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155 - Friends A natural treatment for adult
ADHD Natural treatment for adhd Medication
and counseling can help treat the symptoms of
ADHD, but for many adults, have a good friend is
the best alternative treatment. Nan Bailey, 42,
a marketing consultant, was diagnosed with ADHD a
year and a half. The medication and yoga have
been useful, but the best weapon against Nan ADHD
symptoms is her friend Janice, a graphic artist
who works with her occasionally. She understands
the behavior of Nan, and helps to control
them. Why do friends help treat the symptoms of
ADHD The research reveals the importance of
friendship for adult ADHD. In a study entitled "
Responses to Stress in Females
Tend-and-Befriend, Not Fight-or-Flight",
published in Psychological Review, UCLA
researchers suggest that having a close friend
helps women cope with the stress and live more
time and with better health. Friendship is
especially important for women who were diagnosed
with ADHD in their 30 to 40 years. Many of these
women have lost a job, friends and possibly a
wedding, and some were isolated and avoided
trying to make friends. Women with close friends,
however, are better able to control their lives
and heal the wounds of the past related to
ADHD. "Women with ADHD find it more difficult
to make friends and socialize," says Timothy S.
Bilkey, MD, director of Bilkey ADHD Clinics in
Ontario, Canada. "If a woman has lost friends
because of impulsive or a comment about something
that she said, her self-esteem will suffer. Women
with ADHD do not realize that inappropriate
comments or have offensive behaviors that
alienate some people. These women are sensitive
to rejection. Find a good friend is critical to
cross that wall. " "Having someone you can talk
about their difficulties is extremely important
for self-esteem and to promote understanding of
himself," says Nancy A. Ratey, in ADHD coach and
author of "Desorganized Mind." Ratey was
diagnosed with 29 years of age, and she uses her
experience when acting as a coach for adults with
ADHD. As the right friends can help the
symptoms of ADHD Although ADHD coaching is
recommended as a component of treatment, many
women seek their friends to get further help. Nan
has friends and not ADHD. Of her friends not
ADHD, she says, "Some have found that I get
overwhelmed by simple tasks - filling roles or
household chores like vacuuming and dusting off -
which leaves me with an amazingly messy house. My
friends help me without making me feel guilty.
They have washed my clothes and checked my
checkbook. " Amelia, 49, is a visual artist and
poet. Adults diagnosed with ADHD three years ago,
she has a close friend. "It gives me suggestions
and tips to help me live in a world that I do not
understand," she reveals. The key to a
productive and lasting friendship is to choose
friends wisely. I - and many of my friends ADHD -
look for patience, support and a good sense of
humor of a friend. My friends help me control my
deep insecurity and anxiety. Even today, when I
find myself in a situation in which someone is
abusive, irrational or acting improperly, I think
if I should blame my social skills. This is
probably due to the fact that my family saw my
hyperactivity and malice. They thought I could
control my behavior, but I did not want. A link
to my dearest friend put things right. She knows
what I feel inside - and not always me who is
wrong. Be friends with ADHD or
not? "Friendships with other women ADHD are
difficult," said Amelia, "because they seem to
exacerbate my symptoms. ADHD is sufficiently
disturbing, dealing with it on other people makes
you aware of its limitations. " Nan agrees. "I
have a friend with ADHD-like behaviors," she
says. "His disorganization and confusion make me
crazy! We are both easily distracted, and we can
leave projects abandoned for months. On the
positive side, "I'm less disappointed in myself
when I'm with her." Sarah, 33, who was
diagnosed with ADHD hyperactive and impulsive at
age 24, says her friends do not ADHD to calm
down, while his highly energetic personality
reveals his lighter side. "I admire and like calm
and silent types." For some, however,
friendships with others with ADHD work better.
"Can I appeal to my friends anytime ADHD," says
Ratey. "But if I turn to my friends not ADHD,
they take it personally. It seems lack of
commitment or lack of kindness. " Having
friendships with adult ADHD is important to
Ratey, because they understand their
eccentricities and can laugh at them. "Other
women do not understand how difficult it can be
shopping at the supermarket," she says. "Women
with ADHD know very well. If you jump from one
item to another, they are able to accompany you.
" Ratey remember having made friends with a
woman who, as Ratey, had recently been diagnosed
with the disorder. None of them had begun to take
medication. While other young college was taking
pills to get stimulated, they sat together on a
bench on campus, holding hands on the medication.
That classic moment of unity that only those with
ADHD may experience, they began to take their
medication together! They have been friends ever
since. How to maintain friendships with adult
ADHD Winning friends is not difficult for many
adults with ADHD. Given its abundance of charm,
intelligence and humor, not like what?
Maintaining friendship is another story.
Offensive behavior erratic, impulsive and
unpredictable becomes exasperating. "The
challenge is to maintain friendships make the
effort to pay attention and remember things like
the names of the children of a friend, where she
works and she does not eat in certain
restaurants," says Amelia. "Many people do not
care to remind you once or twice, especially in
the early stages of a friendship, but after
telling you for the twelfth time that the name of
her son Jason is it is understandable that
someone will be angry. For all these
challenges, friendship is the difference between
a pleasant life and that state of feeling
overwhelmed by stress that many of us experience.
Ratey says, "If a friend does not add anything to
your growth and self-acceptance, that person does
not belong to your life." Tips friendship for
adults with ADHD  Take responsibility to
control their ADHD to the best of your skills
(medicine, coaching, and support groups). 
Strive for self-awareness, to learn how to
socialize with others.  Start the friendship
carefully and go slowly, remember that not every
contact is a potential friend.  Agree to
disagree. Not always you who is wrong. But it
should not be a breach of contract if you do not
agree with something.  Meet your obligations,
keep appointments made ??with friends. 
Acknowledge your mistakes and apologize. 
Listen to your friend when he is talking, even
when your brain is trying to remake the grocery
list.  Show interest in another person think
about what is important to her. Some friends
expect you to remember their birthdays others do
not care about a meeting late. Some like the
return of bonds, others like to meet
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