When its loud enough
54- Undesirable Qualities
- Nasally sound
- When they talk too slowly
- When they talk to quickly
- When there is insufficient volume
- When it sounds impatient
- When people speak in a monotone
- When people are smoking or eating
- When there is no variety of pitch or volume
55Session 6 Assertiveness
Assertiveness is not what you do, it's who you
are! Cal Le Mon
56Assertive v. Aggression
- Assertiveness involves putting your feelings and
opinions forward without losing sight of another
persons rights and feelings. - Aggressiveness involves making demands without
consideration for the needs of others. - Non assertive behaviour.
- Refer to handout assertive communication
57- Assertiveness is the ability to honestly express
your opinions, feelings, attitudes, and rights,
without undue anxiety, in a way that doesn't
infringe on the rights of others. - It's not aggressiveness, it's a middle ground
between being a bully and a doormat. - Its dependant on a feeling of self-efficacy
58Why is assertiveness important?
- Depression
- Resentment
- Frustration
- Temper /violence
- Anxiety leading to avoidance
- Poor relationships of all kinds
- Physical complaints
- Parenting problems
59Selective Assertiveness
- Is it easier to be assertive in some situations
than in others? - Its easier to hold your ground against strangers
than with someone you love. - Its important to be assertive in a relationship.
- Assertive behaviours lead to increased respect
from others.
60Is assertiveness the way to go?
- Before you decide to act assertively in a given
situation, consider the consequences - Assertive behaviour usually results in a positive
outcome. - Some people may react negatively to your
assertive behaviour
613 parts to an assertive intervention
- 1 Empathy / Validation
- Try to show some understanding of the other
persons feelings. - E.G. I know that you are anxious when youre
ready to go and Im not ready yet.
62- 2 Statement of problem
- This describes your difficulty or dissatisfaction
and tells why you need something to change. - E.G. but when you do that, I get flustered and
take even more time. By the time we get into the
car were mad at each other and not much in the
mood to have a good time.
63- 3 Statement of what you want
- This is a specific request for a specific change
in the other persons behaviour. - E.G. From now on, lets be sure we know what time
we want to leave, and if youre ready before I
am, will you please just go to another room and
read the paper or watch TV? -
64How to be effectively assertive. 1
- Use assertive body language.
- Face the person, stand or sit straight.
- Dont use dismissive gestures
- Be pleasant
- Use a serious facial expression
- Keep your voice calm and soft. Not whiney and
abrasive.
65How to be effectively assertive. 2
- Use I statements.
- Keep the focus on your problem, not accusing or
blaming the other person. - E.G. Id like to be able to tell my stories
without interruption - rather than, Youre always interrupting me!
66How to be effectively assertive. 3
- Use facts, not judgments.
- E.G. 1 Your punctuation needs work and your
formatting is inconsistent. - Rather than, This is sloppy work
- E.G. 2 Did you know that shirt has some spots
on it? - Rather than, Youre not going out looking like
THAT are you?
67How to be effectively assertive. 4
- Express ownership of your thoughts, feelings and
opinions. - E.G. 1 I get angry when he breaks his promises
- Rather than, He makes me angry.
- E.G. 2 I believe the best policy is to
- Rather than, The only sensible thing is to
68STOP!Assignment
- Go to page 31 in class notes
Complete the table at the bottom
69The rights of an assertive person
- To express yourself
- To change your mind
- To be wrong
- To be responsible for your decisions and actions
- Not to be responsible for others
- To judge your own thoughts and actions
70Becoming an assertive person
- Self Awareness
- aware of strengths weaknesses
- Self Esteem
- being comfortable with the way we are perceived
- Self Confidence
- developed from self awareness self esteem
71Dealing with Confrontation
- 4 common ways to protect from confrontation
- Avoidance
- Regression
- Repression
- Blocking
72- Using assertiveness in confrontation
- Choose the time for confrontation and set a time
limit - Choose the place somewhere away from noise and
interruption - Maintain emotional control- it means you maintain
control during the conversation
73Techniques for difficult situations
- Broken Record
- Fogging
- Content to Process Shift
- Defusing
- Assertive inquiry / stop action
- Summarization
- Specificity
74Final Points
- If you want people to respond to your ideas you
have to be able to say what they are. - If you dont believe you can be assertive, try
some of the ideas in not very threatening
situations. - If its really scary then try it first with people
you dont know. - Assertive people have an increased self respect
that is contagious
75- Behavioural Styles
- The Director
- The Expressive
- The Thinker
- The Relater
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77STOP!Assignment
Do the self test!
78Session 7 Handling Difficult People
79Session 7 Handling Difficult People
- The communications process takes two people, both
with emotions, attitudes and mannerisms. - STOP!
- What sort of customers do we deal with?
80- Why are they like they are?
- Angry
- Hostile
- Complainer
- Know it all
- Talker
- Quiet one
81Problem Solving Approach
- Define the problem in terms of needs not
solutions - Use brainstorming for possible solutions to
conflict - Need to find a solution that will serve both
parties needs - Plan implementation. Who will do what when.
- Evaluate the solution. Has the problem been
overcome.
82The Angry Person
- Stay calm and cool
- Calm them down
- Dont get defensive
- Identify the problem
- Get on with the job
- Dont pass the blame onto someone else
- Dont run others down
- Dont get into an argument
83The Talkative Person
- Stay calm
- Ask them pertinent questions
- Get to the point
- Direct their conversation to where you want it to
go - Take time
- Be aware of the personal needs of the speaker
- If they are lonely and only want to talk arrange
an appointment or ring them back when you have
more time
84The Rude Person
- Ignore their unpleasantness, remember they are
probably rude to everybody - Persevere, dont take it personally
- Be as helpful as possible and be professional
- Stay calm
- Get the job done
- Listen, analyse and try to attend to specific
needs and problems
85The Snooty Person
- Avoid putting them down
- Flatter them
- Be very careful what you say
- Know your business
- Keep your information up to date
- Stay calm
86The Silent Person
- Dont chatter
- Dont yell
- Build their confidence
- Offer short, factual information
- Get to know them and gain their confidence
- Use open ended questions
87The Inquisitive Person
- Be patient
- Dont hurry them
- Keep calm
- Gain their trust
- Have a good knowledge of your products
- Always a valuable client if you can satisfy them
88The Chronic Complainer
- Listen to them
- Let them know that youve grasped what they have
said, that you know how they feel and that you
take them seriously - Include them in problem solving
- Acknowledge their role in bringing the problem to
your attention
89 90Relationships within Work
- What makes a good Boss?
- What are the hallmarks of a bad Boss?
- Solve problems using tact and assertiveness
91STOP!Assignment
House Drawing exercise
92Rules to Adopt
- Maintain a professional and courteous manner
- Listen attentively
- Acknowledge that you are listening
- Avoid making judgments or justifying the problem
- Offer immediate and practical help and agree on a
course of action - Maintain open and positive non verbal
communication - Empathise
93 Teamwork
94- Eleven Commandments for Successful Teamwork
- Help each other be right -- not wrong.
- Look for new ways to make new ideas work not
for reasons they won't. - If in doubt -- check it out. Don't make negative
assumptions about each other. - Help each other win and take pride in each
other's victories. - Speak positively about each other and about your
organization at every opportunity.
95- Eleven Commandments for Successful Teamwork
- Maintain a positive mental attitude no matter
what the circumstances. - Act with initiative and courage as if it all
depends upon you. - Do everything with enthusiasm -- it's contagious.
- Share the glory to get the credit -- give it
away. - Don't lose faith -- never give up.
- Love what you do -- have fun!
96Session 8 Handling Grief
97- Why are animals euthanased?
98Grieving Process 1
- Denial- usually before death- may deny that the
animal is ill - Bargaining - usually before death
- Anger overt and covert
- it is essential for the resolution of grief
- refrain from reacting- may blame the organisation
for the problem - Guilt inward turned anger
- Depression - may occur if the owner is unable to
manage their emotions
99Grieving Process 2
- True grief occurs after the other symptoms have
settled down - Lack of support prolongs grief.
- Owner may just need to talk.
- Assure them it is normal and acceptable to
display sadness over the loss of a pet
100Grieving Process 3
- Resolution-the final stage occurs when all the
stress of the grieving process is complete and
they can enjoy the memory of the animal without
emotional discomfort
101Grief Support - handout
- Empathy
- Listening
- Non-judgmental
- Comfortable With Tears
- Selective Use Of Self Disclosure
- Understanding, Acceptance Boundaries
- Self Awareness Self Care
- Appropriate Compassion
- Knowledge Of The Grief Recovery Process
102- Important to handle the dead body with care and
respect. - What are the advantages of being with your pet
when it is euthanased? - What are the disadvantages?
103- How do we discuss the options available for
disposal of a pet? - How do we discuss the options for payment of
accounts dealing with euthanasia?
104Session 9 Stress Management
105What is Stress?
- Stress is a psychological and physiological
reaction to some form of pressure being applied
to the individual. Individuals convert pressure
into stress according to their perceptions and
personality. - S P gt R
106External Internal Stressors
107External Stressors
- Physical Environment
- Social Interaction
- Organisational
- Major Life Events
- Daily hassles
- Psychological environments
- abusive relationships
108Internal Stressors
- Lifestyle choices
- Negative self-talk
- Mind traps
- Personality traits
109Individuals
- Everyone is different, with unique perceptions
of, and reactions to, events. - There is no single level of stress that is
optimal for all people. - Some are more sensitive owing to experiences in
childhood, the influence of teachers, parents and
religion etc. -
110Positive stress
- Stress can also have a positive effect, spurring
motivation and awareness, providing the
stimulation to cope with challenging situations. - Stress also provides the
- sense of urgency and
- alertness needed for
- survival when confronting
- threatening situations.
111Acute or Chronic stress
- Stressors are defined as short term (acute) or
long term (chronic) - Acute Stress
- Reaction to an immediate threat (fight or flight
response) - Once the threat has passed the response is
inactivated (relaxation response)
112- Chronic Stress
- In stressful situations that are not short lived
and the fight or flee urge must be suppressed,
then stress becomes chronic. - On going high pressure work
- Long term relationship problems
- Loneliness
- Persistent financial worries
113Acute Stress-The Angry Bear Story
- Envisage being chased by a Bear!
- In response to seeing the bear, a part
- of the brain called the hypothalamic-pituitary-ad
renal (HPA) system is activated. - HPA triggers release of steroid hormones
including Cortisol which marshals the body to
deal with the bear. - Cortisol
114Bear story 2
- The HPA at the same time releases
neurotransmitters such as adrenaline - The neurotransmitters activate the amygdala,
which triggers an emotional response. In this
case probably fear!
115Bear story 3
- Some neurotransmitters signal the hippocampus
which stores the experience - So that the person knows not to go near another
bear - Neurotransmitters also suppress concentration,
inhibition and rational thought. This allows a
person to react quickly to the bear without to
much thought.
116Bear story 4
- Response by heart, lungs, circulation etc
- As the bear comes closer
- Breathing becomes rapid and lungs take in more
oxygen - Blood flow increases 300 priming the muscles and
brain - Spleen discharges red and white blood cells
allowing more oxygen to be carried in the blood
117Bear story 5
- Immune Systems Response
- As a confrontation with the bear appears
imminent - Steroid hormones dampen parts of the immune
system so that infection fighters can be rapidly
redistributed. - White blood cells are sent to specific front
lines such as skin, bone marrow and lymph nodes
118Bear story 6
- Acute Response in the Mouth Throat
- As the bear gets closer still
- Fluids are diverted from non essential locations
such as the mouth. - This causes dehydration and difficulty in
talking - Difficult to swallow.
119Bear story 7
- Skins Response
- The stress effect diverts blood away from the
skin to support the heart and muscle tissue. - Also reduces likelihood of heavy blood lose.
- The physical effect is a cool, clammy, sweaty
skin. - Scalp also tightens so that the hair sticks up
120Bear story 8
- Metabolic Response to Acute Stress
- Stress shuts down digestive activity, non
essential body function during short term periods
of physical crisis
121Bear story 9 - conclusion
- Once the threat has passed, and providing the
bear hasnt killed or injured you, the stress
hormones return to normal. In turn the body
returns to normal The Relaxation Response
122Trivial Interlude
Postcards from St Martins Airport
123What are the negative effects of stress?
- Stress related conditions likely to be negative
include - Accumulation of persistent uncontrolled stressful
situations - Persistent stress following severe acute response
to a traumatic event - An inefficient or insufficient relaxation
response - Acute stress in people with serious illness
(heart disease)
124Negative effects of stress 1
- Psychological
- Inability to adapt to stress leads to depression
and anxiety. - Heart Disease
- Stress is a major trigger for angina and serious
cardiac events - Stroke
- Men under stress are more susceptible to strokes
than those not under stress - Pain
- Tension headaches are highly associated with
stress
125Negative effects of stress 2
- Susceptibility to Infections
- Chronic stress blunts the immune system and
increases the risk of infection - Gastrointestinal Problems
- Prolonged stress can disrupt the digestive system
causing diarrhea, constipation etc etc - Eating problems
- weight gain and weight loss depending on the
individual
126Negative effects of stress 3
- Diabetes
- Chronic stress has been associated with the
development of insulin resistance, a primary
factor in diabetes - Sleep Disturbances
- Tension from unresolved stress frequently causes
insomnia. - Sexual and reproductive Dysfunction
- Stress can lead to diminished sexual desire
127Negative effects of stress 4
- Memory Concentration Problems
- Significant effects on the brain, particularly on
memory. - Loss of concentration causing inefficiency and
accident proneness - Self-medication
- Can lead to drug and alcohol abuse, tobacco use,
abnormal eating habits or passive activities such
as sitting in front of the TV.
128Who is _at_ Risk?
- Personality Traits
- Some people over respond to stressful events
- Genetic Factors
- Some people have genetic factors that affect
stress such as a better relaxation response - The length and quality of stressors
- The longer the duration the more harmful the
effect.
129Individuals
_at_ Risk
- -Younger Adults
- -Working Mothers
- -Isolated individuals
- -The unemployed
- -Less educated individuals
- -People who live in cities
- -Divorced / widowed individuals
130Others _at_ Risk
- Caregivers
- Caregivers of disabled family members
- Health Professional Caregivers
- Angry Personalities
- Less emotionally stable or have high anxiety
levels tend to experience specific events as more
stressful. - Lack of social network
- Lack of established network influences stress
disorders and stress related health problems.
131Work Related Factors
- Job related stress is chronic stress.
132Work Stress
- Can lead to
- harassment or
- violence
- Extreme work stress can be fatal
- Karoushi sudden death due to work overload
133Intense work stressors
- No participation in decisions relating to self
- Unrelenting demands for performance
- Lack of effective communications or conflict
resolution methods - Lack of job security
- Long hours
- Office politics and conflict between workers
134Non Stress Conditions 1
- Anxiety Disorders
- Anxiety is an emotional disorder
- Symptoms mirror stress
- Apprehension, uncertainty,
- fear, panic
- Triggers not normally associated
- with specific threat or stressful situation
- May result from untreated chronic stress
135Non Stress conditions 2
- Depression
- May result from untreated chronic stress
- Mimics stress symptoms
- Appetite, sleep, concentration
- Serious depression
- Sadness
- Hopelessness
- Loss of interest
- suicidal thoughts
www.beyondblue.org.au
136Non Stress conditions 3
- Post Traumatic Stress Disorder Syndrome
- PTSD is a reaction to a very traumatic event such
as intense combat or sexual assault - Classified as an anxiety disorder
- Patient struggles to forgot event
- Develops emotional numbness and event related
amnesia - Mental flashbacks, intrusive dreams, disturbing
thoughts.
137Considerations for reducing STRESS
- No single method is uniformly successful
- What works for one person does not necessarily
work for another - Controllable stress provides interest and
excitement, and motivation toward greater
achievement - Consult a doctor if there is associated illness
138Stress reduction methods 1
- Healthy Diet
- Whole grains, vegetables, fruits
- Avoid excess alcohol, caffeine and tobacco
- Relaxation / or meditation
- Listening or playing music
- Lowers blood pressure, respiration and pulse rate
- Releases muscle tension
- Eases emotional strain
139Stress reduction methods 2
- Re-framing
- Change the way you look at things. This wont
change the external reality but helps you to see
things in different light. - Network
- talk the problem over with a friend
- Consult doctor, councillor, Chaplin
- Join a hobby club or church
- Think about taking some courses such as
assertiveness training or conflict resolution - Employee Assistance Program (EAP) ph. 1300 366
789
140Stress reduction methods 2
- Cognitive Behavioural Techniques
- Most effective way to reduce stress
- Identifies sources of stress
- Finding methods of managing and reducing stress
- Recognise limitations
- Exercise
- Effective distraction
- Fewer sick days than sedentary workers
- Stress poses significantly less danger to overall
health in the physically active.
141Exercise Tips
- Do Aerobics Swimming
- Yoga or Tai Chi
- Brisk walking
- (even short walks reduce stress)
- Make a plan
- (Executing a plan develops feelings of control)
-
- Start slowly
- strenuous exercise can be dangerous
- 10 minutes /day (3 x /week)
- 30 minutes / day (every 2nd day)
142Time Management
- Make a list
- What MUST be done
- What SHOULD be done
- What would YOU like to do
- Cut out time wasting
- Learn to drop unimportant activities
- Say no or delegate
143The End!
- Please complete a feedback form.
- Thank you for your attention
- And be safe at work!
Regards Lindsay