Duncan Calder, ex KPMG, on Divorce

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Duncan Calder, ex KPMG, on Divorce Beat
bullying and lies
Duncan Calder
Duncan Calder, ex KPMG, on Divorce Beat
bullying and lies - Duncan Calder, former KPMG
senior partner and head of its W.A. forensic
services and valuations business has seen how
bullying, lies and high costs can sometimes
result in unfair outcomes in divorce proceedings.
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Have you considered Is my spouse bullying and
lying to rip me off? DEALING WITH A
BULLY Calder, who runs the boutique forensic
services and business valuations firm, Contour
Capital, notes that bullying, lies and tight
finances can sometimes intimidate one spouse so
that he or she never uncovers the fair value of
the familys asset pool during the divorce
proceedings. If your spouse was the one with the
power during the marriage, divorce isnt going to
change him/her into someone willing to give up
their power. If anything, divorce will make them
more relentless when it comes to retaining both
financial and emotional power over you. The more
anxious you are to get it done, the more willing
you will become to give your spouse anything and
everything, just to get your divorce over with.
There is something very sad in caving in to
conclude a settlement quickly to find that in 12
months time, you resent the compromises you have
made.
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Calder advises spouses facing bullying Dont be
intimidated by your exs behavior. You will go
into divorce settlement negotiations with your ex
on the same footing. You both have the same
rights.  Dont allow yourself to buy into
threats about taking the children or, leaving
you destitute. An angry ex likes to intimidate
by threats. Dont reply to threats! Take them to
your attorney and let him/her deal with your
ex. You cant control your spouse. Even if you
were able to control your spouse during your
marriage, once you start down the road of divorce
you can kiss any thoughts of control
good-bye. If your spouse is telling you that you
are never going to get a dime in the divorce, or
that you are a home-wrecker and your kids are
going to hate you forever, or any one of the
thousand other horrible things that angry spouses
yell at each other when they are hurt dont
listen! Hang up the phone. Leave the room. This
is not productive conversation.
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DEALING WITH A SPOUSE WHO LIES IN COURT AND IN
COURT AND MEDIATION DOCUMENTS When you are
dealing with a spouse who is willing to lie to
attorneys and the court, protecting your rights
can be difficult without an attorney and you can,
unintentionally, make yourself look vindictive.
Hiring a lawyer can help you understand the best
way to present your evidence, protect your
rights, and ensure that your spouse does not get
a divorce settlement based on lies or
misrepresentations. There are no solutions for
personal disagreements in a law court or in a
lawyers office. The discovery process is a good
way to get financial information from an
uncooperative spouse because the court has the
power to compel compliance. For example, if your
spouse fails to produce documents, you can ask a
judge to order your spouse to do so. If your
spouse disobeys the order, a court may punish
your spouse by imposing a sanction, which can
include monetary fines or even a judgment against
your spouse on a particular issue
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A business-owning spouse may be so inclined to
protect his or her own financial interests that
he or she may commit fraud.
A business owner going through a divorce may
attempt to conceal or transfer assets, understate
revenue, or overstate expenses. If you or a
client suspects such behavior, you may also
require the assistance of a forensic accountant.
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Making the disclosure that your former spouse
engaged in tax fraud can theoretically open the
door to the depletion of marital assets.
Furthermore, the disclosing spouse may implicate
him or herself in the alleged tax crimes. COSTS
OF THE PROCESS ARE INEVITABLE BUT CAN BE
MANAGED Lawyers charge by the hour. The court
system is notoriously slow. These two factors can
create significant costs. Divorce is going to
take longer and cost more than you ever imagined.
It is going to be more emotional and more
difficult than you want. If you know that from
the start, and you dont expect it to be fast or
cheap, you will be way ahead of the game. Even
if your spouse has been kind, considerate and
respectful, dont assume that those character
traits will carry through to the divorce process.
f you want to come away from your divorce with
an equitable settlement you need to anticipate
how your spouse will choose to defend his/her
position.
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SOCIAL MEDIA Calder provides a final warning on
the dangers of social media during a divorce
with the ubiquitous nature of social media such
as Facebook and Twitter, it is also important to
remain professional online. I f possible, keep
all the details of your divorce and separation
agreement off the Internet. f you do make any
posts referencing your divorce or soon-to-be
ex-spouse, avoid venting, ranting, or
namecalling. These posts can easily reach your
spouse or his or her attorney and be used against
you in court. Duncan Calder, based in Australia,
sees that the role of forensic specialists, like
Contour Capital, is to uncover the truth and
endure that the Court is aware of the true
financial position of parties to divorce
proceedings.
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