Life Skills Parent Talk

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Life SkillsParent Talk

• Divya Kakaiya, Ph.D.
• Danielle Beck-Ellsworth, M.A.

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Program Objectives

• At the end of the program, students ideally will
  demonstrate the following
• Increased self-acceptance and body acceptance.
• Higher levels of self-esteem and confidence.
• A greater sense of agency and efficacy.

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Program Objectives

• Advanced leadership skills.
• A recognition of weightism as a form of
  prejudice and the courage to speak up in face
  weightiest teasing and bullying.
• A wider range of coping skills to use in response
  to stressful or emotional situations.

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Program Objectives

• The ability to discern the difference between
  physiological and emotional hungers.
• Healthier eating and exercise habits.
• A proficiency with basic media literacy skills.
• A decreased vulnerability to developing an eating
  disorder, addictions or making unhealthy choices.

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Lessons

• Healthy Relationships
• Internet Bullying
• Friendships
• Conscious Eating
• Personal vs.Media Values
• The Media World
• Physical Development
• Stress Management

• Introduction
• Assertiveness
• Social Roles and Group Dynamics
• I, Me, and Myself
• Body Politics
• Emotional IQ
• Anger Management
• Self-esteem

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Introduction

• Introduce and get to know facilitators and
  students.
• Establish ground rules to help insure order,
  unity, and respectful behavior.
• Convey the importance of putting ideas into
  action.
• Core Activities Getting to know you games,
  Giftedness Bingo, Group Guidelines, Assessment
  Tools

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Assertiveness

• Understand the difference between aggressive,
  passive, and assertive behavior.
• Learn how to be assertive in different social
  situations.
• Feel comfortable with asking for your needs and
  wants.
• Core Activities Discussion, Assertiveness Style
  Quiz, Role-plays, Assertiveness Tips

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Social Roles and Group Dynamics

• Learn about the different roles in girls and boys
  social groups.
• Understanding popularity.
• Learn about how to handle bullying.
• Core Activities Group Roles Discussion, Gender
  handout, Bullying tips, Role-Plays

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I, Me and Myself

• Understand the concept of self.
• Be able to identify different parts of our self.
• Understand how I statements stregnthen the
  self.
• Being aware of our many hungers.
• Core Activities Parts of Self, Your Name
  activity, Personal Symbol, Menu of Hungers,
  Guided Meditation, Yoga

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Body Politics

• Understand what weightism is and how it occurs in
  our society.
• Learn respect for all people regardless of
  weight, race or gender.
• Apply assertiveness skills to body talk.
• Break down myths about fat and dieting.
• Develop a relationship and appreciation for our
  body.
• Core Activities Dear Body, Myth about fat,
  Different people different sizes, Weightism
  discussion, Numbers game, Diets dont work,
  Party Role Play, Body Scan

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Emotional IQ

• To help students define emotional intelligence
  and understand its importance.
• Teach students about gender differences in
  expressing emotions.
• Understand be able to recognize the emotions of
  others.
• Core Activities Emotional IQ discussion,
  Feeling vocabularly, Feelings Charades, Feeling
  X-ray, Freewrite, Managing Feelings

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Anger Management

• Learn about what being angry means.
• Develop new skills to manage our anger so we can
  constructively communicate.
• Understand the difference between little deals
  and big deals.
• Core Activities Brainstrom, Two-minute
  meditation, Ways to cool-off, Tips on anger
  management, Role plays

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Self-Esteem

• To learn about what healthy self-esteem looks
  like and feels like.
• Learn how to develop self-acceptance and
  apprecitation of the good qualities we have
  within ourselves.
• Core Activities Discussion, Inner Critic vs.
  Positive Self-Acceptance, Tree of Strength,
  Measuring Up A self assessment, Valuing yourself
  tips, Self-esteem tree, Feel Good exercise,
  Consumerism, Body Acceptance freewrite,
  Meditation, Yoga

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Healthy Relationships

• Understand how healthy relationships are key to
  an overall well-being.
• Become familiar with different types of
  relationships and various strengths of
  connection.
• Learn about approaching conflict in all
  relationships.
• Core Activities Human mirror, constellation of
  connection, Healthy relationships, Real Life

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Internet Bullying

• Learn the pros and cons of the Internet.
• Teach strategies of how to be cautious and safe
  while using the Internet.
• To express how bullying is hurtful and
  ineffective.
• Core Activities Discussion on bullying, Role
  Playing on Talking Back, Im a Mean, Green,
  Fighting Machine, I am who I am, Bullet Proof,
  Human Knot, Stats about Internet, Likes and
  Dislikes Freewrite, Lets Be Safe Tips

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Friendships

• Discuss friends, peers and bullies.
• Develop a greater sense of trust and respect
  among our peer group.
• To feel good about what we bring to our
  friendships.
• Learn how to make new friends and how to contact
  them.
• Core Activities Qualities of a Good Friend,
  Blind Mans Walk, Tap a Compliment, Getting to
  Know you, Contacting a Friend

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Conscious Eating

• Teach students to fully understand normal eating.
• Understand the difference between dieting and
  healthy diet.
• Learn how to make eating an enjoyable experience
  through conscious eating.
• Core Activities Food discussion, Eating myths,
  Dieting What Really Happens, Freewrite,
  Exploring Your Eating Habits, Conscious Eating,
  Cooking Activity

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Personal vs. Media Values

• Learn the difference between the medias values
  and our personal values.
• Discuss if media is portraying real life and real
  people or a fake ideal.
• Acquire skills to critically analyze and
  understand the messages in the media.
• Core Activities Values Discussion,
  MagazinesBleh!, Magazines I spy, Positive
  Articles, Freewrite

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The Media Worlds Cultural Impact

• Explore the power of TV, movies, video games,
  advertising, music videos, and reality TV on
  culture.
• Understand medias influence on us all.
• Core Activities What world would you rather live
  in? Medias Influence Freewrite, Media mediums
  brainstorm, Reality TV, Game Show, Dangerous
  Influences

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Physical Development

• Understand the role of metabolism, genes and
  history in determining body type.
• Understand how each person is so uniquely
  different and wonderful.
• Discuss how puberty affects the way we feel and
  look.
• Practice how to respond to body comments from
  other people.
• Core Activities Genetics and vegetables,
  Response from your body, Changing bodies,
  changing lives, Love your body-its the only one
  youve got, Self-acceptance role play, Yoga

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• Parent Tips

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Remember There is not such thing as a joke
about someones body.

• Research shows that teasing and harassment
  contribute to the development of eating
  disorders.

Adair Sjostrom. (2005) The Parents Guide to
Full of Ourselves.
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Set a good example through your own actions.

• Demonstrate care and respect for your body. If
  you need help with your own relationship to food,
  see a doctor or nutritionist. Let your son know
  that you take yourself and your health seriously
  and that your goal is to eat healthfully and
  create a healthier lifestyle.

Adair Sjostrom. (2005) The Parents Guide to
Full of Ourselves.
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The same goes for words!

• Never put yourself down for how you look in front
  of your son or daughter. Dont tolerate anyone
  else putting you down either-or your son or
  another person. Try not to greet friends with
  comments about appearance. Instead, practice
  taking people seriously for what they think, say
  and do.

Adair Sjostrom. (2005) The Parents Guide to
Full of Ourselves.
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Wear clothes that express who you are, regardless
of your size and shape.

• Dont let your body shape keep you from doing
  things you want because you dont look the part.

Adair Sjostrom. (2005) The Parents Guide to
Full of Ourselves.
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Keep an eye out for weightist messages in the
media with your daughter or son.

• Name, discuss and refute them. Girls and boys
  need to hear parental critique (and outrage)
  again and again.

Adair Sjostrom. (2005) The Parents Guide to
Full of Ourselves.
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Encourage and support your children in a sport
and other activities!

• Activities give them the experience of living
  fully and masterfully in their body. Try
  something new with your children and build
  competency together.

Adair Sjostrom. (2005) The Parents Guide to
Full of Ourselves.
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Take stock of your cupboards.

• Are they filled with foods from all food groups?
  What kinds of snacks are on hand? Supply your
  kitchen with a variety of low-cost, high-health
  foods.

Adair Sjostrom. (2005) The Parents Guide to
Full of Ourselves.
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Provide regular family meals.

• A rule of thumb for meal times parents are
  responsible for what, where and when a child
  eats the child is responsible for how much and
  whether.

Adair Sjostrom. (2005) The Parents Guide to
Full of Ourselves.
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Avoid using food as a reward or punishment.

• Find ways other than shopping or eating to
  celebrate your small victories on any given day.
  When your child is upset, try going for a walk,
  or making a cup of tea, and talking
  togetherrather than going out to eat. Your time
  is one of the most nourishing resources you can
  offer your child.

Adair Sjostrom. (2005) The Parents Guide to
Full of Ourselves.
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Let your child know that you love him or her, no
matter what he or she weighs!

• Listen to your childs opinions, show
  appreciation for her uniqueness and, as often as
  possible, allow her to take the lead. If you are
  worried about her weight, talk to her
  pediatrician or a nutritionist.

Adair Sjostrom. (2005) The Parents Guide to
Full of Ourselves.
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Book Recommendations

• The Shelter of Each Other Rebuilding Our
  Families by Mary Pipher, Ph.D.
• Queen Bees and Wannabes by Rosalind Wiseman
• Real Boys Workbook The Definitive Guide to
  Understanding and Interacting with Boys of All
  Ages by William Pollack, Ph.D.

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Contact Info

• Healthy Within Foundation
• http//HealthyWithinFoundation.com
• http//HealthyWithin.com
• Danielle [phone], ex. 6
• Dr. Kakaiya [phone], ex. 3
• 5665 Oberlin Dr. Suite 206
• San Diego, CA 92121