Principles of Personal Health

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Principles of Personal Health
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Chapter 4

• Intimate Relationships

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• Developing Intimate Relationships

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Self-Concept and Self-Esteem

• The principle thing we bring to a relationship is
  ourselves.
• We must first feel good about ourselves.

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Friendship

• The first relationships formed outside our family
  are friends.

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Friendship Characteristics

• Companionship
• Respect
• Acceptance
• Help

• Trust
• Loyalty
• Reciprocity

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Love???

• The pleasure and pain of love
• The transformation of love

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The pleasure and pain of love

• The experience of intense love
• a tumultuous state of excitement subject to
  fluctuating feelings of joy and despair
• Loss of appetite and sleep
• Happiness/Misery???

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The transformation of love

• Relationships change over time with love being no
  exception.
• Characteristics of young love???
• Characteristics of mature love???

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Jealousy

• An aversive response to another significant
  persons real, imagined, or likely involvement
  with or interest in another person or thing.

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Communication

• The key to developing intimate relationships is
  good communication
• How much communication is nonverbal???

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Communication Skills

• Three keys to good communication
• Self-disclosure
• Listening
• Feedback

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Gender and Communication

• Do women and men communicate differently???
• Men talk more listen less
• Women listen well eye contact

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Conflict Resolution

• Six Basic strategies useful in negotiating with a
  partner

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• Clarify the issue
• Provide time to think
• Allow one partner to speak fully, without
  interruption
• Allow the other partner to respond

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• Find out what each person wants
• Allow each partner to express his/her desires

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• Identify various alternatives for meeting
  partners desires
• Brainstorm

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• Decide how to negotiate
• Work out an agreement or plan for changing

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• Solidify the agreements
• Verbalize the plan
• Write the plan down
• Sign the plan

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• Review and renegotiate
• Determine a time frame
• Determine a date to evaluate the plan
• Make adjustments

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Choosing a partner

• People tend to choose partners like themselves
• First attraction ? Observable characteristics
• With time ? Emphasis shifts to basic values

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Marriage

• Past ? Practical reasons
• Present ? Personal, Emotional reasons
• This shift places a greater burden to fulfill
  expectations

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Marriage

• Benefits
• Affection
• Personal affirmation
• Companionship
• Sexual fulfillment
• Emotional growth

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Marriage

• Predictors of a happy marriage
• Partners have realistic expectations
• Each likes the others personality
• They communicate well
• They resolve conflicts effectively
• They agree on religion/ethics
• They balance each others desires

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Divorce

• The high rate of divorce reflects extremely high
  expectations
• Divorce is the second greatest stress-producing
  life event, second only to the death of a family
  member

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Family Life

• American families
• About half are based on a first marriage
• Almost one third, single parent
• The remainder, remarriages

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Becoming a Parent

• Questions/issues to consider
• Your physical health and age
• Your health can effect your baby
• Your financial circumstances
• 150,000 to age 18
• Your relationship with your partner
• Stability, values, obligations

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Becoming a Parent

• Questions/issues to consider
• Your educational, career, and child care plans
• Your emotional readiness for parenthood
• Your social support system
• Your personal qualities/attitudes toward children

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Parenting

• Is parenting a chore???
• Examples

• Is parenting Rewarding???
• Examples

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Stepfamilies

• Single parenthood is usually a transitional stage
• Almost half the marriages in the US are
  remarriages
• A successful stepfamily takes time and isn't easy

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Strong Families

• Six major qualities
• Commitment
• Appreciation
• Communication
• Time together
• Spiritual wellness
• Coping with stress and crisis

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Activity

• Divide into groups of 5 to 6 people
• Make a list of 5 positive and 5 negative
  characteristics in a male and Female.

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Assignment

• Read Chapter 5
• Assignment
• Bring article associated with chapter 5
• Be ready to discuss the article