Assumptions About Marriage

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Assumptions About Marriage

• We love each other.
• We will be happy together.
• We will make each other happy.
• We will spend our lives together.
• We will meet each others needs.
• Our love is stronger than all our problems.

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Tips for Newlyweds Source About. COM

• Be prepared for the newlywed blues.
• Continue to schedule and keep dates with one
  another. Don't let romance become a low priority.
  
• Discover ways to have fun together.
• Discuss the big issues like money, in-laws, and
  sex.
• Talk about your expectations with one another.
  Make sure they are realistic.
• Learn about one another's family of origin.
• Fight fairly, but fight. Don't avoid conflict
• Learn how to compromise.
• Deal with your differences.
• Be forgiving.
• Be patient. It takes time to grow a marriage.
• Things will change once you are married even
  though you may have lived together, took trips
  together, shared a bank account together, slept
  together, and/or made major purchases together.
• Be prepared for the subtle changes that occur
  because now you have made a life-long commitment
  to one another.
• The major issues newlywed couples often face are
  finances, in-laws, expectations, conflict,
  communication, sex, and having fun.

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Types of Love

• Eros Romantic love, sensual, it includes idea of
  yearning to unite with and the desire to possess
  the beloved, sentimental
• Ludus Playful game
• Storge The comfortable old shoe relationship
  comprised of natural affection and a sense of
  belonging to each other. Familial love.
• Epithumia Strong desire of any kind, things you
  set your heart on, to covet, to lust
• Philelo Tender affection for the beloved but
  always expects a response, relational,
  comradeship and sharing
• Agape Unconditional love typically from God

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Why Seek Love?

• Comfort
• Companionship
• Sex
• Romance
• Altruism

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Why Marry?

• Prestige
• Maturity
• Independence
• Equality
• Fairness
• Escape

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Marital Myth Quiz Findings

• A husbands marital satisfaction is usually lower
  if his wife is employed full-time than if she is
  a full-time homemaker.
• Today most young, single, never-married people
  will eventually get married.
• In most marriages having a child improves marital
  satisfaction for both spouses.
• The best single predictor of overall marital
  satisfaction is the quality of a couple's sex
  life.
• The divorce rate in American increased from 1960
  to 1980.
• A greater percentage of wives are in the work
  force today than in 1970.
• Marital satisfaction for a wife is usually lower
  if she is employed full time than if she is a
  full-time homemaker.
• If my spouse loves me, he/she should
  instinctively know what I want and need to be
  happy.
• In a marriage in which the wife is employed
  full-time, the husband usually assumes an equal
  share of the housekeeping.
• For most couples marital satisfaction gradually
  increased from the first year of marriage through
  the child-bearing years, the teen years, the
  empty nest period and retirement.
• No matter how I behave, my spouse should love me
  simply because he/she is my spouse.
• One of the most frequent marital problems is
  marital communication.
• Husbands usually make more life style adjustments
  in marriage than wives.
• Couples who cohabitated before marriage usually
  report greater marital satisfaction than
  marriages who did not.
• I can change my spouse by point out his/her
  inadequacies, errors, etc.
• Couples who marry when one or both partners are
  under the age of 18 have more chance of
  eventually divorcing than those who marry when
  they are older.
• Either my spouse loves me or does not love me
  nothing I do will affect the way my spouse feels
  about me.
• The more a spouse discloses positive and negative
  information to his/her partner, the greater the
  marital satisfaction of both partners.
• I must feel better about my partner before I can
  change my behavior toward him/her