Marriage

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Marriage

• Objective
• To introduce terms related to engagement,
  intimacy, predicting success, and teen marriage

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What's your thoughts about engagements, weddings
and marriage???

• Marriage???
• http//www.youtube.com/watch?veSDmfdiiT94
• The Engagement
• http//www.youtube.com/watch?v_NPrLvwf_QY
• The Wedding
• http//www.youtube.com/watch?vT8dUNTO5xd8

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Food for thought

• 95 of all Americans marry at least once
• The average marriage lasts 9.4 years
• Most remarry again

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What is an engagement?

• Transition period
• Public announcement
• Range 6 months to 3 years long
• Wide range of feelings extreme happiness to
  uncertainty
• Last evaluation before the final commitment

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Traditional Marriage

• Emotional, spiritual, and legal commitment a man
  and woman make to one another.

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Intimacy

• Deep and meaningful kind of sharing between two
  people.

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Intimacy

• For marriage to sustain itself over the years
  four types of intimacy must be present
• Philosophical sharing beliefs values (
  particular important when raising kids)
• Psychological sharing of needs, emotions,
  weaknesses and strengths, individual success,
  show support in disappointment
• Creative sharing of efforts to accomplish task
  and projects, each partner must do his or her
  share of the work with a willing attitude
• Physical wide range of behaviors that express
  warmth and closeness, physical affection,
  marriage partners should be physically attracted
  to one another

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How to predict success in a marriage

• Age
• Reasons for marriage
• Length of the relationship and engagement
• Similar attitudes about children child-raising
• Similar interests
• Committed to sexual fidelity
• Good character
• Parents success at marriage
• Parental attitudes towards the potential marriage
  partner
• Careful selection of the marriage partner

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Pre-Martial Counseling

• Finances
• Values
• Child-raising

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Most important issues in marriage

• Those issues discussed in pre-marital counseling
• Sex religion

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Marriage Commitment

• Because of rising divorce rates, these should be
  present for marriage to last
• Marriage partners must be committed to actions
  that honor wedding vows
• Marriage partners must work together to master
  the developmental stages of marriage

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Developmental Stages

• Divorce rate is falling but so is the marriage
  rate.
• 0 2 years
• Begin to realistic view of marriage
• must deal with weaknesses to avoid dysfunctional
  behavior
• 3 10 years
• Maintain individual identity
• Deal with forgiveness aging
• Children
• 11 25 years
• Master issues from first 3 stages
• Task of achieving financial security and
  nurturing family
• Confront each other about death
• 26 - ??? years
• Reasons fro living after achieving goals in stage
  four
• Confront death
• Retirement

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Teen Marriage

• Need to work on DEVELOPMENTAL TASK. (what is
  it???)
• If you marry as a teen you do not get enough time
  to work on developmental tasks.
• These tasks are needed to be mastered to reach
  the next level of maturity.

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Teen Marriage Difficulties

• Teen marriage foes not give you enough time to
• Develop healthy relationships with members of
  both sexes
• Become comfortable with maleness or femaleness
• Become comfortable with own body
• Become emotionally independent adults
• Learn skills needed later for successful marriage
  and parenthood
• Prepare for a career
• Have a clear set of values to guide behavior
• Understand and achieve socially responsible
  behavior