The Three Major Enemies of Academic Women

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The Three Major Enemies of Academic Women

• Overachieving and Perfectionism
• Guilt
• Lack of Sleep

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The Three Major Enemies of Academic Women

• Overachieving and Perfectionism
• Illustration
• Solution Stop being perfect (god knows men
  arent!)

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Overachieving and Perfectionism

• Just Say NO Sample techniques
• The 24 hour rule
• Dont say yes just because the opportunity sounds
  interesting
• Every yes represents an opportunity cost
• Keep your eye on the ball--what is your ultimate
  goal and how will this opportunity support or
  hinder achievement of this goal?
• Form a just say no support group

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Overachieving and Perfectionism

• Time Management Sample techniques
• Figure out your good and bad times of day
• Reserve hard tasks (writing) for good times
• Mark off your calendar for good times and make
  an inviable appointment with yourself
• Consolidate trivia for bad times
• Return phone calls and e-mail
• Letters of recommendation
• Meetings

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The Three Major Enemies of Academic Women

• 2. Guilt
• Some things ARE worth feeling guilty about
• Not keeping commitments to students, colleagues,
  and family
• Not doing your best (but not perfect) on
  important things
• Striving for perfection on trivial things

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Guilt

• Some things are NOT worth feeling guilty about
• Working and having a family
• Research is clear
• Day care for your children
• Research is clear
• Saying no after the 24 hour rule!
• Setting priorities and boundaries

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The Three Major Enemies of Academic Women

• 3. Lack of sleep and rest
• Research is clear
• Poor judgment
• Poor problem-solving
• Inadequate parenting
• Take time off to rejuvenate and refocus
• Gift to your family
• Gift to your work
• Gift to yourself

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And now, we leave you with

• Caryn and Judys top 10 list of how to do it all!
• 10. Substitute the goal of being professionally
  dressed for merely being clean and dressed at all
• 9. Acquire a purse the size of a small suitcase
  to accommodate all your baby paraphernalia
• 8. Learn to do email with one hand while holding
  a baby in the other

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Caryn and Judys top 10 list of how to do it all!

• 7. Accept the fact that not only do you own a
  SUV but you will eat most of your meals in it
• 6. Wear clothing that looks the same wet or dry
• 5. Keep a jacket in your office for covering up
  baby spit-up stains
• 4. Buy a palm pilot-- not to get organized, but
  so your children can play games on it when you
  have to drag them to a meeting with you

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Caryn and Judys top 10 list of how to do it all!

• 3. Before going to a really important meeting,
  double check that your nursing bra is pulled down
  (shoes that match not required)
• Buy a laptop computer and bring it with you
  wherever you go- -that way you can work on your
  lecture while waiting in the hospital emergency
  room for the doctor to saw the metal soap
  dispenser off your child's finger
• 1. When traveling to a conference and questioned
  by airport security about having too many
  carry-on items, use an imperious tone to explain
  why the breast pump should be an exception and
  threaten to demonstrate

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Moral of C and Js top 10 list

• DONT SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF
• and
• Most of the stuff is small stuff!