Raising Responsible Children A Collaboration Between Parents And

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Raising Responsible Children A Collaboration
Between Parents And

• Presented by
• Dr. Harry A. Groveman
• Email drgroveman_at_aol.com

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Presentation Objectives

• Understand some reasons why schools need to get
  involved with teaching the value of
  responsibility.
• Learn how to promote responsibility on a personal
  level.
• Learn how to promote responsibility at the
  classroom level.
• Learn how to promote responsibility at the
  building (school) level.
• Learn how to promote responsibility at the
  district level.

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The children now love luxury they show
disrespect for elders and love chatter in place
of exercise. Children are now tyrants, not the
servants, of their households They contradict
their parents, chatter before company, gobble up
dainties at the table, cross their legs and
tyrannize over their teacher.

• Socrates, circa 400 B.C.

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Why do we need to teach responsibility

• Because Society has Changed
• Parenting has changed
• Schools have changed
• Technology has changed the way we communicate
• Because there is a Moral and Ethical shortfall.
• Because it has direct ties to learning and the
  culture of our schools

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General Rules and Assumptions

• Learning to be responsible is directly related to
  good decision making and problem solving.
• Responsibility can be taught and responsibility
  can be learned.
• Children learn responsibility by having
  opportunities to make both good and bad
  decisions.
• Children are never too young to learn about
  responsibility.
• As children get older the decisions they make
  become more significant.
• We often learn better from our mistakes than from
  our accomplishments.

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More Rules and Assumptions

• Adults need to avoid being the solution to the
  problems facing children.
• We need to avoid being the solution to the
  mistakes made by children
• When we allow children to grow from their
  mistakes and live through natural consequences we
  better prepare them for the more important
  decisions they will need to make, as they grow
  older
• When we avoid telling children what to do, they
  dont have something to resist or disagree with.
  When we support children by providing information
  to help them make good decisions we send a
  message that they are capable and able to be
  responsible

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Children do not come with instruction manuals
when they are born. Parents must learn the
difference between good and bad parenting
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Provide Choices
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Someone once told me that raising a child is a
lot like teaching a child to ride a bike. The
trick is knowing when to hold on and when to let
go.
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Helicopter Parent
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Few things help an individual more than to place
responsibility upon him and to let him know that
you trust him. Booker T. Washington
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MISTAKESOne of the most valuable lessons I
learned is that we all have to learn from our
mistakes, and we learn from those mistakes a lot
more than we learn from the things we succeeded
in doing. Ann Richards (Former Governor of
Texas)
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Five Step Plan to Promoting Responsibility

• When the child (anyone) comes to you with a
  problem.
• Lead with empathy and understanding
• I feel sad about that.
• Shift the problem from your shoulders to the
  childs
• What are you going to do?
• Offer suggestions and foster thinking and
  decision making.
• Would you like some suggestions?
• bad ideas to good ideas
• Facilitate problem solving.
• How would that work out?
• Leave the decision open ended and the childs
• Good Luck, let me know what happens?
• Source Cline-Fay Love and Logic Institute

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We cannot change other people, but we can
empower them to change themselves.

• Dr. Marvin Marshall

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Promoting Responsibility in the Classroom

• Provide students the opportunity to choose
• (choice empowers students)
• Create opportunities for children to engage in
  decision making activities and tasks that require
  problem solving.
• Develop a discipline plan that promotes
  responsibility
• (i.e., Discipline without Stress Punishments or
  Rewards)
• (discipline does not mean punish)
• Practice and utilize an effective communication
  system.
• (i.e., Transactional Analysis)
• Solicit parental support
• Utilize the five steps to Promoting Responsibility

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Effective Communication Response Styles
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Turn Troubles Into Teachable Moments
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Learn to be the guide on the side and not the
sage on the stage

• Sometimes you need to sit back
• and
• Let kids be their own teachers

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Talking with vs. Talking to

• Promoting discussion in your classroom
• Using open ended questions to engage thinking
• Using Self-Evaluative questions to promote
  reflection and evaluation

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Creating a Democratic Classroom

• Create a classroom management plan that promotes
  positivity.
• Provide opportunities for choice and reflection
• Incorporate models such as The Raise
  Responsibility System
• Source The Marvin Marshall Teaching Model
• www.MarvinMarshall.com

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Promoting Responsibility in the School

• Establish a school level objective tied to
  promoting responsible behavior throughout the
  building.
• Link promoting responsibility to your character
  education efforts.
• Announce plans and promote the objective
• (i.e., Parent letter handout)
• Provide training for staff and parents
• Utilize the classroom concepts on an expanded
  scale

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• The real power, the real influence of parents and
  teachers, is not what young people do when they
  are with adults it is what young people do when
  they are not.

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Promoting Responsibility District Wide

• Infuse the promotion of responsible behavior
  (social responsibility) with creating
  environments that promote internal motivation for
  learning (individual responsibility) as part of
  the districts Vision Statement/Mission Statement.
• Incorporate School level activities on a larger
  level.

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We cannot change other people, but we can
empower them to change themselves.

• Dr. Marvin Marshall