What are you looking for in a date

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The Road to Happiness
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Introductions

• Martha Dominic Dixon
• Jennifer Springfield
• Michelle Drye
• Ruben Pelham

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Dating Social ActivitiesWHAT IS A DATE?

• Where When
• Recreation events, restaurants
• Church
• Park, Amusement Parks
• Clubs Special Olympics
• Sports
• Family Events, holidays

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What do you need to know before you think about
dating?

• Should you have someone go with you on your date?
• Who could go with you on a date??? Brother??
  Sister?? Double date?

• How do you feel about dating?
• How does your family feel about you dating?
• Who should you talk to before you decide to start
  dating?

• What safety skills should you learn?

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Why do people go on dates?

• Because theyre fun
• To meet new people
• To get to know someone better
• To experience something new

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Why do you want to go on a date?

• To have a good time?
• To make a new friend?
• To meet a new boyfriend/girlfriend?

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What are you looking for in the person you want
to date?

• Someone close to your age?
• Should they have a job?
• Should they go to school?
• What are they interested in?
• Are they funny?
• Does your family approve of them?
• Are they smart?
• Do they respect you for who you are?
• Do they respect themselves and other people?

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What should you know about someone before you go
on a date with them?

• You should see this person fairly often in a
  group setting before you go out alone with them

• You should know their name, address and phone
  number
• You should not go out with them alone until you
  feel safe around them

You should be comfortable talking to your family
about them, and maybe even introduce them to your
family before you go out together
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How do you know if you like someone?

• You think your family will like them
• You might want to kiss or hug them
• You might want to do something special for them
• You want your family to meet them

• You want to be around him or her
• You feel happy when he or she talks to you
• You want them to like you
• Their opinion is important to you

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How should you act if you like someone? How do
you show them you like them?

• Smile at them!!!
• Start a conversation
• Pay attention when they talk
• Ask about their interests
• Tell a joke

• Invite them to join you and your friends in a fun
  activity
• Dont try to show off
• Relax and be yourself
• Like yourself! Confidence is attractive

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What can you do if you want to go on a date with
someone but you arent comfortable being alone
with them yet?

• Ask a friend if they want to bring a date too and
  make it a double date

• Meet your date at a dance or at a People First
  meeting
• Invite your date to go to a group activity

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When you ask someone on a date, what should you
say?

• Remember to be polite
• Asking someone if theyd like to meet somewhere
  for coffee is a good start
• Or
• Would you like to go out to dinner on Friday?

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What is an example of a good way to start a
conversation with someone you like?

• Hi, my name is _____ and I thought you seemed
  nice. How are you?
• I really like your ____ (shirt, backpack, etc).
  Where did you get it?

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What can you talk about on a date?

• School
• Jobs
• Family
• Interests

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What do you say if someone asks you out and you
dont want to date him?

• No, thank you
• Im busy, Im sorry
• I dont want to
• I have a boyfriend
• I dont want to go out on dates

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How do you prepare and plan for your date?

• Tell someone where you are going
• Make sure you know where you are going
• Make sure you are being safe - know what you and
  your family are comfortable with you doing
• Tell someone who you are going out with

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More planning

• Tell someone when you will be back
• Figure out how you are getting there
• Have a backup plan in case things change
• Make sure you have money for the planned activity

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What should you do to get ready for a date?

• Take a shower
• Brush your teeth
• Put on deodorant
• Style your hair
• Get dressed in clean clothes

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What should you wear on a date?

• If you are going to restaurant and a movie, you
  could wear jeans
• If you are going to a fancy restaurant for
  dinner, you could wear a nice clothes

• Something you feel comfortable in
• Something you feel pretty or handsome in
• Something appropriate for the activity you will
  be doing
• Anything you wear should be clean, wrinkle free
  and not have holes in it

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How do you know if a date is going well?

• We are smiling
• We have lots of things to talk about
• We feel comfortable
• We are having fun
• We want to see each other another time

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What could you do if you had fun on a date?

• You can hold their hand at the end of the night,
  but make sure its ok with him first
• You can give them a kiss or hug goodnight, but
  make sure its ok with them first

• You can tell the person you are out with that you
  had fun
• Call them and ask them to go out again
• Smile at them a lot

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How can you learn to be safe in relationships?
Take classes, join support groups Contact
services such as Planned Parenthood, to learn
about safe sex Talk to your doctor