SELF CONCEPT

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Michael
What do these people have in common?
Halle Berry

Bill Clinton
Wynonna Judd
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SELF-ESTEEM

• The worst loneliness is not to be comfortable
  with yourself.
  
• -Mark Twain

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DEFINITION

• holding a good opinion of ones self
  self-complacency.
  
• The individuals sense of his/her value or
  worththe extent to which a person values,
  appreciates, and likes himself/herself.

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WHAT IS SELF-ESTEEM?

• It is a package you put together that combines
  how others have seen and treated you and the
  conclusions you have drawn as you compared
  yourself to others.
• How others saw you became how you saw yourself.
• Is a belief system you have constructed about
  yourself.
  

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Beliefs about

• the type of person you are.
• how you relate to others.
• your significance in your family the world
  you live in.

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Self-esteem affects

• The way you THINK, ACT, FEEL about yourself and
  others.
  
• How successful you are in achieving your goals.

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Where does Self Esteem originate?
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Family

• If you grew up in a basically positive
  psychological environment then you tend to feel
  good about yourself.
  
• If you were exposed to larger doses of put-downs
  and belittlers, your set of self beliefs may be
  dim.

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Peers Society
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Comparisons

• When we measure ourselves or others measure us
  against other people or external standards

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Media
magazines
TV
Music stars
movies
Fashion designers
Music videos
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Common effects of low Self-esteem

• Lack of self confidence
• Poor performance
• Distorted view of self and others
• Unhappy personal life

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Effect of low Self-esteem
Feeling of

• NOT GOOD ENOUGH

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WORDS HAVE POWER
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EMOTO

• Japanese scientist
• Earth ¾ water
• Humans 70 water
• Water energy, vibration
• High powered microscope/camera
• Frozen water crystals

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Love and Gratitude
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YOU MAKE ME SICK
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ANGEL
DEMON
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PEACE
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MERCI(thank you)
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Emoto
Talk to the Rice
Ignored
You stink!
Thank you!
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THINK ABOUT IT!
If you accept that WORDS HAVE POWER.. what wou
ld you do differently?
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To improve self-esteem, give yourself

• Acceptance
  of strengths/weaknesses
  
• Help
  set realistic goals. Learn new
  skills
  
• Trust
  pay attention to your
  thoughts/feelings
  
• Respect
  be proud of who you are. Be
  yourself.
  
• Encouragement
  take a can do attitude.
  
• Praise
  take pride in your achievements.
  
• Love
  love the unique
  person you are.

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Improving self-esteem

• LETTING GO of need for APPROVAL from others

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The more positive you feel about yourself, the
more

• Effective
• Productive
• Capable
• Loveable

You will feel
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The more negative feelings you have about
yourself, the more

• Ineffective
• Worthless
• Incompetent
• Unloved

You will feel
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Change negative thoughts to positive thoughts

• No one loves me.
• Im ugly.
• Im dumb.
• Im boring.
• I cant learn.
• I dont care.

• I have supportive friends/family.
• I m pretty.
• Im smart.
• Im a fun person.
• I learn from my mistakes.
• I do care about myself others.

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IMPROVING SELF-ESTEEM

• BASIC PREMISE
• The individual is the ONLY source of their
  self-esteem.
  
• The individual is the ONLY one who has the power
  to them feel good enough about themselves.

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CLOSING THOUGHTS

• Self-concepts are LEARNED, not genetic
• Because self concept is learned, a bad self
  concept can be UNLEARNED!

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CLOSING THOUGHTS

• You can be pleased with nothing when you are not
  pleased with yourself.
  
• Lady Mary Montague