HAPPY LOVE RELATIONSHIP

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HAPPY LOVE RELATIONSHIP

• Never both be angry at same time
• Never yell at each other unless.
• Make your mate look good, not you
• If u think this once u have to criticize
• Never bring up a past mistake - hunk
• New Orleans weekly Review how did I do
• Praise and adore catch
• Accentuate the positive

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HAPPY LOVE RELATIONSHIP

• Listen and appear to listen
• Start a marriage enrichment fund
• Say I am sorry, please forgive me - hunk
• Yield to the wishes of the other as
• Never go to bed mad-make up
• Whenever you have hurt, ask forgiveness
• Plan your time together let it be special
• Treat your spouse as a VIP - enthusiasm
• Man is the head of the house

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• PROFIT FROM CHANGE

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Happiness

• You are here to celebrate the universe
• The purpose of life is to enjoy it, to rejoice in
  the reality of life
• Take joy, delight in the labyrinth of our
  existence
• In the midst of winter I finally realize that
• Happiness is the prize show me .

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Happiness

• 100 bouts of laughter 15 minutes on bike
• Laughter stimulates the brain
• IgA, IgM, IgG, NK, T cells, cytokines complement
• Experiment students, comedy and IgA

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Happiness

• 7 year study of 36 women expressing joy
• 2 fold risk of dying if you have depressive
  tendencies

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½ of all men 1/3 of all women will develop
a malignancyHow we respond to changes and the
chaos on the horizon
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The Key is the way you respond
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What IS Stress?

• Stress is the response

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What IS LIFE?

• Life is one darn thing after another

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What IS LIFE?

• Sudden unexpected changes, conflicting demands
  and responsibility without control, barrage of
  bad news, anxious people

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CortisolThe Enemy

• Potent stimulus to visceral fat
• Craving for fat and sugar
• Visceral fat has enzymes,
• Dys -lipidemia, insulin resistance,
  hyperinsulinism
• Osteoporosis Loss of minerals

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Adrenalineanother enemy

• Work related life events increase the risk of MI
• Conflicting demand, sudden unexpected changes,
  time pressure, criticism, dissonance, schisms,
  clouded expectations, limited perception
• Responsibility, no control

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TRIUMPH over stress

• T - Tense
• R Relax
• I - Inner sweep
• U Up look up and smile
• M - My arms legs are heavy warm
• P - Posture
• H - Happiness

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USE HAPPINESS ( A MERRY HEART) AS A STRATEGY
FOR EXCELLING IN TIMES OF CHANGE
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Voltaire

• The function of a physician is not to heal the
  patient

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BIOLOGY OF HAPPINESS
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HAPPINESS

• RPC LPC
  

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LPC

• G
• R
• E
• A
• T

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To Stimulate LPC

• Give
• Relax
• Empathize Loose perception of own pain when
  obsessed with others, ego
• Assume the role Energy, exercise, purpose
• Take nothing for granted

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What to do at work

• Look for opportunities for others to excel
• Boost the self esteem of others, listen, lift the
  spirit of others boost perception
• Be the happiest, most helpful person
• Validate others

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• Name 2 things you can do to lift the spirit
  and elevate the level of happiness at work?

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Happiness

• IgA first line of defense
• IgA rises with laughter
• Sense of humor higher IgA
• See humor in dark IgA unaffected

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WHERE DO YOU FIND HAPPINESS?

• H not in riches, or praises
• H - not from changing outside
• H is an inside job

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WHERE DO YOU FIND HAPPINESS?

• H is an inside job
• You carry your H with you wherever
• H is living with wisdom and skill
• H is where

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BECOME A HAPPIER PERSON

• Act - Assume the role Method of physical action
• Believe that H is relevant and behave
• Commit to your calling MVP
• Dwell upon happy images Tom saw Melodee
• Establish control - exercise
• Fully bring selfenthusiasmexalted view
• Growth - Life and the freedom to move are as one
  we are happy when we are moving when we are
  growing, growing in knowledge, in understanding
  and in love, wisdom H is growth. Have a program
  of personal growth do something everyday to be a
  better U and U will be happier.

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My life flow on in endless song above
earths lamentation,I hear the real tho far off
hymn that hails a new creationthru all the
tumult and the strife, I hear that music
ringing,It sounds an echo in my soul, how can I
keep from singingWhat though the tempests round
me roar,I know the truth God liveth, What
though the sorrows round me pour,Songs in the
night it giveth, No storm can shake my inmost
calm while to that rock Im clinging, Since love
is lord of heaven and earth How can I keep from
singing
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PROFIT FROM CHANGE

• P
• R
• O
• F
• I
• T

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PROFIT FROM CHANGE

• PRACTICE PURPOSE calling (MVP)
• RELATIONSHIPS
• OPTIMISM (OPPORTUNITY, OVERLOOK,
• FIT, FAST, FOCUSED, FLEXIBLE, FUTURISTIC,
  FORTIFIED AND FUN
• INNOVATION, INFORMATION IMAGINATION
• TRIUMPH

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Happiness is the antidote to stress
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• POWER OVER STRESS

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Stress
IBS Inflammation
Cortisol
Immune Dysfunction
Lymphs
Impaired Cytokines
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STRESS
Adrenaline
Adrenaline
Constricts Blood Vessels
Leukocytosis Lymphocytosis
Adhesiveness
Cholesterol FFA
MI CVA
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Stress
Cortisol

• Blood sugar
• Adrenaline
• Glucose and FFA
• Provoke the pancreas
• Low Blood Sugar
• Irritability

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Stress
Cortisol

• Chronic exposure
• Leads to brain atrophy
• Suppression of neurogenesis
• Loss of minerals via kidneys leading
• to osteoporosis
• Decrease in K and Ca and increase Na

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BREATHING

• Dont waste your breath
• Breathe deeply and consciously
• Abdomen rises and falls
• Sweep the tension away - imagine
• Extend the out-breath

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Dynamic Relaxation

• Let go let your muscles go
• Effort defeats itself
• Relaxation is not something you do
• It is something you allow to happen
• Therefore Tense
• Use only the muscles you have to

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FACE (SMILE)

• Smile in storm
• Smile with your whole body
• It is easy to be pleasant

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GOOD POSTURE

• Balanced posture LR sky hook
• Head high, neck relaxed, chin in
• Chest open jaws loose
• Shoulders broad and loose, even
• Pelvis and hip level
• Back long healthy spine
• Abdomen in
• Stay lifted

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THINK GREAT THOUGHTS

• Whatever u dwell upon grows
• Thoughts - ancestors to acts-Marcus
• Sow a thought and reap an ..
• As a man thinks in his heart
• The thought that you glorify
• You become what you think about
• Keep your mind on what u want

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BE ON YOUR GUARD

• STRESS sneaks into your life
• The stressed out doctor

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14 Super Foods

• Oats
• Blueberry
• Yogurt
• Tomato
• Turkey
• Salmon
• Soy

• Tea (green)
• Walnuts
• Beans
• Pumpkin
• Spinach
• Broccoli
• Orange

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COMMON MISTAKES

• Eat under stress
• Eat fast Metabolic rate
• Miss breakfast Have coffee
• Glycemic breakfast
• Eat late and go to bed
• Fat, sugar, white four, dairy, meat

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PLAN YOUR NUTRITION

• You know what good nutrition is
• Grant us the will
• Im trying to motivate inspire to action
• Its not gas
• Plan your day with your physiology in mind

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How to Eat

• Awareness Is this what I need? Do I need this?
  Better in the garbage than
• Breathing Vitamin O
• Connectedness
• Decision
• Enough - kaisen
• French
• Genome Directed Food as medicine all men must
  know before they die

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The 4 Most Common immune suppressing Foods

• Sugar
• Alcohol
• Caffeine
• Trans Fat

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The 4 Most Common Immune Enhancing Foods

• Garlic
• Ginger
• Chili peppers
• Shiitake mushrooms

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Become a slow eater
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NUTRITION FOR THE BRAIN

• Multivitamins
• Colorize your diet
• Green tea
• Eat the right fats
• Low glycemic load
• Omega-3
• Calcium, Mg, D3

• Acetyl-L-Carnitine
• Co enzyme Q10
• N Acetyl cysteine
• PS, DMAE,
• Alfa Lipoic Acid
• Glutathione
• NADH

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Causes of Inflammation

• Trans fat and sugars
• Stress
• Lack of exercise
• Infection
• Toxins
• Petrochemicals
• Insulin resistance metabolic syndrome
• Food sensitivity

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MULTIVITAMINS

• Mixed caratenoids
• Mixture of B vitamins 50 mg each
• Folic acid 400 micrograms
• Vitamin C and E AMA Vit C and E from diet lowers
  risk of Alzheimers by 70
• Vitamin D3 prevent arthritis, lowers MS,
  Cancer, MI. lethal to mutated or changing cells
• Selenium 200 mcg
• Calcium and Magnesium

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Prudent Nutritional Support

• ALA (alpha lipoic acid) 250-500 mg
• Co Q10 60-120 mg / day
• Acetyl L carnitine 500-1000 mg / day
• Carnitine 500 mg tid
• Omega-3 ( 500 mg bid )
• Chromium picolinate 200 mcg / day
• Calcium and Magnesium

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Targeted Supplements

• Alpha Lipoic Acid - Acetyl L Carnitine
• Tumeric and Ginger
• Astralagus
• Cinnamon
• Celery
• Mixture of mushrooms
• ? Indole-3-Carbinol reduces breast cancer risk

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Inflammation

• C Reactive Protein marker of infl
• BP is a disease of infl CRP is high
• Colon cancer is infl
• Exercise is an anti infl
• Fish oil, curcumen, vit c, ginger

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Causes of Inflammation

• Trans fat and sugars
• Stress
• Lack of exercise
• Infection
• Toxins
• Petrochemicals
• Insulin resistance metabolic syndrome
• Food sensitivity

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Free Radical

• O2 extra electron 1puff100 trillion
• Cancer, cataract, OA, ARMD, Memory
• Prostate Ca gt Lycopene,
• Bladder CA ABCE
• China Selenium decr stomach CA
• Vitamins gtgt 70 decr in pain OA

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Eating

• Refuse to eat under stress
• Anti inflammatory diet
• Eat Breakfast Eat like a king in the morning,
  prince at noon, pauper at night
• Sit down eat with Awareness and O2
• Multivitamins
• Antioxidants and phytonutrients
• Genome directed All men must know before they
  die, what they are running from and to and why.
  One size does not fit all.

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NUTRITION FOR THE BRAIN

• Multivitamins
• Colorize your diet
• Green tea
• Eat the right fats
• Low glycemic load
• Omega-3
• Calcium, Mg, D3

• Acetyl-L-Carnitine
• Co enzyme Q10
• N Acetyl cysteine
• PS, DMAE,
• Alfa Lipoic Acid
• Glutathione
• NADH

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AWARENESS

• Human beings
• Absence of awareness greatest health hazard
• Medical Science if you can focus
• Awareness gtgt wholeness
• Bring attention in line with
• Listen ardently Machinist counterfeit dollar
• Know what it feels like to be healthy

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THINK GREAT THOUGHTS

• Concentrate not on the elimination See yourself
  as you want to be

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FORMULA FOR HAPPINESS

• Assume the role Method of physical action Smile
• Believe that H is relevant and behave
• Connect How many is this? Do not ignore the
  spirit, it is the most important part of your
  gift, man is but a tattered coat upon a string,
  unless
• Dwell upon happy images Tom saw Melodee
• Exercise Diet (physiological harmony)
• Fully bring selfenthusiasmexalted view world in
  grain of sand and beauty in a wild flower sense
  of wonder and joy flow attention leads to control
  and control to happiness
• Growth H is growth we are happy when we are
  growing Gratitude
• Hope optimism - choice, tattoo, camus, beatles,
  master, Raleigh
• Intend to be happy aptitudo - fit

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Happiness is a decision
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HOW TO BOOST PERCEPTION

• Get rid of cargo you dont need
• Margin 80/20 rule
• Seek silence to build inner fortitude
• Mission, Vision, Purpose
• Enrich your relationships
• Forgive at the drop of a hat Olive sinclair. I
  lie awake at night wondering if there isnt
  someone I can forgive. I also hope that today I
  get to forgive somebody. It is th emost self
  enhancing act which conveys a deep sweet feeling
  and an incredible light of being. What prevents
  you from enjoying the gift of forgiveness is your
  ego. Just override it and go for the greater joy
  that comes with meaningful clear connection.
• I am responsible abolish blame

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Stress and Virus

• Sheldon Cohen 394 people
• Rhinovirus
• Those who highly stressed
• Twice as likely to develop a cold
• Stress suppresses immunity
• The longer the more so

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• POWER OVER STRESS

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Medical Doctor

• Happiness is relevant
• Happiness is the antidote to stress
• H determines how long youll live
• Voltaire

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AWARENESS

• Awareness-powerfulgranted, gravity
• Humans only animals
• Absence of awareness greatest health hazard lack
  of feeling and knowing whats going on inside.
• Medical Science if you can focus
• Awareness gtgt wholeness
• Bring attention in line with
• Listen ardently Machinist counterfeit
• Know what it feels like to be healthy

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Stressors

• Come on 2 feet and talk back at you
• Hell is other people
• Never do what you want
• Get in the way disturb your peace
• When you are cruising hurry up
• Hurrying take it easy and so the irritations
  mount dissonance scism

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ARREST THE STRESSOR

• Anticipate the stressor and adopt the ch
• Respond dont react
• Reduce the virulence of the stressor
• Establish control
• Slow down - back up to the source
• Think great thoughts

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Anticipate the stressor

• Inventory of crunch times
• Plan your day with your physiology in mind
• Be futuristic predict Most stressors are
  predictable. Predict, plan to deploy, prepare
  your physiology
• Stress inoculation

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Anticipate the stressor

• Len prepared for being fired
• Inventory of crunch times
• Be futuristic art of predicting
• What if 10 virgins
• Dont go where the puck is
• Think Disease Age
• Stress inoculation

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Respond dont React

• Suspend your natural reaction Gap between S-R
• Get the most out of Dont waste your pain
• Take time out 10 - He was a saint
• Calm energy
• The 3 motorcycles

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REDUCE THE VIRULENCE

• Overlook some mistakes
• Back away from conflicts
• Time out 2 brothers
• Give up being right in favor of being ..
• Disarm aggressor Jump to his side, deflect
  attacks, destroy enemies
• Practice the East / West Window
• Know your values walk away
• Overcome evil with good
• What dictates how you respond?

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SOURCE

• Back up to the source of your strength river
• Where do you reach for the strength
• Operate from your center
• Soft eyes
• Slow down your movements cut the striving
• Let go and let God

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SLEEP

• Same time - dont sleep in.
• Learning and sleep
• Bedroom for sleep
• Foods may help avoid stimulants
• Relaxation exercise before sleep
• Beware of emotions and pills.
• Exercise promotes sleep.

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ENERGY IS THE CURRENCY

• A little boy - husband your energy
• Spend it thoughtfully
• Origin fat, protein, carb
• Train body to use energy sparingly
• Exercise and attention

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WHAT BLOCKS ENERGY

• SPEED
• PSYCHOSCLEROSIS
• IMBALANCE
• NEGATIVE EMOTIONS
• EGO
• PROCRASTINATION
• TRY
• INERTIA

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EMOTIONAL IQ

• AWARENESS LIVE CONSCIOUSLY
• MASTER EMOTIONS
• OPTIMISM HOPE
• SELF MOTIVATION
• GET ALONG WITH OTHERS

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HOW TO GET MORE TIME

• Strengthen your immune system, no colds
• No Stress, beware conflicts, seek peace
• Get a better memory
• Firm purpose and clear goals
• Build the power of your attention
• Ditch negative emotions, filter
• Early to bed, early to rise sleep well
• Think energy, many breaks (primacy)
• Operate from the centre

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HOW TO GET MORE TIME

• Practice selective neglect
• W.I.N D.I.N F.I.N
• Beware of being penny wise
• Happy deadline for conversations
• One thing at a time and that done well
• Put a price on your time

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Bless what there is

• I could find reasons fast enough to face the sky
  and roar in anger and despair at what is going
  on,
• Demanding that it name whoever is to blame
• The sky would only wait till all my strength was
  gone
• And then reiterate that singular command I do not
  understand
• Bless what there is for being.

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RELATIONSHIPS

• ? Higher level of consciousness
• Cluster of needs wants, feelings
• People not a means to an end
• Basic respect cleaner vs VP
• The more work you do on self.
• Work harder on self Kelly
• Choose one student or employee
• It is easy to be pleasant

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HIGH ENERGY UNDER STRESS

• Arousal
• Breathing
• Circulation PgtltS
• Differential Relaxation
• Emotions Melanie
• Food FRUGAL, FREQUENT, FAT, FRUITS, FORTIFIED,
  FORESIGHT, FASTING, FLUIDS, FEAST

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HOW TO BOOST ENERGY

• Monitor energy- EDA awareness gtgtgt control
• Match task
• shift - PgtS
• Cortical specificity - focus
• Posture change often and visual focus
• Chest open breathe deeply
• Rest and recovery cycle punctuate
• Move from centre - dynamic relaxation
• Exercise water nutrition-PLAN

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What to Leave Behind

• Judgment ..Curiosity
• Ego (craving for significance)
• Rigidity being right
• Criticism and Blame I am responsible
• Knots avoid, soften, seek peace
• Stress negative emotions

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HOW TO CHANGE

• Deep desireno hesitancy, ambiguity,
• Make a decision to pay the price
• I am responsible blame no one
• My psychiatrist poem
• Know your destination no wind
• Concentrate not on
• Become an architect craft your life, create your
  own university

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MEMORY TRICKS

• Synesthesia blending of the senses
• Movement multi sensory learning
• Association
• Symbols mind map
• Humor
• Imagination
• Numbering
• Gimmicks
• Sexual imagery
• Colors
• Order / sequence
• Positivity
• Exaggeration

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NO AMOUNT OF SUCCESS IN YOUR PROFESSIONAL
LIFE CAN MAKE UP FOR FAILURE IN YOUR HEALTH
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BOOST BRAIN POWER

• AROMA
• BLEND
• COLORS
• DEXTERITY
• EXERCISE BOBY FISCHER
• FEED Info, Fluids, Oxygen, Glucose
• GAP BREAK
• HANDS
• IMAGINATION

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Relaxation Letting go

• Let go let your muscles go
• This takes you up to a certain point After that
  effort defeats itself
• Relaxation is not something you do
• It is something you allow to happen
• Therefore Tense
• Know what good posture is

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Take stress from conflicts

• Define the problem clearly
• Adopt a goal for the encounter
• Create rapport
• Define upsetting behavior focus on act
• Communicate with courtesy and correct
• Listen more
• Give up being right in favor of

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SLEEP

• What happens during sleep?
• What foods promote sleep?
• One trick to improve sleep quality

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ANTIDOTE TO STRESS - A MERRY HEART

• Appreciation gratitude. Adore, complement, behold
  and bless, behave
• JoyH is where I am
• Expectation, tattoo, beetles, choice, master,
  Camus, Raleigh
• Relaxation. Peace. Imperturbable
• Control gt confidence doing, risking cant fell
  trees silence
• Kindness loving kindness

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Happiness

• Stanford U 100 laughs 10 mins
• H IgA, IgM, IgG, NK, T cells complement
• Experiment students, comedy and IgA
• Cortisol dip watching comedy
• Women give vent to feelings, live longer
• Venting thoughts and feelings T cells
• If you feel like crying - cry

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HOW TO CHANGE

• Visualize the end point
• Intend gtgt Attitude
• Verbalize the dream-topic of conversation
• Assume the role act the part
• Program persistence, opp of failure
• Prepare for times you want to quit
• Rx failure next time Ill

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STRESSORS

• MAJOR death in the family, divorce, child
  leaving home, legal proceedings, loosing your
  job,
• MINOR ( the daily grind )
• MOSQUITOES
• Sand in my shoe

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Stressors

• Instead of using brain energy to nail jello
  against the wall focus inwards and let them be
• Dont try to change the seasons

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Tools of Transformation

• A
• B
• C
• D
• E
• Face
• Good posture
• Happiness

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Dynamic Relaxation

• Let go let your muscles go
• Effort defeats itself
• Relaxation is not something you do
• It is something you allow to happen
• Tense first as the pressure mounts
• Tense in the midst of the storm
• Use only the muscles you have to

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SMILE

• Assume the role
• Smile when things are bad
• Smile with your whole body
• It is easy to be pleasant

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What to say if your boss catches you sleeping at
your desk during work time.

• 5.  "They told me at the Blood Bank this might
  happen."4.  "This is just a 15 minute power nap
  they raved about in      the time Management
  course you sent me to."3.  "Whew! Guess I left
  the top off the Whiteout. You     probably got
  here just in time."2.  "Did you ever notice
  sound coming out of these keyboards     when you
  put your ear down real close?"    And the
  NUMBER ONE best thing to say if you get
  caught    sleeping at your desk...1.  Raise
  your head slowly and say, "...in Jesus' name,
  Amen."
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To see the world in a grain of sand And beauty
in a wild flowerHold infinity in the palm of
your hand And eternity in an hour
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THE TIME TO BE HAPPYThe time to be happy is
nowThe place to be happy is hereAnd the way to
be happy Is to make others happy And have a
little heaven down here.
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THE END