Merge Lesson 6 Becoming a Spiritual Leader-Parent

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Merge Lesson 6Becoming a Spiritual Leader-Parent

• Nov. 28

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Think About It

• Who do you know who followed in their parents
  footsteps?

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Think About It

• Today we look at what it takes to have our
  children and grandchildren follow in our
  spiritual footsteps
• ? How can we lead them effectively

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Transparency

• Being see-through with your kids
• Why do some parents think they have to be perfect
  in front of their kids?
• Actually, kids know we arent

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Listen for another group that Jesus says is not
perfect

• Luke 1137-52 (NIV) When Jesus had finished
  speaking, a Pharisee invited him to eat with him
  so he went in and reclined at the table. 38 But
  the Pharisee, noticing that Jesus did not first
  wash before the meal, was surprised. 39 Then
  the Lord said to him, "Now then, you Pharisees
  clean the outside of the cup and dish, but inside
  you are full of greed and wickedness. 40 You
  foolish people!

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Listen for another group that Jesus says is not
perfect

• Did not the one who made the outside make the
  inside also? 41 But give what is inside the
  dish to the poor, and everything will be clean
  for you. 42 "Woe to you Pharisees, because you
  give God a tenth of your mint, rue and all other
  kinds of garden herbs, but you neglect justice
  and the love of God. You should have practiced
  the latter without leaving the former undone.
  43 "Woe to you Pharisees, because you love the
  most

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Listen for another group that Jesus says is not
perfect

• important seats in the synagogues and greetings
  in the marketplaces. . 44 "Woe to you, because
  you are like unmarked graves, which men walk over
  without knowing it." 46 Jesus replied, "And
  you experts in the law, woe to you, because you
  load people down with burdens they can hardly
  carry, and you yourselves will not lift one
  finger to help them. 47 "Woe to you, because
  you build tombs for the prophets,

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Listen for another group that Jesus says is not
perfect

• and it was your forefathers who killed them. 48
  So you testify that you approve of what your
  forefathers did they killed the prophets, and
  you build their tombs. 49 Because of this, God
  in his wisdom said, 'I will send them prophets
  and apostles, some of whom they will kill and
  others they will persecute.' 50 Therefore this
  generation will be held responsible for the blood
  of all the prophets that has been shed since the

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Listen for another group that Jesus says is not
perfect

• beginning of the world 52 "Woe to you
  experts in the law, because you have taken away
  the key to knowledge. You yourselves have not
  entered, and you have hindered those who were
  entering

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Transparency

• What surprised Jesus host?
• According to Jesus, what did the Pharisee
  emphasize and overlook?
• Why did Jesus say woe six times? To whom did
  He say it, and what was the cause?
• The Pharisees and experts in the law were not
  transparent. How are parents not transparent
  with their children?

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Transparency

• Secular institutions such as schools and even the
  government try to change peoples behavior
  without changing them on the inside. Why doesnt
  this work?
• In what ways do Christians also try to change the
  way their children act outwardly rather than how
  they respond to God?
• If we are to be transparent before our children,
  what kinds of things should they see us doing,
  modeling before them?

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Listen for attitudes that should be present in
Christian families.

• Ephes. 429-32 (NIV) Do not let any unwholesome
  talk come out of your mouths, but only what is
  helpful for building others up according to their
  needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
  31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger,
  brawling and slander, along with every form of
  malice. 32 Be kind and compassionate to one
  another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ
  God forgave you.

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Encouragement

• How should families speak to one another?
• What should not be present in the lives of
  Christian families?
• What positive actions and attitudes should be
  present in the Christian family?
• What was a time when words of encouragement
  positively impacted you?

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Encouragement

• Consider further advice from Ephes. 64 (NIV)
• Fathers, do not exasperate your children
  instead, bring them up in the training and
  instruction of the Lord.
• How should children be reared and nourished?
• Why is it easier for children to obey fair and
  loving parents than unreasonable and demanding
  parents?

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Listen for how to use our gifts.

• 1 Peter 410-11 (NIV) Each one should use
  whatever gift he has received to serve others,
  faithfully administering God's grace in its
  various forms. 11 If anyone speaks, he should
  do it as one speaking the very words of God. If
  anyone serves, he should do it with the strength
  God provides, so that in all things God may be
  praised through Jesus Christ.

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Giving Grace to Children

• This passage talks about service. What results
  would you expect from involving children in
  service to others?
• What are some other ways we can teach them
  thankfulness?
• In this passage, Peter is admonishing his readers
  to faithfully serve the Lord. How can we
  admonish or correct children with the motivation
  of love, not anger?

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Application

• Ask God for transparency with children and
  grandchildren
• Learn to admit when you are wrong
• Learn to apologize more readily
• Dont fake it

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Application

• Build one another up
• Ask God to take away anger and bitterness from
  your home
• Replace those actions and attitudes with kind
  words
• This week look for ways to encourage one another

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Application

• Take steps to teach children thankfulness
• Involve them in actions of service
• Model and teach saying thank you
• Admonish with kindness and love

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Merge Lesson 6Becoming a Spiritual Leader-Parent

• Nov. 28