Relationship Matrix : Swami Sukhabodhananda

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Relationship Matrix Swami Sukhabodhananda
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Poojya Swami Sukhabodhananda addressed a group of
80 participants on Relationship Matrix at the
Good Karma Retreat on the 27th of July, 2017 held
at Bekal, Kerala. The participants were
overwhelmed and the program was a great
success. Life is full of relationships.
Relationships are crucial. But we have to observe
deeply how we relate to oneself to ones spouse
to children to boss to subordinate to
expectations to failures and to success.
Relationship must become a mirror for reflecting
who we are and to transform them into moments of
celebration and dance is a creative stance.
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Most of the times we are not relating to the
other but are drowned in what we want or what we
dont want. Every moment is dancing when I give
space to the other and when I am not addicted to
my individuality. When one sees the beauty of
what is, a positive attitude is scaled. When the
other person is speaking feel his words, feel the
vibrations of his words, and feel the space
between words. Finally feel the context of what
is said. Slowly some other quality in your
relatedness will emerge.
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The greatest poison is our addiction to what we
want or dont want in other words addiction to
our individuality. If snake poison can be
transformed into medicine so too ones worry can
become wisdom and ones frustration can become
fascination. Ego is the greatest poison and love
is the greatest nectar. Love is one thing that
cannot be purchased in a market place it is like
clean air. Life cannot exist without air and
without love true life cannot exist. The greatest
pollution is when love is made to look as like.
When someone says I like this he/she means I
love this. Like is not loving. Hence, by
comparing like to love, one pollutes and has
poisoned the possibility of the nectar of love
arising
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Learn not to fall in love but learn to rise in
love. To fall in love is to be caught in your
dogma of what you want out of love. If you can
learn to give out of love, rather than wanting
something out of love, then you will rise in
love. Relationships have become difficult for
many reasons. People have a poor attitude. For
any given situation in life, one can give an
uplifting meaning or whipping meaning. It is more
than the situation, what meaning one gives to the
incident or situation that matters. More often,
the meaning one gives depends on ones attitude.
If one is alert one will see one has become more
sentimental rather than sensitive. Sentimental is
reacting to what is based on ones like and
dislikes and being sensitive is to be available
to what is.
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Generally in relationship people look in terms of
comfort, security or gratification. If you are
using your wife or husband for gratification or
security then you are using them and not
contributing to them when you use them. If you
look deeply within you experience a sense of
isolation. Let relationships be mirrors in which
you see yourself, understand yourself and thereby
discovering right action. In that right action,
you realise the joy of contributing to others,
the joy of giving to others, the joy of making a
difference to others. Then your action is out of
joy and not for joy. There must be a fundamental
revolution with relationships with people, with
ideas. Therefore it is essential to understand
oneself through relationship. For without self
knowledge ones efforts only create further
confusion and further misery.