Communicating%20Effectively

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Communicating Effectively

• A Guide to Building Healthy Relationships
• Chapter 11

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Todays Presentation

• Presented by
• Barika Bridges
• Erika Everett
• William Pokorny
• Raquel Smith
• Lindsay West
• Todays Target Audience is Young Men
• Ages 18-25

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Listening vs. Hearing

• Listening
• Clarifying what the person is saying and asking
  how he/she feels. Ask questions to understand
  more fully what is being said.

• Hearing
• The average listener correctly understands and
  properly retains only 30 of what he or she hears.

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The Role of Communication

• Communication is

• An essential component of any relationship

• Vital for relationship maintenance

• A Difficult skill to master

• Can lead to conflict

• Can also lead to stronger relationships

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Men and Communication

• Most men lack adequate communication skills

• Exposed at an early age to societys masculine
  image

• Encourages men to hide emotions

• Unable to open up, due to the risk of
  corrupting the macho image

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Men and Communication

• Such an ego results in

• Lacking the skills necessary to communicate
  effectively

• Lacking the skills necessary to successfully
  understand non-verbal messages

• Lacking the skills necessary to successfully
  interpret non-verbal messages

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Men and Communication

• Effective Communication

• Is employed by sending messages that are
  interpreted correctly, and correctly interpreting
  messages that you receive

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How To Effectively Communicate

• Maintain Realistic Expectations

• Try not to project a tough/superior image

• Avoid Prejudice

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What Not To Do
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What Not To Do..

• Communicative barriers you might encounter

• Antagonistic messages

• Jumping to conclusions

• Not paying attention

• i.e. thinking to yourself while someone is talking

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Group Activity 1

• Setting the Scene
• Effective vs. Ineffective Communication

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Maslows Hierarchy of Needs

• Love

• Belongingness

• Safety

• Security

• Value

• Recognition

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Agree to Disagree

• It is sometimes difficult to reach agreement
  during a conversation

• Give your partner time to speak

• Use I messages
• Negative consequences
• Blame
• Take it personally

• Stick to the subject
• Keep a friendly tone

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Group Activity 2

• Are You Listening?

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Verbal Messages

• Face-to-Face interactions

• Telephone calls

• E-mail

• Letters

• Poetry

• Cards

• Etc.

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Non-Verbal Messages

• Gestures

• Shaking your head

• Shrugging your shoulders

• Turning your back

• Sucking your teeth

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Non-Verbal Messages

• Facial expressions

• Disappointment

• Surprised

• Raised eyebrows

• Confusion

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Non-Verbal Messages

• Behaviors

• Isolation

• Negligence

• Denial

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Group Activity 3

• It's written all over your face!

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Suitable Situations

• Effective communication can be applied

• On deciding where to go on a date

• On getting to know your partners likes and
  dislikes

• On allowing your partner to maintain friendships
  with people of the opposite sex

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Suitable Situations

• Effective communication can be applied

• To talk to express what you expect of your
  partner and vice versa

• When discussing sexual history and beliefs of
  contraceptives

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Group Activity 4

• Playing the Role

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Discussion.

• Any Questions?