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• Every day...
• 13 youth commit suicide,
• 3000 kids under age 13 have sexual intercourse
  for the first time
• 2400 cases of child abuse are reported
• 6000 households declare bankruptcy
• 68,000 people seek treatment for depression
• 2600 students drop out of high school
• 9600 students use marijuana
• 7400 students 15 and under experience oral sex
• 16,000 high school students have sexual
  intercourse
• 100,000 students bring guns to school,
• 80 teens are raped.

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• Suicide is the second leading cause of death
  among youth age 15 to 19. It has tripled since
  1960.
• "If present trends continue, 40 of today's 14
  year old girls will be pregnant at least once
  before age 20."
• By age 13, guys who have never had sex are in the
  minority. Girls who are virgins are in the
  minority by age 15.
• For those ages 15-19, suicide is the 2nd leading
  cause of death.
• Twice as many people die from suicide than from
  HIV/AIDS.
• For every two victims of homicide (murder) in the
  U.S. there are three suicide deaths.
• By age 18 - More than 1/3 of women and 1/7 of men
  have been sexually abused
• 25 of women have experienced attempted rape

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Where do you fit into these statistics?
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What dont you like about the way you look?
What dont you like about your status at school
(position, standing, rank) ?
What dont you like about your talents or
abilities?
What dont you like about your past?
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Identity

• What identifies somebody or something who
  somebody is or what something is, especially the
  name somebody or something is known by

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Ask yourself WHO AM I?
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So often we get our identity from What we do How
much money we make How we look The car we
drive Who our friends are How we are perceived by
others How highly people think of us Who our
parents or siblings are Our past mistakes Our
skills in sports, the arts, club activities
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Dear Diary, Who am I really? I ask myself that
a lot. I never can seem to "fit in." Sometimes I
do and most other times I don't. I ask myself too
many times why am I here. I got off on the wrong
foot I feel. I think that most kids at my school,
taking my friends for example, think that I am
still, still, well maybe just weird. I guess
Ive grown to live with people calling me weird.
Do I fit in? Am I where I should be? Is this what
I am supposed to call my life? Why was I born?
What is my purpose? I still ask myself everyday
while I cry and think and finally fall asleep,
Who am I really? What is life really? By
Anonymous. age -12, female
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Your Identity Box
I Am A Basketball Player
I Am Cool
I Am Funny
I Am A Failure
I Am Average
I Am Dumb
I Am Tall
I Am Ugly
These things often change Ultimately - they are
rooted in selfishness
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THERE ARE SO MANY LIES WE HEAR (sometimes out
loud, sometimes just in our head) You arent
good enough You are a failure You should be so
ashamed No one would love you if they really knew
what you were like You are just a fake You will
never amount to much Youre not special you are
average at best You arent good at anything Your
body isnt good enough You must work harder to
earn love
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There are three things we all Need (legitimate
emotional needs)
ACCEPTANCE / BELONGING LOVE / SECURITY COMPETENCE
/ SIGNIFICANCE
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What are some negative ways that many of us try
to meet these needs?
ACCEPTANCE / BELONGING
Hang with the wrong crowd Break your beliefs to
fit in gangs right clothes, cars, etc
LOVE / SECURITY
Sex Boyfriend/girlfriend lower standards for
friendship
COMPETENCE / SIGNIFICANCE
Brag Live for sports put others down
When we live for these things, we are always
living in fear that we could lose them
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Often we try to meet these needs in any way
possible
Manipulation - make others feel guilty - so
theyll talk to us - we feel significant Act out
for attention - breaking the law being a jerk -
whatever flips your switch Live to be the best -
placing more importance on being top dog than on
being friends Suppress feelings and desires
Always Have A significant other Or We Hide
Behind many walls just hoping to mask the pain.
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We often try to meet these needs in our friends

• Our friends cant meet all our needs all the time
  
• Our friends have needs that need to be met
• This is actually very selfish - Real love is
  unconditional - this is the opposite If you
  love and accept me, then Ill do the same for
  you selfish
• Love unconditionally choosing to seek the best
  for someone no matter what you might get out of
  it (including a punch in the nose)
• You will either (and both are selfishness
  seeking your own glory not loving)
• Try to put yourself in a superior position
• Feel inferior ending up jealous or feeling
  sorry for yourself that someone else is above you

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• The enemy (devil) wants us to focus on 2 things
  for our identity.
• What the world and others say of us
• Our sin telling us we are worthless
  unlovable
• Both of those leave us in defeat.

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Apart from Jesus, who are we? What does the
Bible say?
Though we are made in Gods image sin has
marred that and has made each of us deserving
of only one thing. NIV Romans 323 for all have
sinned and fall short of the glory of God, Eph
23b we were by nature objects of (Gods)
wrath. NIV Romans 310 As it is written "There
is no one righteous, not even one 11 there is no
one who understands, no one who seeks God. 12 All
have turned away, they have together become
worthless there is no one who does good, not
even one." Romans 623 The wages of sin is
death (hell eternal separation from God)
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Earning Gods Favor Often we do things for God,
trying to EARN his favor, love, acceptance, and
approval. When we sin, we frequently keep
confessing the same sin over and over and keep
feeling guilty instead of trusting Him for His
forgiveness which is like calling God a
liar. Often we wonder if God really accepts us
our likes us what does He think of us?
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The Key is to Find our Identity in Christ
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Does doing precede being, or being precede doing?
Does who we are determine what we do, or does
what we do determine who we are?
Lie Liar Cheat Cheater Helpful - Helper
Do you wear a skirt and so you are a girl, or
are you a girl so you wear a skirt? (unless you
are Scottish )
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Think about 3 things Who are you (where do you
get your identity / value from)? Think about how
so much of all you do is driven by the desire to
be accepted (belong), to be loved (security),
and to be significant (competent) Think about -
Does being precede doing (who I am determines
what I do) or doing precede being (what I do
determines who I am)?
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