Anger Management and Patience

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Anger Management Patience

• By Josh Claypool
• Steve Pollock
• David Randle

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What is anger?

• Mild Irritation

• Intense fury

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Anger.Is it good or bad?
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Ways to manage your anger
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Relaxation

• Relaxationthis is one of the most powerful tools
  to use in overcoming anger although it is very
  hard to access in the heat of the moment. There
  are many different ways to encourage relaxation
  including meditation, prayer, taking deep
  breathes and participating in yoga or other forms
  of relaxing exercises. Sometimes utilizing
  different phrases such as relax or cool it
  over and over again can calm the anger.

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Cognitive Restructuring

• Cognitive Restructuring when somebody uses the
  words always or never when engaged in an
  argument, they are conditioning their thinking to
  be focusing on absolutes while in a conversation
  fused with anger. Cognitive Restructuring is
  when we recondition our thinking to be more
  positive and rational. If we are thinking
  realistically, then we prevent irrational
  behavior and tend to not set such high demands on
  people and ultimately, tend to be calmer.

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Problem Solving

• Problem Solving-- this diffuses the emotional
  energy of anger by approaching it from a
  standpoint of there is a solution to this.
  Deciding that there is a solution to the anger,
  making a plan to fix the situation and focusing
  on a good outcome is an almost fail-safe way to
  deal with it.

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Better communication

• Better Communication Listening is one very
  critical and often overlooked component to
  communication. Instead of thinking about what
  youre not getting or how badly this is affecting
  you, try to better understand where the other
  person is coming from. If you can slow down
  enough to hear the other person, then you will
  have a better chance of being able to articulate
  what the true nature of your anger is. Most
  people tend to think that their thinking is the
  only right way and often treat the other person
  like they are wrong or that they dont know what
  they are talking about. This should help
  alleviate this kind of thinking in the heat of
  the moment.

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Using humor

• Using Humor Dont take yourself so darn
  seriously, period. Try picturing yourself as a
  young warthog with one goal. That goal is to get
  muddy. How could you be angry if you were
  actually a warthog playing in the mud? (Im not
  really sure where that came from but itd
  probably work). Try to not be sarcastic or harsh
  about your humor though, this might actually
  encourage the anger to grow instead of defusing
  it.

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Change your environment

• Change Your Environment Some people might
  consider this taking a break or giving yourself a
  timeout. When engulfed in the anger of the
  moment, it is very helpful and often times the
  best solution to immediate relief of your anger.
  Giving yourself a little time and distance from
  the situation will give you a chance to calm down
  and analyze what is going on and approach it in a
  different manner.

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Patience

• http//www.xtranormal.com/watch/12216451/developin
  g-patience
• (pause the slide show, right click the URL and
  scroll down to open hyperlink to access the
  patience video)

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resources

• http//www.beyondintractability.org/essay/anger/
• http//www.apa.org/topics/anger/control.aspx
• Psychology of Anger Harry Mills, Ph.D.
• The Gift of Anger By Jane López De Victoria, M.S.
  http//psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2010/02/21/t
  he-gift-of-anger/
• Developing Patience Is A Valuable Stress Reducer.
  (2011, June 14)
• Gentle Stress Relief Tips for Peace Health
  Happiness. Retrieved June 15, 2011, from
  http//www.gentle-stress-relief.com/developing-pat
  ience.html
• Developing Patience Life Lessons. Life Lessons.
  Retrieved June 9, 2011, from http//lifelessons4u.
  wordpress.com/2009/09/01/developing-patience/
  Smoot, A. (2009, September 1)