We Want our Children to be Saved!

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We Want our Children to be Saved!

• The prayer of ever godly parent is that their
  children may go to heaven.

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We Want our Children to be Saved!

• The prayer of ever godly parent is that their
  children may go to heaven.
• Today a large percentage of our young people
  raised by Christians have either never obeyed the
  gospel or are falling away.

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We Want our Children to be Saved!

• The prayer of ever godly parent is that their
  children may go to heaven.
• Today a large percentage of our young people
  raised by Christians have either never obeyed the
  gospel or are falling away.
• A good number of parents follow their children in
  departing from the Lord.

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We Want our Children to be Saved!

• Some raise all of their children to be faithful.
  What makes the difference?

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There are few griefs greater than seeing ones
child forsake the Lord

• (Prov 101 1721, 25 1913) - This is a pain
  that does not go away.

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There are few griefs greater than seeing ones
child forsake the Lord

• Proverbs 101 (NKJV) - The proverbs of Solomon
  A wise son makes a glad father, But a foolish son
  is the grief of his mother.

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There are few griefs greater than seeing ones
child forsake the Lord

• Proverbs 1721 (NKJV) - He who begets a scoffer
  does so to his sorrow, And the father of a fool
  has no joy.

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There are few griefs greater than seeing ones
child forsake the Lord

• Proverbs 1725 (NKJV) - A foolish son is a grief
  to his father, And bitterness to her who bore
  him.

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There are few griefs greater than seeing ones
child forsake the Lord

• Proverbs 1913 (NKJV) - A foolish son is the ruin
  of his father, And the contentions of a wife are
  a continual dripping.

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There are few griefs greater than seeing ones
child forsake the Lord

• The goal of this material is to gain the wisdom
  from the scriptures on how to
  raise godly children.

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There are few griefs greater than seeing ones
child forsake the Lord

• Above all let us learn more and encourage those
  parents who have children in the home.

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There are few griefs greater than seeing ones
child forsake the Lord

• Above all let us learn more and encourage those
  parents who have children in the home.
• There are few joys greater than seeing ones
  children grow to be servants of God.

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There are few griefs greater than seeing ones
child forsake the Lord

• Above all let us learn more and encourage those
  parents who have children in the home.
• There are few joys greater than seeing ones
  children grow to be servants of God.
• (Prov 2324-25) - We need to make this our
  determined goal!

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There are few griefs greater than seeing ones
child forsake the Lord

• Proverbs 2324-25 (NKJV) - The father of the
  righteous will greatly rejoice, And he who begets
  a wise child will delight in him. 25 Let your
  father and your mother be glad, And let her who
  bore you rejoice.

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There are few griefs greater than seeing ones
child forsake the Lord

• (Prov 226) - We must believe that this goal is
  possible.

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There are few griefs greater than seeing ones
child forsake the Lord

• Proverbs 226 (NKJV) - Train up a child in the
  way he should go, And when he is old he will not
  depart from it.

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There are few griefs greater than seeing ones
child forsake the Lord

• After setting this lofty goal, what kind of
  commitment is necessary to see it accomplished?
  (Luke 1428-30)

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There are few griefs greater than seeing ones
child forsake the Lord

• Luke 1428-30 (NKJV) - For which of you,
  intending to build a tower, does not sit down
  first and count the cost, whether he has enough
  to finish it29 lest, after he has laid the
  foundation, and is not able to finish, all who
  see it begin to mock him, 30 saying, This man
  began to build and was not able to finish.

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There are few griefs greater than seeing ones
child forsake the Lord

• How do we find the strength to accomplish this?
  (1 John 54-5)

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There are few griefs greater than seeing ones
child forsake the Lord

• 1 John 54-5 (NKJV) - For whatever is born of God
  overcomes the world. And this is the victory that
  has overcome the worldour faith. 5 Who is he who
  overcomes the world, but he who believes that
  Jesus is the Son of God?

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Some things parents must become.

• You must be a Christian with a strong faith. (2
  Tim 15)

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Some things parents must become.

• 2 Timothy 15 (NKJV) - when I call to remembrance
  the genuine faith that is in you, which dwelt
  first in your grandmother Lois and your mother
  Eunice, and I am persuaded is in you also.

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Some things parents must become.

• You cannot instill in a child that which you do
  not live!

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Some things parents must become.

• Many Christians have deceived themselves into
  accepting a worldly lifestyle while viewing
  themselves as faithful. Your children will see
  the difference and be discouraged.
  (2 Cor 135)

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Some things parents must become.

• 2 Corinthians 135 (NKJV) - Examine yourselves as
  to whether you are in the faith. Test yourselves.
  Do you not know yourselves, that Jesus Christ is
  in you?unless indeed you are disqualified.

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Some things parents must become.

• In order to have a biblical faith, your faith
  must cost you dearly. In some cases it may be
  that the parent has never become a Christian.
  (Luke 1433)

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Some things parents must become.

• Luke 1433 (NKJV) - So likewise, whoever of you
  does not forsake all that he has cannot be My
  disciple.

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Some things parents must become.

• The goal of a parent is to teach their children
  about the God who loves them and for Whom we
  ourselves should lay our lives down. (Rev 210)

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Some things parents must become.

• Revelation 210 (NKJV) - Do not fear any of those
  things which you are about to suffer. Indeed, the
  devil is about to throw some of you into prison,
  that you may be tested, and you will have
  tribulation ten days. Be faithful until death,
  and I will give you the crown of life.

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Some things parents must become.

• You must be knowledgeable in what is right and
  wrong.

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Some things parents must become.

• (Heb 512-14) - If we have a strong faith, we
  will grow to be able to see the deceitful traps
  of Satan.

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Some things parents must become.

• Hebrews 512-14 (NKJV) - For though by this time
  you ought to be teachers, you need someone to
  teach you again the first principles of the
  oracles of God and you have come to need milk
  and not solid food. 13 For everyone who partakes
  only of milk is unskilled in the word of
  righteousness, for he is a babe.

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Some things parents must become.

• 14 But solid food belongs to those who are of
  full age, that is, those who by reason of use
  have their senses exercised to discern both good
  and evil.

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Some things parents must become.

• We must understand that not everything is spelled
  out in black and white. We must make wise
  decisions. (Gal 521)

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Some things parents must become.

• Galatians 521 (NKJV) - envy, murders,
  drunkenness, revelries, and the like of which I
  tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in
  time past, that those who practice such things
  will not inherit the kingdom of God.

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Some things parents must become.

• This requires a daily effort to discern and prove
  what is right. (Rom 121-2 1 Thess 521)

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Some things parents must become.

• Romans 121-2 (NKJV) - I beseech you therefore,
  brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present
  your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable
  to God, which is your reasonable service. 2 And
  do not be conformed to this world, but be
  transformed by the renewing of your mind, that
  you may prove what is that good and acceptable
  and perfect will of God.

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Some things parents must become.

• 1 Thessalonians 521 (NKJV) - Test all things
  hold fast what is good.

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Some things parents must become.

• The weak Christian cannot clearly see the
  pitfalls of sin for their lives nor for their
  children.

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Some things parents must become.

• The weak Christian cannot clearly see the
  pitfalls of sin for their lives nor for their
  children.
• Sadly, some will view strong Christians as unduly
  limiting their children.

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Some things parents must become.

• Some will even go to the point of expressing
  gossip and criticism towards
  those parents who try to warn them.

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Some things parents must become.

• Some will even go to the point of expressing
  gossip and criticism towards
  those parents who try to warn them.
• In other cases, the weak may actually encourage
  their children in those things which are wrong.

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Some things parents must become.

• In matters of right and wrong we will be tested
  severely. We need to fight the battle to know
  what the Bible teaches before the emotional times
  of pressing personal decisions. (Dan 18 Josh
  2415)

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Some things parents must become.

• Daniel 18 (NKJV) - But Daniel purposed in his
  heart that he would not defile himself with the
  portion of the kings delicacies, nor with the
  wine which he drank therefore he requested of
  the chief of the eunuchs that he might not defile
  himself.

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Some things parents must become.

• Joshua 2415 (NKJV) - And if it seems evil to you
  to serve the Lord, choose for yourselves this day
  whom you will serve, whether the gods which your
  fathers served that were on the other side of the
  River, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land
  you dwell. But as for me and my house, we will
  serve the Lord.

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Some things parents must become.

• While we need to keep a heart open to the word of
  God so we may correct any beliefs held that are
  wrong. We must not be constantly vacillating.

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Some things parents must become.

• While we need to keep a heart open to the word of
  God so we may correct any beliefs held that are
  wrong. We must not be constantly vacillating.
• Our children will see this and our influence will
  be negated.

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Some things parents must become.

• While we need to keep a heart open to the word of
  God so we may correct any beliefs held that are
  wrong. We must not be constantly vacillating.
• Our children will see this and our influence will
  be negated.
• Let us be consistent. When should openly confess
  when we are wrong.

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Some things parents must become.

• You must have a will to stand firm and exercise
  discipline.

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Some things parents must become.

• You must have a will to stand firm and exercise
  discipline.
• This discipline is an outgrowth of Gods love.
  (Heb 125-11)

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Some things parents must become.

• Hebrews 125-11 (NKJV) - And you have forgotten
  the exhortation which speaks to you as to sons
  My son, do not despise the chastening of the
  Lord, Nor be discouraged when you are rebuked by
  Him 6 For whom the Lord loves He chastens, And
  scourges every son whom He receives. 7 If you
  endure chastening, God deals with you as with
  sons for what son is there whom a father does
  not chasten?

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Some things parents must become.

• 8 But if you are without chastening, of which all
  have become partakers, then you are illegitimate
  and not sons. 9 Furthermore, we have had human
  fathers who corrected us, and we paid them
  respect. Shall we not much more readily be in
  subjection to the Father of spirits and live? 10
  For they indeed for a few days chastened us as
  seemed best to them, but He for our profit, that
  we may be partakers of His holiness.

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Some things parents must become.

• 11 Now no chastening seems to be joyful for the
  present, but painful nevertheless, afterward it
  yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness to
  those who have been trained by it.

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Some things parents must become.

• We must be willing to speak the truth and
  discipline when it is not easy. (Mark 1021-22)

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Some things parents must become.

• Mark 1021-22 (NKJV) - Then Jesus, looking at
  him, loved him, and said to him, One thing you
  lack Go your way, sell whatever you have and
  give to the poor, and you will have treasure in
  heaven and come, take up the cross, and follow
  Me. 22 But he was sad at this word, and went
  away sorrowful, for he had great possessions.

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Some things parents must become.

• We must never be blind to our childs faults! If
  we do, who will be the loser?

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Some things parents must become.

• We must never be blind to our childs faults! If
  we do, who will be the loser?
• We must communicate in discipline. (Eph 64)

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Some things parents must become.

• Ephesians 64 (NKJV) - And you, fathers, do not
  provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up
  in the training and admonition of the Lord.

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Some things parents must become.

• We need wisdom to know how to work with our child
  at different age levels.

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Some things parents must become.

• We need wisdom to know how to work with our child
  at different age levels.
• Do not discipline your child when you are not in
  control! (Eph 426-27)

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Some things parents must become.

• Ephesians 426-27 (NKJV) - Be angry, and do not
  sin do not let the sun go down on your wrath,
  27 nor give place to the devil.

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Some things parents must become.

• Make sure you have communicated to the child the
  lesson to be learned.

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Some things parents must become.

• Make sure you have communicated to the child the
  lesson to be learned.
• The parent is to raise the child, not the
  opposite! (Prov 2915 312)

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Some things parents must become.

• Proverbs 2915 (NKJV) - The rod and rebuke give
  wisdom, But a child left to himself brings shame
  to his mother.

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Some things parents must become.

• Proverbs 312 (NKJV) - For whom the Lord loves He
  corrects, Just as a father the son in whom he
  delights.

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Some things parents must become.

• You must be committed to practicing Gods will in
  your relationship to your mate.

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Some things parents must become.

• You must be committed to practicing Gods will in
  your relationship to your mate.
• When a home functions as God wills there is a
  great strength. (Eph 525-33)

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Some things parents must become.

• Ephesians 525, 33 (NKJV) - Husbands, love your
  wives, just as Christ also loved the church and
  gave Himself for her,

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Some things parents must become.

• 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular
  so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife
  see that she respects her husband.

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Some things parents must become.

• The patterns you have with your mate in
  communication, affection, respect, faith in God,
  etc., will have a large impact upon the rest of
  your childs life.

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Some things parents must become.

• The patterns you have with your mate in
  communication, affection, respect, faith in God,
  etc., will have a large impact upon the rest of
  your childs life.
• Uncontrolled anger is devastating to children.
  (Eph 431-32)

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Some things parents must become.

• Ephesians 431-32 (NKJV) - Let all bitterness,
  wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put
  away from you, with all malice. 32And be kind to
  one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one
  another, even as God in Christ forgave you.

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Some things parents must become.

• You must be committed to being a good teacher.
  (Deut 64-9 Eph 64)

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Some things parents must become.

• Deuteronomy 64-9 (NKJV) - Hear, O Israel The
  Lord our God, the Lord is one! 5 You shall love
  the Lord your God with all your heart, with all
  your soul, and with all your strength. 6 And
  these words which I command you today shall be in
  your heart.

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Some things parents must become.

• 7 You shall teach them diligently to your
  children, and shall talk of them when you sit in
  your house, when you walk by the way, when you
  lie down, and when you rise up. 8 You shall bind
  them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as
  frontlets between your eyes. 9 You shall write
  them on the doorposts of your house and on your
  gates.

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Some things parents must become.

• Ephesians 64 (NKJV) - And you, fathers, do not
  provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up
  in the training and admonition of the Lord.

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Some things parents must become.

• You will be a teacher! Be the best you can be.

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Some things parents must become.

• You will be a teacher! Be the best you can be.
• Prepare yourself far ahead of the birth of the
  child to teach.

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Some things parents must become.

• You must put away the schemes of Satan. (James
  313-15)

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Some things parents must become.

• James 313-15 (NKJV) - Who is wise and
  understanding among you? Let him show by good
  conduct that his works are done in the meekness
  of wisdom. 14 But if you have bitter envy and
  self-seeking in your hearts, do not boast and lie
  against the truth. 15 This wisdom does not
  descend from above, but is earthly, sensual,
  demonic.

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Some things parents must become.

• If you become a critic you will embitter your
  children towards Christians.

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Some things parents must become.

• If you become a critic you will embitter your
  children towards Christians.
• Do not be surprised when they take your spirit to
  its logical conclusion.

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Some things parents must become.

• If you become a critic you will embitter your
  children towards Christians.
• Do not be surprised when they take your spirit to
  its logical conclusion.
• (James 317-18) Instill Gods wisdom.

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Some things parents must become.

• James 317-18 (NKJV) - But the wisdom that is
  from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle,
  willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits,
  without partiality and without hypocrisy. 18Now
  the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by
  those who make peace.

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Some things parents must become.

• You must be a couple who will stand united on
  these things. (Luke 16 1 Peter 37)

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Some things parents must become.

• Luke 16 (NKJV) - And they were both righteous
  before God, walking in all the commandments and
  ordinances of the Lord blameless.

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Some things parents must become.

• 1 Peter 37 (NKJV) - Husbands, likewise, dwell
  with them with understanding, giving honor to the
  wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs
  together of the grace of life, that your prayers
  may not be hindered.

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Some things parents must become.

• This would mean marrying a Christian.

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Some things parents must become.

• This would mean marrying a Christian.
• The parents can avoid allowing the child to pit
  one parent against the other.

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Some things parents must become.

• This would mean marrying a Christian.
• The parents can avoid allowing the child to pit
  one parent against the other.
• Let us build a solid faith in our children!

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The wisdom we must seek in our parenting

• Discipline and communication. (James 15)

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The wisdom we must seek in our parenting

• (James 15 NKJV) If any of you lacks wisdom, let
  him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and
  without reproach, and it will be given to him.

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The wisdom we must seek in our parenting

• We should draw on the experience of those wiser
  and more experienced. (Titus 23-5)

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The wisdom we must seek in our parenting

• (Titus 23-5 NKJV) the older women likewise,
  that they be reverent in behavior, not
  slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of
  good things 4 that they admonish the young
  women to love their husbands, to love their
  children, 5 to be discreet, chaste, homemakers,
  good, obedient to their own husbands, that the
  word of God may not be blasphemed.

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The wisdom we must seek in our parenting

• Take advantage of good material written by
  faithful brethren.

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The wisdom we must seek in our parenting

• In the way we teach.

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The wisdom we must seek in our parenting

• In the way we teach.
• Did the nation of Israel teach their kids? What
  kind of teaching did they do?

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The wisdom we must seek in our parenting

• In the way we teach.
• Did the nation of Israel teach their kids? What
  kind of teaching did they do?
• Do we teach our children like the denominations
  do with a catechism, that is give both the
  question and the answer for memorization?

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The wisdom we must seek in our parenting

• Consider the experiment of the college
  sociologist upon his class. The question Does
  tooth brushing cause tooth decay?

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The wisdom we must seek in our parenting

• Consider the experiment of the college
  sociologist upon his class. The question Does
  tooth brushing cause tooth decay?
• Our teaching must be interesting, repetitive and
  emphasized. We should teach our children how to
  think and find the truth!

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The wisdom we must seek in our parenting

• Consider the experiment of the college
  sociologist upon his class. The question Does
  tooth brushing cause tooth decay?
• Our teaching must be interesting, repetitive and
  emphasized. We should teach our children how to
  think and find the truth!
• Many want a teaching process that is as
  effortless as possible.

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The wisdom we must seek in our parenting

• The problem of apostasy in the history of Gods
  people lie here. Satan changes the name of error
  and brethren fall for it because they cannot
  discern. (Example The missionary society,
  instrumental music)

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The wisdom we must seek in our parenting

• In the provisions for good associates of our
  children.

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The wisdom we must seek in our parenting

• In the provisions for good associates of our
  children.
• How we use our homes will make a difference in
  how my child chooses friends! (3 John 4-8)

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The wisdom we must seek in our parenting

• (3 John 14-8 NKJV) I have no greater joy than
  to hear that my children walk in truth. 5
  Beloved, you do faithfully whatever you do for
  the brethren and for strangers, 6 who have
  borne witness of your love before the church. If
  you send them forward on their journey in a
  manner worthy of God, you will do well,

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The wisdom we must seek in our parenting

• 7 because they went forth for His names sake,
  taking nothing from the Gentiles. 8 We
  therefore ought to receive such, that we may
  become fellow workers for the truth.

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The wisdom we must seek in our parenting

• Those that have opened their homes to Christian
  young people in a substantial way will see their
  Children with Christian friends and therefore a
  strong Christian influence at a important time of
  life.

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The wisdom we must seek in our parenting

• In the problems of our child making faith their
  own.

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The wisdom we must seek in our parenting

• In the problems of our child making faith their
  own.
• Most children of Christians will come to the
  point in their lives where they ask Do I
  believe what I do just because of how I was
  raised, or am I really following what is true?

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The wisdom we must seek in our parenting

• In the problems of our child making faith their
  own.
• Most children of Christians will come to the
  point in their lives where they ask Do I
  believe what I do just because of how I was
  raised, or am I really following what is true?
• We must not be afraid of questions nor be alarmed
  when our child is searching.

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The wisdom we must seek in our parenting

• Do not teach him to bury his questions but rather
  teach him how to think!

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The wisdom we must seek in our parenting

• Do not teach him to bury his questions but rather
  teach him how to think!
• Again, we cannot teach our children that which we
  do not do ourselves.

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The wisdom we must seek in our parenting

• Do not teach him to bury his questions but rather
  teach him how to think!
• Again, we cannot teach our children that which we
  do not do ourselves.
• Many have notes that the third generation is very
  likely to fall away because of this.

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The wisdom we must seek in our parenting

• In being consistent!