Standards of Behavior When Traveling Overseas

1
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• Standards of Behavior When Traveling Overseas
• by
• Allister Nisbet

2
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• BACKGROUND
• WHOM DO YOU TRUST?

3
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• BACKGROUND
• WHOM DO YOU TRUST?
• Does knowing their rank
• change your opinion?

• 1. Bosun 2. Chief Engineer
• 3. A.B. 4. 3rd Officer

4
Who are These Men?
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• 1. Sir Bob Geldof Inspiration behind Band
  Aid / Live Aid Concerts, which raised famine
  awareness and millions of dollars in famine
  relief. He was recently knighted by Queen
  Elizabeth II in honor of his contribution to
  humanitarian projects. He was also nominated for
  the Nobel Peace Prize.

5
Who are These Men?
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• 2. Dr. Harold Shipman UK doctor found
  guilty of murdering 15 (mainly elderly)
  patients by lethal injection. Suspect in
  100s of other cases. Committed suicide while
  serving multiple life sentences in prison.

6
Who are These Men?
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• 3. Thomas Hamilton Shot and killed 16
  primary school children and their teacher in
  a classroom in the UK. Then, he shot and
  killed himself.

7
Who are These Men?
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• 4. Timothy McVeigh The Oklahoma City
  bomber a terrorist against his own country.
  He killed 168 people with a 4,000 lb.
  home-made bomb. Executed by the State.

8
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• First impressions are very important, but be
  careful not to judge people too quickly.
• National stereotyping is a lazy way of judging
  people-
• - Russians are NOT all alcoholics
• - Americans are NOT all fat
• - British food is NOT all terrible

9
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• Exploring National Stereotypes
• International - seen through a
• stereotypical European prism

Heaven Having a French lover, an Italian cook,
a German car, British police, and all
organized by the Swiss. Hell Having a
Swiss lover, a British cook, a French car,
German police, and all organized by Italians.
Create your own ideas of international Heaven
and Hell using a stereotypical Asian prism.
10
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• We all have differences
• Backgrounds
• Ambitions
• Interests
• Habits
• Beliefs
• Appearance
• Way of expressing ourselves
• OPINIONS!

11
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• Learn to respect cultural and national
  differences. 
• Share our similarities, celebrate our
  differences.
• As the world gets smaller, more people meet and
  work with each other across cultural and national
  boundaries.

12
International Code of Basic Social Behavior
DISCUSSION

• What is your opinion of those
• who look or act differently than you?
• Would the world be a better place if we all spoke
  the same language?
• Is the Peoples Republic of China a better
  country than others?

13
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• Coming together is a beginning, staying together
  is
• progress, and working together is success

people achieve more as a result of working with
others than against them.
14
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• Human Characteristics
• 6 of the best
• HONESTY
• RESPONSIBILITY
• RESPECT
• SELF-CONTROL
• PROMISE-KEEPING
• EQUALITY

15
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• HONESTY 
• Telling the truth
• Meaning what you say

There is one way to find out if a man is honest
ask him! If he says yes you know he's crooked.
16
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• RESPONSIBILITY
• Carrying out your obligations or duties
• Answering for your own actions

17
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• RESPECT
• Treating everyone, including yourself, with
  dignity.
• Having respect for yourself and others.
• Respecting your own and other
• peoples property.
• If you wish to be treated equally,
• then you must treat others as you
• want to be treated.

18
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• SELF-CONTROL
• Being able to control
• your own actions and
• emotions.
• Understanding how your
• behavior affects those
• around you.

Self control is when your conscience tells you
to do something and you don't talk back.
19
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• PROMISE-KEEPING
• Keeping your word.
• Understanding promises
• and what it means to give
• your word.
• Society is built upon a
• foundation of promises.

The best way to keep one's word is not to give
it.
20
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• EQUALITY 
• Understanding that all people
• have the same rights.
• Treating all people fairly
• and consistently.
• One country or its people
• is not better than another.

All men are created equal, but some men are more
equal than others.
21
International Code of Basic Social Behavior
DISCUSSION

• Describe your characteristics
• Are you honest?
• Do you take responsibility?
• Are you respectful?
• Can you practice self-control?
• Can you keep promises?
• Do you believe in equality?
• Describe your personality Is the glass half-full
  or half-empty?

22
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• There are some basic social behaviors which will
  make living and working with people from other
  countries a better experience.

23
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• NOISE
• Be aware of your surroundings the people near
  you.
• Time of day.
• Radio and music.
• Mobile phones.
• Talking and Shouting.

24
International Code of Basic Social Behavior
DISCUSSION

• NOISE ANNOYS
• Does noise annoy you?
• What noises annoy you the most?
• Do you use your mobile phone in the elevator?
  The bus? Other public places?

25
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• PERSONAL HYGIENE
• Wash daily.
• Clean clothes.
• Clean teeth (at least twice a day).
• Keep hair clean and tidy.
• Keep nails clean.
• Wash hands after toilet.
• Wash hands before touching food.

26
International Code of Basic Social Behavior
DISCUSSION

• PERSONAL HYGIENE
• Is good hygiene important to you?
• Discuss this statement
• Nobody else washes their hands, why should I?

27
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• ETIQUETTE 
• Formal rules of correct and polite
• behavior in society or among
• members of a profession

28
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• ETIQUETTE (Eating and Drinking)
• Food and drink can symbolize a country, its
  people, its customs, its traditions, its history,
  its geography.
• Learning about the food and drink teaches us much
  about the people and helps us understand one
  another.

29
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• ETIQUETTE (Eating and Drinking)
• Customs dont always cross national boundaries.
• Dont be offended if people dont participate in
  your eating and drinking traditions.
• Dont cause offence by unnecessary criticism of
  other peoples customs and traditions.

30
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• ETIQUETTE (Eating and Drinking)
• General Rules of Thumb
• Wash your hands before eating.
• In formal dining, it is proper to use the correct
  knife, fork, etc., though it is less important
  than it used to be.
• Eat and drink as quietly as you can.
• Eat slowly. Take your time, this is meant to be a
  pleasurable activity.
• Dont lick the plate or the knife dont drink
  soup from the bowl.
• Dont answer your mobile phone at a formal
  restaurant.

31
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• ETIQUETTE (Eating and Drinking)
• Drinking alcohol
• If alcohol is served with European / US food it
  is usually wine or beer, rarely spirits.
• Drink alcohol in moderation. Getting drunk is not
  clever!
• Dont assume everyone drinks alcohol many
  dont.
• Drinking has its own peculiar cultural
  traditions. Joining in with someone elses
  tradition helps bonding, but be careful about
  over-indulging or causing offence if you are in
  doubt or begin to feel intoxicated, REFUSE.

32
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• ETIQUETTE (Eating and Drinking)
• Drinking alcohol
• Severe intoxication has an effect on your
• health and your ability to function at work.
• It can also lead to serious lapses in judgment.
• Dont mix the grape and the grain. In other
  words, it is usually safe to say Beer before
  liquor, youve never been sicker liquor before
  beer, youre in the clear.
• In some countries (e.g. Middle East) alcohol is
  banned and there are severe punishments for
  breaking the rules.

33
International Code of Basic Social Behavior
DISCUSSION

• ETIQUETTE (Eating and Drinking)
• Do you get nervous about eating with people from
  other countries?
• Are you prepared to try anything once?
• What if they dont like the food you provide?
• What if you dont like the food they
• provide?
• Do you think it is impolite to
• refuse an alcoholic drink?

34
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• ETIQUETTE (Toilet)
• ALWAYS wash
• your hands!
• If more soap or toilet paper or
• paper towels are needed,
• get them straight away,
• dont let the next person
• find out too late!

35
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• ETIQUETTE (Smoking)
• A major source of serious ill-health.
• Fewer people smoke than do not smoke.
• Second-hand smoking kills.
• In most countries now there are strictly
  controlled places for smoking.
• Look out for No Smoking signs. Obey them.
• Smoking while eating and while others are eating
  is regarded as extremely offensive!
• Dispose of cigarette ends carefully and
  hygienically.

36
International Code of Basic Social Behavior
DISCUSSION

• SMOKING
• DISCUSS THESE STATEMENTS
• Smoking protects against some
• illnesses.
• Smoking is not illegal. I have a right to smoke
  wherever I want.

37
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• ETIQUETTE (Litter)
• Dont drop litter EVER!
• Destroys the environment.
• Shows what you think of your
• village, town, city, country.
• Extremely offensive in some countries
• and is a criminal offence (1000 penalty).

38
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• ETIQUETTE (Swearing)
• Offensive most of the time.
• Be aware of where you are
• and who is listening.
• In different languages it could be
• misinterpreted. Be careful.
• Do not swear at people senior
• to you in any language.

39
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• ETIQUETTE (Queuing)
• Be aware of those
• around you.
• Await your turn.
• Dont crowd the
• person in front
• of you.

40
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• TRAVEL TO THE SHIP
• Be courteous to others
• they are trying to get somewhere too!
• Take your time dont push and shove.
• Let people out of elevators before getting in.
• Arrive on time (or beforehand) for scheduled
  events.
• Do not disturb your fellow passengers.
• Try to tune in to the behavior of those around
  you keep your eyes and ears open and learn.
• NEVER TAKE ANYTHING ONTO A FLIGHT FOR SOMEBODY.
• NEVER DO OR SAY ANYTHING THAT MIGHT BE
  MISINTERPRETED AS A SECURITY HAZARD.

41
International Code of Basic Social Behavior
DISCUSSION

• LITTER / SWEARING / QUEUING / TRAVEL
• DISCUSS THESE STATEMENTS
• Its okay to litter because it keeps people
  employed to pick it up.
• Swearing is an involuntary outburst,
• as natural as breathing.
• I shouldnt need to wait in line
• if all I need to do is ask a quick question.
• Im late therefore I should get priority over
  others.

42
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• ETIQUETTE (Meeting People)
• As a general rule
• Shake hands say hello (man-man).
• Nod, smile, say hello ltshake handsgt
• (man-woman).
• Introduce yourself.
• Keep a reasonable distance when talking
• with someone
• DONT INVADE THEIR PERSONAL SPACE!
• Rules of touching are complex and differ in each
  country BE VERY CAREFUL!
• Try to keep eye contact as much as possible
  (though dont stare.)

43
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• ETIQUETTE (Meeting People)
• As a general rule, what to say
• Weather, family, home, travel, job, sports
• are all safe subjects to talk about.
• Relationships, commenting upon appearance,
• recent news, are semi-safe.
• Asking about income, politics, religion or
• being openly critical are definitely
  unsafe!
• Saying Excuse me, please and thank you are
  the most basic etiquette markers. Learn them and
  use them.

44
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• ETIQUETTE (Optional Bodily Functions)
•    

45
International Code of Basic Social Behavior
DISCUSSION

• Optional Bodily Functions What is your opinion
  of these?
•    

46
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• Summary
• We are all equal as human beings.
• It is only our behavior that makes us different
  from one another.
• Understand and act according to recognized norms
  of behavior

47
International Code of Basic Social Behavior

• HIERARCHY
• Be a part of society. To function as a society,
  a family, a business, or a ship we need some
  structure.
• The hierarchy is the traditional structure many
  institutions operate under.
• It is designed so that the group can succeed as a
  group, not as a disorganized set of individuals.
• It doesnt subjugate the individual it ensures
  the individual plays his part in the success of
  the group.
• Respect those senior to you. On the ship address
  them as Sir.
• A respectful hierarchy can achieve great success.

48
International Code of Basic Social Behavior
BE THE BEST YOU CAN BE

•