STRESS MANAGEMENT BY ROCHELLE LIGHTBOURN WHAT IS STRESS? The

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STRESS MANAGEMENT

• BY
• ROCHELLE LIGHTBOURN

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WHAT IS STRESS?

• The bodys inability to effectively manage/deal
  with any given situation whether it is positive
  or negative
• It is your reaction to any stimulus that YOU
  cannot deal with

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STRESSORS

• The things that create stress for us are called
  stressors
• Stressors can be either positive or negative

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The Stressor Continuum

• Stress begins in our mind
• Then it effects our emotions
• And in turn produces some sort of
• Physical
• Behavioural
• Spiritual Response

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POSITIVE STRESSORS

• This list can go on and on
• Marriage
• A new house
• A new car
• Winning the lotto
• A promotion
• A new baby

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NEGATIVE STRESSORS

• Again, there are many negative stressors
• A poor attitude
• Being in a toxic environment, around toxic people
• Loss/any loss
• Role overload/confusion
• Too many bills, too little money

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EUSTRESS

• Believe it or not stress is essential to life.
• There is that stress that is good for us, it is
  called Eustress, it actually gets us out of bed
  in the morning, it helps us to improve
  performance and to get things done.

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DISTRESS

• The stress that presents problems is what we will
  focus on today.
• It is called Distress

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INTERNAL STRESSORS

• In many instances we have conflict with
  ourselves.
• Many of us are trying to be like every body else
  and in the process are losing ourselves
• Take of the mask
• Will the REAL YOU, PLEASE STAND UP

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SELF PERCEPTION

• 90 of perception is Reality.
• Some of us stand as peacocks but
• Are only punched drunk chickens

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THATS LIFE

• In most instances we deal with 40-50 stressors
  every day and because we are so used to dealing
  with them, we ignore them. This creates problems
  for us later.

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FIGHT OR FLIGHT

• Initially everybody reacts to stress the same
  way, the body goes into the FIGHT/FLIGHT MODE

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MANIFESTATIONS OF STRESS

• However long term manifestations are seen in the
  following ways
• Physically
• Mentally
• Emotionally
• Behaviourally
• Spiritually

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PHYSICAL MANIFESTATIONS

• Hair loss
• Skin breakouts
• Constipation/Diarrhea
• Muscle Tension
• Headaches/Insomnia
• Menstrual issues/Impotency

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MENTAL MANIFESTATIONS

• Forgetfulness/short term/long term memory
• Racing thoughts
• Indeciveness
• Negativity
• Inability to retain
• anxiety

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EMOTIONAL MANIFESTATIONS

• Fear
• Easily agitated/Panic
• Questions ability
• Excessive Worrying
• The cycle of
• Pain
• Anger
• Rage

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BEHAVIOURAL MANIFESTATIONS

• We see introverts becoming extroverts
• The passive become aggressive
• Inappropriate behaviours
• Exhibits Negativity and negative Self Talk
• Abuse of things, people and self

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SPIRITUAL MANAIFESTATIONS

• Religiousity
• Lack of relationship with God
• Alternative religions
• Bargaining with God
• Becoming a God unto ourselves

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WHATS HAPPENING IN ORGANIZATIONS?

• People are secondary, especially in technical
  environments like ours
• People are more uncaring, it is a cut throat
  world
• There is a lot of hurt and pain in the workplace
  and no-one is addressing it
• People are spread to thin, through this concept
  of being multi-faceted

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CORPORATE NECESSATIES

• the lap top
• The cell phone
• The blackberries
• The smart phones
• The internet
• The intranet
• 24/7 communication

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THE TOXIC 21st CENTURY ORGANIZATION

• Most 21st century organizations are TOXIC and are
  spreading the deadly viruses of
• Dishonesty
• Deceit
• Lying
• Cheating
• Backbiting
• Manipulating
• ALL OF THE THINGS THAT ADD TO OUR STRESS LEVELS

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HOW DO WE COPE?PRAY

• God grant me the serenity to accept the things I
  cannot change, the courage to change the things I
  cannot accept and the wisdom to hide the bodies
  of those I had to kill today because they got on
  my last nerves.

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PRAYER cont.

• Also help me to be careful of the toes I step on
  today, as they may be connected to the feet I
  have to kiss tomorrow

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PRAYER cont.

• Help me to always work 100
• 12 on Monday
• 23 on Tuesday
• 40 on Wednesday
• 20 on Thursday
• 5 on Friday

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PRAYER cont.

• Finally, God, help me remember.
• When Im having a bad day and it seems that
  people are trying to wind me up, that it takes 42
  muscles to frown

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PRAYER cont.

• 28 muscles to smile,

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PRAYER cont.

• And only 4 muscles to extend my arm and smack
  them in the mouth

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HOW TO COPE

• Recognize that some things are out of your
  control, especially people
• Affirm yourself and trigger positive images
• Get a sense of humor
• Listen to music/pamper yourself
• Go to the beach
• DUMP THE GARBAGE
• TALK to a friend, a professional, GOD

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COPING cont.

• Develop a positive attitude
• Learn to accept the things you cannot change
• Grieve losses but move on
• Focus energy on what is in your control
• Avoid the chemical haze
• Balance work play
• Listen to your body
• Find time to celebrate

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COPING AT WORK

• Try to seek employment that matches your gift,
  its not to late
• Go with a positive attitude
• Clarify your responsibilities to avoid overload
• Say what you mean and mean what you say
• Do things decent and in order
• REMEMBER your most important resources are
  PEOPLE, take care of them and they will take care
  of you

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COPING WITH SELF

• Be honest with yourself
• Connect to your source/God
• Transform your mind/outlook/attitude
• Believe in yourself
• Introspect often and adjust
• Be at peace with you
• Know who you really are

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COPING WITH SELF cont.

• Seek professional help if needed
• Be a value adder
• Be open to change
• Seek holistic growth
• Develop yourself
• Ensure you surround yourself with positive people
• CUT TOXIC TIES

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HOW STRESSED ARE YOU?

• How many transitions have you made in your life?

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HOW MANY ROLES ARE YOU PLAYING?
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FACTS ABOUT STRESS

• 68 of American Workers feel burned put
• 40 of job turnover is stress related
• 40 suffer adverse health effects because of
  stress
• 75 -90 of all doctor visits are stress related
• Stress is linked to the leading causes of death
• Over 8 billion dollars is spent annually on
  anti-depressants

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STOP AND RELAX