Clothing Has Always Been An Issue

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Clothing Has Always Been An Issue

• If you have a daughter it is an issue.
• Clothing has caused strong feelings ever since
  people started wearing them.
• Josephs brothers jealous of his coat/ father
  gave him.
• Marie Antoinette, 18th century French queen,
  hated for Lavish wardrobe, later beheaded because
  of her frivolous spending of the peoples money
• Blogs on Celebs Worst dressed, What not to wear

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Clothing Has Always Been An Issue

• We dress to feel good about the way that we look.
  It feels good to have people look at you and
  complement you.
• It is thrilling to have the guys attention on
  you.
• But where is their attention.
• But those who minimize the correlation between
  immodesty and sexual promiscuity deceive
  themselves.
• Sexualization of women defined as occurring when
  a persons value comes only from their sexual
  appeal or behavior.
• Negative consequences are documentedconfidence
  and comfort with body image leading to shame and
  anxiety are just a few.

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What draws your attention?
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Clothing Has Always Been An Issue

• Television, music video, music lyrics, video
  games, teen magazines
• Women are used as window dressing sexualization
  has set narrow standard for attractiveness.Postur
  e, look, creates unreal expectations
• Advertisers spend millions and they understand
  what works photo of a woman increases length of
  time looking by 14-30
• Three most common womens health problems, eating
  disorders, low self esteem, depression
• Young ladies are trying to measure up
• Hannah Montana, Lindsay Lohan, Brittany Spears,
  Christina Agulara.Barbie

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Speaking of Barbie
Average Woman
Barbie

• Height 60
• Weight 101 lbs
• Dress Size 4
• Bust 39
• Waist 19
• Hips 33

• Height 54
• Weight 145 lbs
• Dress Size 11-14
• Bust 36-37
• Waist 29-31
• Hips 40-42

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What Men Think!

• When you wear hootchie-wear, you are putting out
  an invitation.
• If your body is not for sale, then you should not
  appear to be advertising it!
• What is really being promoted is the idea that
  their bodies are for show, for the pleasure of
  others, not sacred temples.

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God made us different..
Men give intimacy in hopes of getting sex and
women give sex in hopes of getting intimacy and
relationships.

• Men are visual, there is a difference between
  dressing attractively and dressing to attract.
• Men are going to finish the picture, a little
  skin goes a long ways.
• Let guys love you for who you are on the inside.

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What God Thinks

• Modesty starts with the heart
• David was to blame for his adulterous affair, but
  Bathsheba was also partly to blame2 Sam 111-4
• Adorn yourselves with good works and righteous
  character!
• Be a light to the world!
• "Glorify God in your body and in your spirit"

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How to get to a Healthy Place, Start with a
Heart Check

• What statement do my clothes make about my heart?
• In choosing what clothes to wear today, whose
  attention do I desire and whose approval do I
  crave?
• Am I seeking to please God or impress others?
• Is what I wear consistent with biblical values of
  modesty, self-control and respectable apparel, or
  does my dress reveal an inordinate identification
  and fascination with sinful cultural values?
• Who am I trying to identify with through my
  dress? Is the Word of God my standard or is the
  latest fashion?
• Have I asked other godly individuals to evaluate
  my wardrobe?
• Does my clothing reveal an allegiance to the
  gospel or is there any contradiction between my
  profession of faith and my practice of godliness?

Modesty Heart Check, by Carolyn Mahaney, Nicole
Whitacre, Kristin Chesemore and Janelle Bradshaw
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Hottie, not a Hootchie

• Our dress is a reflection of who we are if your
  personality is conservative, you will dress
  conservative if youre outgoing, your dress will
  be louder.
• Teens are no different, except theirs is
  primarily based on their level of
  self-confidence.
• Be an encourager, not a discourager, be careful
  the way you speak!
• Change has to come from the inside out
• we cannot change them, only God can, so we need
  to PRAY
• we need to FOCUS pouring on constant
  encouragement and positive words into their lives
  
• If you dont like their dress/style, but it is
  modest, just get over it and tell them they are
  beautiful. Their taste WILL be different than
  yours, and thats ok! Let her be herself, not you!

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DIFFERENT can be OK!

• Is it YOUR style, probably not, but is it modest,
  YES, so get over it! Most phases pass, so be
  patient!
• Theyre NOT you!
• Be a YES mom whenever possible! (Dont be a
  because I said so mom!)
• Dont major on the minor!

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