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• 42 of a managers time is spent on reaching
  agreement with others when conflicts occur.
• Manager as Negotiators By Carol Watson L.
  Richard Hoffman, Leadership Quarterly 7 (1) 1996)

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?????????THE HIGH COST OF CONFLICT AMONG
CHRISTIANS

• Born again Christians in the U.S. file 4 to 8
  million lawsuits every year, often against other
  Christians, costing 20 to 40 billion dollars.
• There are approximately 19,000 major, scarring
  church conflicts in the U.S. each year.
• 35 of born again Christians who have been
  married have gone through a divorce.
• 1,500 pastors leave their assignments every month
  in the U.S. because of conflict, burnout, or
  moral failure, costing the church at least 684
  million each year.
• It is difficult to quantify the spiritual cost
  of conflict--how do you measure the pain,
  suffering, and diminished witness caused by
  Christians who fight one another?
• By Ken Sande, President, Peace-making
  Ministries Aug/2005

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• (?1911?61-2?429??22-26)
• 4 Go and Be Reconciled ????????
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• Peacemaker Ministries Pledge

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