TALK IT OUT Conflict Resolution in the Elementary Classroom Lesson 1

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TALK IT OUTConflict Resolution in the Elementary
ClassroomLesson 1

• Based on the book
• By
• Barbara Porro
• c 1996

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Lesson 1Introduction to Conflict Resolution

• What is conflict?

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Responses to Conflict

• Ignoring
• Fighting
• Talk It Out

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Responses to ConflictIGNORING

• Ignoring (denial) happens when someone is angry
  but will not admit they are angry.
• Instead of talking about it they keep it inside.
• What can happen when you keep your thoughts and
  feelings locked inside?

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IGNORING

• Have you ever tried to ignore a problem or
  conflict?
• How did that work for you?
• Is ignoring a good way to solve a conflict? Why
  or why not?

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Consequences ofIGNORING

• Ignoring doesnt fix anything.
• You dont get a chance to tell your feelings.
• The other person doesnt know that something is
  bothering you.
• The same problem keeps happening over and over.

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Responses to ConflictFIGHTING

• Fighting happens when youre angry or upset with
  someone and are hurtful in return.
• You try to force the person to give you what you
  want.

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FIGHTING

• Have you ever tried to fight to solve a problem
  or conflict?
• How did that work for you?
• Is fighting a good way to solve a conflict? Why
  or why not?

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Consequences ofFIGHTING

• The other person might fight back.
• Someone could get hurt.
• You WILL get into trouble at school.
• It is not a solution and the problem continues
  and often gets worse!
• Someone might seek revenge to get back at you!!

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Responses to ConflictTALK IT OUT

• You tell the person what is bothering you.
• You talk in a way that does not hurt or blame the
  other person.
• You LISTEN to each other.
• You find a solution.

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TALK IT OUT

• Have you ever tried to Talk It Out to solve a
  problem or conflict?
• How did that work for you?
• Is Talk It Out a good way to solve a conflict?
  Why or why not?

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Consequences ofTALK IT OUT

• When you talk honestly and kindly you can often
  solve a problem.
• The solution is fair to everyone.
• The situation improves.
• Hurt feelings go away and your friendship is
  better.

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A Story with Three Endings

• It is recess and Tom is playing with a ball.
• Sue walks over and asks if she can play.
• Lets take a look at the responses. Can you
  identify them?
• (from Talk It Out by Barbara Porro, p. 121)

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Are there times when TALK IT OUT is not a good
choice?

• A bigger kid is starting a fight.
• Someone is threatening you.
• Alcohol or drugs may be involved.