Parents Pupu Platter

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Parents Pupu Platter
An OHA Parenting Project
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Parents Pupu Platter
Session Two Communicating Effectively with
Your ChildBuilding Relationships and Setting
Boundaries
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Olelo Noeau
He aalii ku makani mai au aohe makani nana
e kulai.
I am a wind resisting aalii. No gale can push
me over. I can hold my own in the face of
difficulties.
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Session Objectives
Topics covered in this session will help you
use key verbal strategies to set expectations and
resolve conflicts with your child.
identify verbal and nonverbal communication
skills that support relationship building.
identify key community resources available for
family and parenting support.
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Ground Rules

• Privacy
• Respect

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Spaghetti Tower
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The Spaghetti Tower
Your challenge Build the tallest free standing
spaghetti tower
000200 minutes You can speak to each other,
but you CANNOT touch the materials
201600 minutes You can touch the materials,
but you CANNOT speak to each other
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The Spaghetti Tower

• What was the easiest part of this activity?
• What was the most frustrating?
• 3) How did you communicate without words?
• 4) Did group members respond differently?
• 5) How do you feel about your teams tower?

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Communication
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Practical Communication Tips
Practice on easy messages
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Practical Communication Tips
Practice on easy messages
Make sure someones home
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Practical Communication Tips
Practice on easy messages
Make sure someones home
Encourage reflection expression
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Practical Communication Tips
Practice on easy messages
Make sure someones home
Encourage reflection expression
Use public and private comments wisely
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Practical Communication Tips
Practice on easy messages
Make sure someones home
Encourage reflection expression
Use public and private comments wisely
Understand and avoid the coercive cycle
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The Coercive Cycle
Adult makes request
Child reacts with hostility
Child doesnt do what was asked
Adult reacts with hostility or withdraws
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RPM3
Respond
Prevent
Monitor
Mentor
Model
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RESPOND
1) RespondDont React
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RESPOND
1) RespondDont React
2) Respond Appropriately
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PREVENT
1) Learn To Spot Possible Problems
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PREVENT
1) Learn To Spot Possible Problems
2) Learn To Work through Problems
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MONITOR
1) Be Aware
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MONITOR
1) Be Aware
2) Set LimitsDont Be Too Rigid
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MENTOR
1) Guide.
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MENTOR
1) Guide.
2) Work together.
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MODEL
1) Do as you say
AND say as you do.
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MODEL
1) Do as you say
AND say as you do.
2) Perfection IS NOT the goal.
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The Biggest Messages
1) Love/Support
2) Try
Try Again
Again
Again
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Activity
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Personal Reflection
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Small Group
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Small Group

• What was one of your biggest discoveries so far?
• Looking back, what personality traits did you see
  as your group communicated to build your
  spaghetti tower?
• What is a communication challenge in your family?
  Brainstorm with others on how you can address the
  challenge.

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Hailono
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Hailono Telling the News

• What were common themes you discovered within
  your group?
• Did your group have any a-ha moments?

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Community Resources
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Closing/Evaluation
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Parents Pupu Platter
Session Two Communicating Effectively with
Your ChildBuilding Relationships and Setting
Boundaries
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