Family Issues

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Family Issues

• Day One

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A Sign of the Times
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The Effective Family

• Jane Howard (1978) observed the following
  effective characteristics
• They have a chief
• They have a switchboard operator
• Members have relationships both inside and
  outside the family
• They are hospitable
• They deal squarely with direness

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The Effective Family (cont.)

• Jane Howard (1978) observed the following
  effective characteristics (cont.)
• They prize rituals
• They are affectionate
• They have a sense of place
• They connect with posterity
• They honor their elders

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The Changing Family

• About 52 of the adult U.S. population is married
• About 49 of those 25 to 29 years old has never
  been married
• Almost 10 of adults are divorced
• Of all children under 18, 32 have lived with a
  single parent

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When you dive off the high dive with no water in
the pool and you crack your head, blame yourself.
You cant jump and hope that theres water in
the pool when you hit.
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Love is

• Patient
• Kind
• Does not envy
• Does not boast
• Is not proud
• Is not rude
• Is not self-seeking

• Is not easily angered
• Keeps no record of wrongs
• It always protects
• Always trusts
• Always preserves

I Corinthians 13
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Responsibilities of the Family

• Praise and nurture children
• Provide economic support
• Supply emotional needs
• Love
• Sense of belonging
• Social support
• Security and safety

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In the eyes of a child, love is spelled TIME.
Its something you spend, not something you buy.
Before time is gone, I hope you will find, in the
eyes of a child, love is spelled TIME.
Brent Henderson
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Taught by the Family

• Love
• Compassion
• Honesty
• Forgiveness
• Self-discipline
• Responsibility

• Friendship
• Work
• Courage
• Perseverance
• Loyalty
• Faith

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Up before dawn and out the door, what are we
striving for? Seeking to be heroes to strangers,
and becoming strangers to our children, what
for?
Unknown
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Youth Problems

• A disturbing and telling sign of the declining
  condition among the young is evident in an
  ongoing survey in which teachers are asked to
  identify the top problems in Americas public
  schools. In 1940, teachers identified talking
  out of turn, chewing gum, making noise, running
  in the halls, cutting in line, dress code
  infractions and littering. In 1990, teachers
  identified drug and alcohol abuse, pregnancy,
  suicide, rape, robbery and assault.

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Signs of Effective Families

• Solve problems together
• Communicate well
• Take time to talk in a healthy fashion
• Spend time together
• Encourage each other
• Committed to family priorities
• Spiritually connected

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Looking for Someone Special

• S Spiritually similar
• P Positive person
• E Educationally congruent
• C Culturally valued similar
• I Intellectually similar
• A Attitude is healthy
• L Loving and lovable

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Family Crisis

• During any family crisis, children have three
  questions that their parents should address, even
  if the children dont ask them directly
• Will I be all right?
• Will you be all right
• How will this affect my daily life?
• By answering these questions first, parents will
  help their children keep any other information
  theyre told about the crisis in better
  perspective.

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Family Stressors

• Dual career families
• Financial concerns
• Mobility
• Financial concerns
• Too much / not enough
• Credit
• Budgeting

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Family Stressors

• Children
• Dependency
• Discipline
• Multiple activities
• Growing pains / development
• Bonding
• Detachment
• reunion
• Single-parenting
• Other

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