Good Grief

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Good Grief Exploring death, loss and grief Revd
Simon BetteridgeChaplain Team Leader Head of
Bereavement Services UHCW NHS Trust
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Introductions

• Intros
• Content
• Confidentiality
• Care of self

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Setting Loss in Context
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Context Historyof death and dying in England

• Affect of WWI
• Post-WWII reforms
• Shift in where people die
• Dispersal of communities

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Attitudes Cultural Perceptions

• Post-modernism and consumerism
• Loss of familiarity with death

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Personal experienceWhat is your experience?

• Reflect on a particular experience
• How did you feel physically and emotionally?
• How were those close to you affected?
• What was the most helpful/unhelpful thing that
  was said or done?

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Experience of Grief
Process of experiencing psychological, social and
physical reactions to the perception of loss
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The Grieving Process KÜbler-Ross stages

• Denial No, it cant be
• Feelings (anger) Why me?
• Bargaining If I just
• Depression It hurts so
• Acceptance Thats ok

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The Grieving Process William Wordens tasks of
mourning

• Accept the reality of loss
• Work through the pain of grief
• Adjust to a new environment
• Emotional relocation

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The Grieving Process Continuing bonds

• Challenging existing models
• Recognition of complexity
• Constructing a bond

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Meeting Needs

• Be welcoming
• Be firm ground under their feet
• Give permission to show emotions
• Give time and space
• Place of ritual

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Religious Input

• Recognition of value
• Familiar words
• Sense of peace
• Reconciliation
• Outward signs
• Offering to and being received by God

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