5 Creepy Things Guys do that Turn Girls Off

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• Approaching someone new, and flirting with
  them can be super nerve-wracking. Weve ALL been
  there. When meeting a new girl, an important
  thing to remember is that she will feel nervous
  too!
• Meeting anyone new can be a little tense. If
  you can do something to release that nervous
  tension, then youve got a great chance. A girl
  wants to feel safe and at ease in your
  presence. Thats what attracts women. If you
  create awkward tension by coming across even a
  little creepy, shes going to be on guard and
  youre going to lose her interest.

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MISTAKE 1 They dont approach after making eye
contact!

• The first mistake Ive seen a lot of guys
  make is that they take FOREVER to approach after
  making eye contact. When Im out with my
  girlfriends, you can guarantee theres going to
  be at least one guy that night who makes eye
  contact with one of us across the room. And then
  continues to stare over at you for 10-15 mins
  until they gain the courage to approach.
• If you think youre being fun and playing
  hard to get building that Will they/ wont
  they? vibe across the bar, youre wrong.

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• The only thing youve succeeded in doing is
  giving off stalker vibes and making the girl feel
  really uncomfortable knowing youre even there.
  You need to approach quickly after making eye
  contact. Maybe catch her eye once or twice or
  even three times and then approach. This will
  make you seem confident and secure and will help
  her feel more at ease.

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MISTAKE 2 They get too close!

• The second mistake a lot of guys make
  is getting too close, too soon. My neighbor, a
  single guy, asked me a good question the other
  day What if you cant make eye contact because
  its crowded or you just cant seem to catch a
  girls glance? What do you do?
• This is a great question because what you do
  here can definitely make or break your chances.
  If you cant get her attention easily, its
  definitely okay to approach her still! Youve
  just got to make sure you do it the right way.

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• The best guideline to remember here is to
  respect her personal bubble. You dont want her
  to feel threatened or nervous by you before you
  even get the chance to flirt! I have had guys
  approach me in a bar who tap my shoulder and when
  I turn around, they are literally five inches
  from my face!
• This will immediately put any girl on edge.
  If you need to tap someone on the shoulder to get
  their attention, thats great, but do it with an
  arms length between you and approach from the
  side if you can!

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MISTAKE 3 They dont know what to say!

• Okay, so youve approached the girl now
  what? This seems like basic advice but you need
  to approach with confidence and you NEED to have
  something to say to her! Practice this in a
  mirror, or with a friend, or anything you need to
  do. We also have an article about approaching a
  girl who doesnt speak the same language as you!

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• Keep the conversation light, use a silly
  pickup line, or make a joke, or you can even
  tease her a little but make sure you have
  SOMETHING to say other than Hey, Im so and so.
• Just this weekend, A guy, with whom I had
  made eye contact a couple times, came up to me
  and said  Hey, Im Bryan and I smiled and
  said Hey! Im Nicole, nice to meet you. and
  then he kind of dropped his head and was silent
  for like the longest 5 seconds and then goes
  uhhh so are you from around here?

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• Needless to say, this conversation went
  nowhere.  After you introduce yourself, you can,
  and should, make a flirty comment maybe
  compliment something shes wearing, or her eyes
  or smile ANYthing about her! Then use your
  surroundings as topic cues! Are you at a new bar
  or an old favorite? Talk about that!

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• If youre in a coffee shop or store, make
  comments about your order or tell a story about
  something you see. By using your surroundings as
  cues, you can keep the conversation relevant and
  interactive for BOTH of you. Finding common
  ground can be a little awkward for anyone, so
  using cues around you is an easy way to get an
  idea of what a person likes and thinks.

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MISTAKE 4 The Creepy Stare!

• Making TOO much eye contact.
• This can get a little tricky to find the
  right balance, but just as the guy who wouldnt
  make eye contact with me was weird, making too
  much eye contact is equally, if not more, creepy.
  My good friend went on a date recently and the
  guy made a comment about how her eyes were really
  pretty and then basically didnt look away from
  them!

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• Even when she looked away, and tried to
  distract his gaze, he would immediately return to
  looking her straight in the eye. This is
  obviously an extreme example but its important
  to find a good balance that youre both
  comfortable with.

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MISTAKE 5 Too touchy-feely! 

• Too much or unwelcome physical contact can
  also make a girl feel creeped out. This
  absolutely differs from girl to girl but you need
  to pay attention to her body language. Not only
  how much, but the way, you touch her really
  matters.
• You definitely want to establish a touching
  interaction fairly soon in the convo, but these
  first physical interactions need to be light and
  quick. A nice touch on the arm or shoulder, or
  maybe at the small of her back if youre walking
  these are all great! Keep it playful! Dont wrap
  your arm around her or anything like that just
  yet. That can make her feel trapped or uneasy.

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• If youre having a chat and playfully touch
  her arm and she smiles and continues talking,
  then youre probably good to do that again.
  Shell most likely even reciprocate during the
  conversation. Also, if you touch her and she
  kinda pulls away or takes a step back, doing it
  again is probably going to make her feel
  uncomfortable.

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• Just because she pulled away doesnt mean
  shes not into you! If the conversation is still
  going well, it may just mean shes not ready for
  that kind of interaction yet. Continue flirting
  and pay attention to body language, and shell
  let you know when shes ready. If the
  conversation dies and feels awkward after a
  touch, thats a pretty clear sign that shes not
  into it, so youll know to make a nice exit and
  not waste your time with someone whos not
  interested.

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• So Ive covered the 5 mistakes a lot of
  these things are actually EASILY AVOIDABLE as
  they are kind of based on a lack of confidence or
  nervousness. If you want to lose that approach
  anxiety and explode your confidence, we put
  together a free Confidence Cheat Sheet that gives
  you just what you need to gain the strength to
  approach a girl you like!